need advice...

[ethan-s]

So, first let me give you some background. I'm 15, straight, Christian, homeschooled, and live in the country. About 3.5 years ago, I met this gal at a church meeting. I didn't think much of her at first, but she grew on me. Fast forward about a year, her family got some property 2 doors over from me. Well, I live on a farm, and we have pigs, and they have a milk cow. They skim some of the milk, so it has almost no drinking value, so they give it to us to feed to the pigs. Every week or so, I would drive a 4 wheeler over there and pick up the milk. This was the only time I saw her as both our family's left that church. In order to get to her house, I had to go thru someone else's property, which wasn't a huge deal because that person knew that they could go thru ours if needed. More on that later.

So, about 5 months ago, I started seeing her way less than before as she was in other programs and things. Soon, I only saw her once every month or so. Also, the dude who's property I went thru put it in some government program so I couldn't go thru there anymore. So now my folks have to drive me over there to get the milk. Well dang, there goes any chance of a relationship as my folks have an annoying habit of watching me like a hawk. I can't even ask her if she likes me or not because of said habit, not to mention they want to get out of there as fast as possible for whatever reason. We are now at the current point in time. I virtually never see her, and any chance of telling her the secret is gone.

I'm pretty sure she likes me, and I KNOW I like her, but what do I do? I'm sure I could find ways to sneak over there as it is in walking distance. My fear is, that my folks will say I'm too young, or find some other excuse, also, I have a feeling that her folks will definitely say no to a relationship because she is at least 3 years younger. I know that sounds strange, and maybe it is, you tell me.


thoughts?

[Uniquemind]

Tough, when you knew her in church you should've exchanged emails.

Next time you see her you're going to have to be bold enough to see her face to face and give her your email address so you can have some kind of stable communication with her.

This is a hard situation due to circumstance.

How old are each of you respectively?

[ethan-s]

thanks for the reply.

about the email thing. her folks are extremely conservative, and i dont think she has email yet.

im currently 15 for all effective purposes, and she is 12 almost 13.

[Uniquemind]

thanks for the reply.

about the email thing. her folks are extremely conservative, and i dont think she has email yet.

im currently 15 for all effective purposes, and she is 12 almost 13.

Then play the waiting game and wait until both of you are older.

If you know her address and your penmanship is good, there's always old school letters like they did before internet.

As for conservatism in households to this degree, I'm very against it, nevertheless you're going to have to face her parents sometime.

Avoidance is not a winning strategy, you got to just endure and have a what the heck attitude when it comes to getting to know a romantic interest at first.

[ethan-s]

Again, thanks for the input.

Did i mention i sort of.want to keep any relationship under the radar? Im on mobipe now so ill explain more later.

[AutumnWinds]

have you tried to get her number or email yer?


So, first let me give you some background. I'm 15, straight, Christian, homeschooled, and live in the country. About 3.5 years ago, I met this gal at a church meeting. I didn't think much of her at first, but she grew on me. Fast forward about a year, her family got some property 2 doors over from me. Well, I live on a farm, and we have pigs, and they have a milk cow. They skim some of the milk, so it has almost no drinking value, so they give it to us to feed to the pigs. Every week or so, I would drive a 4 wheeler over there and pick up the milk. This was the only time I saw her as both our family's left that church. In order to get to her house, I had to go thru someone else's property, which wasn't a huge deal because that person knew that they could go thru ours if needed. More on that later.

So, about 5 months ago, I started seeing her way less than before as she was in other programs and things. Soon, I only saw her once every month or so. Also, the dude who's property I went thru put it in some government program so I couldn't go thru there anymore. So now my folks have to drive me over there to get the milk. Well dang, there goes any chance of a relationship as my folks have an annoying habit of watching me like a hawk. I can't even ask her if she likes me or not because of said habit, not to mention they want to get out of there as fast as possible for whatever reason. We are now at the current point in time. I virtually never see her, and any chance of telling her the secret is gone.

I'm pretty sure she likes me, and I KNOW I like her, but what do I do? I'm sure I could find ways to sneak over there as it is in walking distance. My fear is, that my folks will say I'm too young, or find some other excuse, also, I have a feeling that her folks will definitely say no to a relationship because she is at least 3 years younger. I know that sounds strange, and maybe it is, you tell me.


thoughts?

[Uniquemind]

Again, thanks for the input.

Did i mention i sort of.want to keep any relationship under the radar? Im on mobipe now so ill explain more later.

No you didn't mention that clearly enough. It came across that you were just shy.