Said she was on the pill...

[Cadanance00]

I was talking to my sister last night and found out her bestie had sex with her bf yesterday afternoon and told him she was on the pill, and she really isn't, so they had unprotected sex. I told her that was fucking stupid! She said she can't say that to her bff or she'll stop talking to her about it.

How can she approach her so she'll listen?

[ClaraWho]

Clearly it was a deliberate move on her part, she may WANT to get pregnant. Might be worth anonymously tipping off said boyfriend, but it'll be obvious who told. Idiots will be idiots, and this is why you should know the person completely before you decide to procreate with them....

~ Clara

[Uniquemind]

Clearly it was a deliberate move on her part, she may WANT to get pregnant. Might be worth anonymously tipping off said boyfriend, but it'll be obvious who told. Idiots will be idiots, and this is why you should know the person completely before you decide to procreate with them....

~ Clara

Seconded!

[Cadanance00]

Clearly it was a deliberate move on her part, she may WANT to get pregnant. Might be worth anonymously tipping off said boyfriend, but it'll be obvious who told. Idiots will be idiots, and this is why you should know the person completely before you decide to procreate with them....

~ Clara

Evidently she was afraid he wouldn't if she didn't say she was on the pill as they didn't have a condom. She thinks she's not going to get pregnant. I agree he should be told. Should my sis be the one? Seems like anything's better than her getting pregnant - if she isn't already.

[SethfromMI]

someone should at least let the boy know. that whole situation is messed up. your sister should be able to talk to her friend about stuff like that. if she won't you might have too

[Uniquemind]

Evidently she was afraid he wouldn't if she didn't say she was on the pill as they didn't have a condom. She thinks she's not going to get pregnant. I agree he should be told. Should my sis be the one? Seems like anything's better than her getting pregnant - if she isn't already.

Don't forget there's no planned parenthood support for you in Texas.

The state legislature is trying to control teen sexual behavior by stripping all resources to help with condoms, birth control access, std screenings, and abortion services.

It's too late now, she could get pregnant, and the situation could be already to far gone.

Those kids were not mature because they didn't think things through.

Talk to your sister and make sure she's safe from all this despite hurt her bf caused by cheating.

[AutumnWinds]

I was talking to my sister last night and found out her bestie had sex with her bf yesterday afternoon and told him she was on the pill, and she really isn't, so they had unprotected sex. I told her that was fucking stupid! She said she can't say that to her bff or she'll stop talking to her about it.

How can she approach her so she'll listen?

maybe have her approach it another way and politely tell her that what she is doing isn't fair ot her bf and also is not the best idea for her. sometimes the way you say something is more important even than what you say.

[ClaraWho]

Evidently she was afraid he wouldn't if she didn't say she was on the pill as they didn't have a condom. She thinks she's not going to get pregnant. I agree he should be told. Should my sis be the one? Seems like anything's better than her getting pregnant - if she isn't already.

She sounds extremely immature, so it would probably cost the friendship and start a fight. Maybe she can show her an agonising, uber graphic birth vid on YouTube, followed by a clip on STIs. Might do the trick. But I know too well the whole 'I'm invincible it won't happen to me' mindset...

Your sister has to decide whether she cares enough to get involved and probably lose a friend, or sit back and watch it all go wrong for them both. Wish she may end up feeling extremely guilty about, not an easy position but wish could she live with? Get her to imagine if it were you a girl lied to!

~ Clara

[RiHouse]

Ok, let's just be very clear: your sister is a fucking idiot for doing this. If nothing is done about this multiple people's lives will be ruined. you have to tell the boyfriend, even if it means your sister resents you for the rest of your life, because what she's doing isn't ok.

[LanaPole]

maybe have her approach it another way and politely tell her that what she is doing isn't fair ot her bf and also is not the best idea for her. sometimes the way you say something is more important even than what you say.

I agree with Autumn. tell her nicely that she either really get the pill or get a condom.

[AutumnWinds]

Ok, let's just be very clear: your sister is a fucking idiot for doing this. If nothing is done about this multiple people's lives will be ruined. you have to tell the boyfriend, even if it means your sister resents you for the rest of your life, because what she's doing isn't ok.

well, let's also be clear that his sister is NOT The one doing this. it's her friend. his sis is just curious how to handle telling her friend that this is wrong, which is not an idiot thing to do at all. :)

[RiHouse]

well, let's also be clear that his sister is NOT The one doing this. it's her friend. his sis is just curious how to handle telling her friend that this is wrong, which is not an idiot thing to do at all. :)

Oh dear. I must have misread. Switch out sister for sister's friend.

[AutumnWinds]

Oh dear. I must have misread. Switch out sister for sister's friend.

in that case, we agree. :D

[ClaraWho]

Oh dear. I must have misread. Switch out sister for sister's friend.

There is an edit button.

~ Clara

[Hermes]

It is interesting that this should come up right now as only last night I saw a TV programme looking at promiscuous sex. It was mainly based around the customers of a particular STD clinic but in the example I am thinking of a guy who was arranging one night stands via the Internet had unprotected sex with a girl who said she was on the pill but then a few weeks later contacted him to say she was pregnant. They stayed in touch and a while later she told him she'd had a miscarriage. I began to wonder what had happened and came up with these possibilities:

1. She could have been telling the truth but had been less than diligent about actually taking it. All the official info I have seen says the pill is very effective but that does depend on taking it regularly and not missing days when you are a little distracted.

2. She could have been lying and had decided to try to get pregnant and take the chance that the father would stick around. If he didn't the same family who would have counselled her to avoid getting pregnant may well support her, particularly if they are anti-abortion, and she may also be able to claim benefits.

3. She could have been telling the truth about the pill but lying about the pregnancy and subsequent miscarriage, i.e. the whole thing could have been a test to see how the guy would react and, had he looked liked he might step-up and act like a father, she was then going to actually stop taking the pill and hope to get pregnant on another encounter with him.

Can any of the girls reading identify with any of that?

It does seem to me that as a girl/woman if you have reached the point where you want to settle down with a baby but the guys you meet just want to fuck with no commitment then rather than calling the guys immature and trying to trick them it would be better to seek out someone more mature who wants what you want.

[Uniquemind]

Well at this point I even think "the morning after pill aka: plan B" might not even work.

Too much time has passed.
Hermes no I can't relate personally but it does happen.

Let me also add that the pill won't work if the manufacturer of the pill packages the pills in the wrong order.

Some big pharmaceutical giant got sued because their placebo pills were in the wrong spot.

[gemma 2000]

Wow she taking big risk

[Zachary G]

someone should at least let the boy know. that whole situation is messed up. your sister should be able to talk to her friend about stuff like that. if she won't you might have too

I agree with SethfromMI, someone should let the boy know that he was tricked into having unprotected sex and lied to. Its not fair to him and if your sister wont do it, then you should because its just not right.

[Cadanance00]

She is immature with low self esteem. She wants this boy, thinks he's going to make all her problems go away, didn't have a condom, and he wanted to have sex. She doesn't want to get pregnant, she just doesn't think about consequences. So sis bitched her out about it and the girls says you just don't understand, etc. so they're having a fight. Sis gave her some of my condoms tho, but she says if she gets caught with them she'll get a beating.

[AutumnWinds]

She is immature with low self esteem. She wants this boy, thinks he's going to make all her problems go away, didn't have a condom, and he wanted to have sex. She doesn't want to get pregnant, she just doesn't think about consequences. So sis bitched her out about it and the girls says you just don't understand, etc. so they're having a fight. Sis gave her some of my condoms tho, but she says if she gets caught with them she'll get a beating.

your sis should be proud of herself for being brave enough to do the right thing. please make sure she knows this, even if it doesn't feel that way.

[Cadanance00]

your sis should be proud of herself for being brave enough to do the right thing. please make sure she knows this, even if it doesn't feel that way.

You don't know my sister. She has a strong sense of right and wrong. That['s why she told me about it. I don't know the boy.

its a good thing your sis told her and theres many places to hide condoms where probably would be found, behind a picture or painting in her room kinda stuck in the crevice, wrapped up in underwear in back her drawer, hidden in a old shoe in a closet, ect just make sure there hidden well, and if her parents did find em, just say a friend gave her some so she hid them away

Sis told her to tape them to the underneath of a drawer. LOL. At least she has them now.

[ClaraWho]

You don't know my sister. She has a strong sense of right and wrong. That['s why she told me about it. I don't know the boy.



Sis told her to tape them to the underneath of a drawer. LOL. At least she has them now.

Your sister sounds like my kind of person :3 Well done to her!

~ Clara

[AutumnWinds]

Your sister sounds like my kind of person :3 Well done to her!

~ Clara

Ditto, but she also seems to respect her big brother a lot, and it never hurts to hear from someone you respect that you should be proud of yourself.

[Uniquemind]

The question now is, is her friend already pregnant.

It's been a week since they had unprotected sex.

The next stage is to take a pregnancy test or two.

[ceto2]

I just read this all and Hermes I saw that program too and the first thing I came up with is all the answers u witted it seems right what u z.

[Emerald Dream]

I just read this all and Hermes I saw that program too and the first thing I came up with is all the answers u witted it seems right what u z.

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