Confused and Lost - PLEASE help!

[Hero.of.Hyrule]

Hi, so lately i've been extremely confused about myself. I think i'm gay and i think that might be my personality. I am attracted to men but a lot of people say thats a phase. I don't really know what to think about myself. It's like I don't even know me. And for the past two years, this has led me to depression and cutting. My parents don't support gay people at all the people that surround me don't either so, lately i've been struggling to get through everything. I don't know what to do, I don't know who i am. I really do think I am gay but everyone around me tells me that it's sooooooooooo wrong to be gay. Please help me. :(

[ECSTASY]

There is nothing wrong about being gay . I've been in the same situation .
I have spent 6-7 years of my life lying and telling myself "its just a phase " or "I'm not gay" .
I told my parents , it was hard for them , and I guess it still is , to have a gay child in a traditional country .
They didn't really know what to do . They wanted to help me but they didn't know how to .
Things happened to me has caused depression and self harm . I wasn't the happy guy I used to be anymore . Everyone noticed how depressed I was at high school but no one knew why I was that sad . Even now , even though I'm not dealing with depression much anymore , I sometimes feel sad about my past .
If I could accept myself from the first , I wouldn't get into self harming . I wouldn't have the scars on my wrist , and I wouldn't remember my bad memories when I looked at my wrist.
Make sure about your identity first . And remember that takes time to know who you really are .
Don't be sad , you don't have to be straight to be successful in life .
Even the computer you're using right now was invented by a gay guy.
If you respect yourself , the others will respect you too .
As I had the same situation that you're dealing with now , I'd be really glad to help you . I don't want the others to experience what I did . Feel free to leave me a visitor message as you can't PM cause you're new here .

[northy]

I think two years is more than a phase. Embrace what you are, not the ancient attitudes of those around you. If your parents wouldn't support you, don't tell them. Or at least not until your are independent of them. Just remember that they are still your parents and will probably love you no matter what.

[Zachary G]

You have to remember that there will always be people who will not agree with the decisions you make in your life, but that shouldnt have any affect on how you live your life. There are somethings we are not in control of and being attracted to someone is something we have no control over, so if you have a strong attraction for guys then so be it, it is what it is. You are what and who you are and there is no changing that. Despite what your parents may think about gays and other people, doesnt mean that you have to feel the same way about yourself. You are your own person and you have to live your life for you and not anyone else. Your parents may not like the choices you make in life, but they will always love you. Self harming doesnt get you anywhere and doesnt solve any problems, so you might want to rethink that action.

[Bluebyrd]

Ignore everybody else. You're the one that matters. Remember, there's nothing wrong with being gay. And don't think you need to come out because you don't, you can just be gay without anyone knowing. Be yourself!