Sex with my Ex....?

[Wonderland13]

Okay, so if you read my last post about the guy I was crushing on and talking too, I kinda lost interest and stuff, but anyway, about a year ago I dated this guy... I swear I was in love with him, the. Again I was only 15 at the time, he told me he loved me and of course I said it back! And tbh, I can't help it but u feel like I still do love him.... (We have never had any sexual contact except for sexting with pictures) back when we were dating we would always make bets on football teams of who would win, and whoever lost the bet would have to kiss the winner,( Which we never went through on any of these bets) We were on and off from August to December of 2014, well, in October of 2015, he started contacting me again, just being friendly, and then we made a bet to where whoever beats each other in boxing has to have sex with the loser, so there will be sex no matter the outcome, we never got around to any of it and stopped talking in late December, a couple days ago he texted me and we have been off and on texting... So if he brings up the sex topic, should I hurry and make plans for it? Or should I just not? I'm so sorry if this is confusing, I'm confused myself... So I have some questions.....

Should I make plans to have sex with him if it comes up?

Should I even have sex with him if he is my ex?

Could this possibly lead to an open door for us getting back together?

I'm still a virgin BTW

[SethfromMI]

well I guess the first question is do you have any desire to even do so? if no, then no you should not do it.

[JessiF]

I wouldnt do it , especially if you are a virgin.
You will know when the time is right and the person is right. The fact that you even have to question to me means the answer is no.

[Uniquemind]

Yeah make sure it's a mutual feeling before sex enters the picture.

If you don't, the confusion you're feeling now will linger after the sex and then you'd have given away your first time sex experience with someone who only "might" want that solid long term monogamous relationship.

If you just want sex though and will have no emotional attachments or emotional baggage then that changes things. But that's not what I'm sensing is the case here for you.

[AutumnWinds]

Okay, so if you read my last post about the guy I was crushing on and talking too, I kinda lost interest and stuff, but anyway, about a year ago I dated this guy... I swear I was in love with him, the. Again I was only 15 at the time, he told me he loved me and of course I said it back! And tbh, I can't help it but u feel like I still do love him.... (We have never had any sexual contact except for sexting with pictures) back when we were dating we would always make bets on football teams of who would win, and whoever lost the bet would have to kiss the winner,( Which we never went through on any of these bets) We were on and off from August to December of 2014, well, in October of 2015, he started contacting me again, just being friendly, and then we made a bet to where whoever beats each other in boxing has to have sex with the loser, so there will be sex no matter the outcome, we never got around to any of it and stopped talking in late December, a couple days ago he texted me and we have been off and on texting... So if he brings up the sex topic, should I hurry and make plans for it? Or should I just not? I'm so sorry if this is confusing, I'm confused myself... So I have some questions.....

Should I make plans to have sex with him if it comes up?

Should I even have sex with him if he is my ex?

Could this possibly lead to an open door for us getting back together?

I'm still a virgin BTW

it's obviously your life, so please understand that your opinion matters much more than mine on the subject.

that being said, i feel like you don't want to have sex with him, and i think that's the right choice here.

if you think you might love him it will only complicate things, and if you do not, it will be a kind of sad way to lost our virginity.

i'd even go as far as o suggest if you get back together with him you hold off on sex for a long while just to make sure this isn't a ploy on his part.

may i ask when and why you started sexting? also, has there been any talk of getting back together, or why things didn't work in the first place?