Cousin Problem

[RalphRR]

So I'm 14 and he is 13 years old. Ever since mid 2014, I've been having problems with him lately and we've been getting into issues. Our relationship before that was very lil brother and older brother type of feeling, kind of like that best friend feeling. Ive been losing that feeling so often, I just want the old him back were we are able to communicate properly and not just broken or awkward. This Christmas, I gave him three present, a present to say sorry for the damage of this cousin relationship, a Christmas gift and a birthday gift for being a jerk to leave way too early. I even wrote him a page long note on why he is the best.

Sadly, I didn't get to see his reaction because we had to leave early, but he still found his present and was very thankful for it. I did ask him through text on our little issue and he said 'To leave all behind and forget about the past and move on'. The thing is, is how is he suppose to understand what is bothering me so much about him, and I'd like to hear from him on the same matter. Then again, what am I suppose to do? It's so hard to strike up a conversation because he's always with someone else now or it tends to be very awkward. It's a new year and I wanna forgive him, I want to go back to the way things were, even if it has to take a year or two, I don't care. I just need help, because he is like the little brother I don't have and I tend to have that protective feeling about him doing this or that. It's stressing me out on a lot of levels.

[Vermilion]

I think the best option is to talk face to face about the problem even if someone is there. Have you talked to his parents ? Can your family not tell that yous have something wrong going on ?

[Atlantis]

Aye, talking might help. If you talk to your parents, or their parents they may be able to sort something out.

[RalphRR]

My parents already know, they just don't want to bring it up to his parents becuase they may see it as offensive and possible being a bad cousin. His parents already have a feeling and a catch that there is something wrong. I am way to shy to talk to him with everyone around, becuase it either tends to be an awkward situation and everytime we do talk, he kind of breaks it off very quickly. Texting is also not an option, becuase he hates texting, which I think it's odd becuase he does text to his friends constantly, even when us cousins are with him.

[Zachary G]

He says to leave things in the past and move on like it never happened, so it seems to me he has some kind of forgiveness going on that he is willing to look past all that has happened. You have to accept this and move on yourself or there will always be issues between the two of you because of your not being able to let go and move on.

[RalphRR]

Thank you. I'm trying my best to do so, but at the same time, so many things just don't make any sense with his actions. I guess I'm just very curious to see what he thinks of all of this. It just haunts me constantly.