Long term break up

[jsands]

Hi I'm new here and I want to talk about my breakup.
I'm 18 and I've been going out with this girl (17) for about 1.5 years, recently I got admitted into an American University and I move out in the summer (I know, AMAZING!) but I didn't know how to tell my girlfriend.
Well it all came out the other day when my mum asked and I hadn't even told her by this point, she was really upset but I kept telling her we still have a long time together.
I'm just not sure where I want this to go now that I know I'm moving, I had a really good time for a while but I'm not in love with her and don't want to lead her on. But I still want to be friends, we have so much fun together and can spend days together so we are very comfortable. I just don't know what to do about how I go about it.

[SillyShyGuy]

Wow to date someone you are not in love with is pretty messed up. Why date her if you do not want to lead her on. If you do not have strong feelings for her then I guess just tell her and be honest with her.

[Vanilla Cupcake]

I would just tell her outright that you are moving because you got into university and wait for her response. I'm sure the topic will come up, "what do we do now" etc.

[AutumnWinds]

Wow to date someone you are not in love with is pretty messed up. Why date her if you do not want to lead her on. If you do not have strong feelings for her then I guess just tell her and be honest with her.

i don't think he's wrong to do this. i;m not sure you can really truly be in love with someone until you know how they behave romantically, and i don't think you can do that until you date them.

[Uranus]

I agree. You should probably tell her you're going to college that's rather far. And I'm pretty sure the topic will come up about dating. And you're just going to have to be honest and tell her.

[jsands]

I've been with her this weekend and told her all about me getting into university and about me moving away, I think she took it kind of well actually. But we also kinda had sex which I don't think really plays well into the whole "we're broken up" thing

[Uniquemind]

I've been with her this weekend and told her all about me getting into university and about me moving away, I think she took it kind of well actually. But we also kinda had sex which I don't think really plays well into the whole "we're broken up" thing

There's such a thing as "goodbye sex" though so you never know.

[AutumnWinds]

I've been with her this weekend and told her all about me getting into university and about me moving away, I think she took it kind of well actually. But we also kinda had sex which I don't think really plays well into the whole "we're broken up" thing

did you tel her that you were ending the relationship? i just wonder if she might think you wanna do a long distance thing.

[jsands]

did you tel her that you were ending the relationship? i just wonder if she might think you wanna do a long distance thing.

Yes I've definitely told her that what we have couldn't work in the longterm and that there is no point putting off our inevitable break up, still, she seemed to take it well

[AutumnWinds]

that's great if she took it that well. it;s always nice when you can part ways on good terms. :)