Post-break up sexual appetite

[jsands]

Sorry if this is the wrong place and it will probably get flagged but anyway:

I'll start with the fact that I've broken up with my long term girlfriend recently, we use to have regular sex, I mean like all the time she was great for it. And basically I've not actually had to masturbate for about a year, i mean I've not done it myself in that whole time. (I know lucky guy)

But now I've broken up I don't really know what to do with myself, do guys usually just keep not masturbating and saving it all for sex or what? Is it possible to be "over" masturbation and just not do it anymore?

I've also got the problem that I can't say no to her (I mean it's sex, come on!) so when she turned up the other day we ended up doing it again. I'm worried this break up will just get messy and awkward if we keep doing this.

[Cadanance00]

Relax. Sounds like she wants to downgrade it to FWBs. if you're okay with that, no prob.

[SillyShyGuy]

Sounds like you just want to be friends with benefits. I think it is a trap. For one you just broke up, and two you cannot use each other just for making love. Things will get awkward in time. Especially if others find out. I say get used to wanking again because this will lead you down a dark path.

[cra1g]

When I broke up with my girlfriend of two years, I didn't j/o for about 3 months. We also had sex pretty regularly though I did still j/o while we were together. After we broke up though, I just didn't feel like it anymore. I don't know if it was just because sex was so much better, or if I was just sad and felt guilty about hurting her when we broke up, or what, but I didn't j/o at all. The desire to do it will come back though, or it did for me anyways. I still don't do it as much as I used to, but I do it now.

As far as the post-breakup sex/reverting to a FWB situation, I don't think it's a good idea. I saw my ex about a month ago and we ended up kissing and thinking about having sex but we both decided it would hurt us more than it would help. I don't think that having a FWB with an ex-lover will lead to anything but pain and emotional turmoil.

However, this is your decision so do whatever makes you happy. I just wouldn't do it myself as long as I was thinking clearly.

[jsands]

Sounds like you just want to be friends with benefits. I think it is a trap. For one you just broke up, and two you cannot use each other just for making love. Things will get awkward in time. Especially if others find out. I say get used to wanking again because this will lead you down a dark path.

I don't know if we've officially become "FWB" yet, it just seems to be us sort of winding down our relationship. We don't not like each other, if you can understand that, it just doesn't make sense for our relationship to continue and we know that.
But we're so compatible so if we downgrade our relationship I hope it will make it easier. Firstly we've stopped hanging out with the same people as much and spending so much time over each others houses, then eventually we will stop having sex and we can just be regular friends then, hopefully.

[maniamsmart]

What justifies your relationship as a break-up? I could give you a really detailed and accurate answer if I knew a bit more information about the relationship. What you're describing to me doesn't seem like a break-up. I am sort of confused.