AstroChris
January 14th, 2016, 08:00 PM
I have been sort of an aquaintance of this girl for a while, and haven't really thought much of it. I knew she was pretty, and I thought it would have been pretty cool to get to know her, but nothing more than that. Also, she had recently dated (it wasn't technically official) one of my friends, and another one of my friends had recently made a move on her (after the breakup) and been turned down. There is now no awkwardness between her and any of my friends, so it was all good for a while. My feelings towards her changed about 3 months ago when I went on a youth fall retreat with my church and she was there too. All of my friends were there (including the two I spoke of earlier) as well. On that weekend, it seemed to me that me and here really hit it off. We talked a lot, and she actually helped me a lot emotionally because one of my friends was in the hospital, and she was friends with them too, so she helped me through that. Even more so, it was super cold that weekend, and she would hold on to me and put her head on my shoulder when she walked with me. I realized that I really liked her a lot, and was pretty excited because this is the first girl that I have ever really legitimately had a chance with. Since then we have kept talking and have sat together in youth and in the church service. After a while I decided to invite her to go see the new Star Wars movie, to which she said yes. But then it didn't work out. We rescheduled, and it didn't work out again. We then again rescheduled, and this time she asked if we should invite others. I said sure because I didn't really mean for it to be a date, just a get to know you kind of thing. But the other people couldn't come, so she said that we should wait until other people could come. Then one of my friend texted me and told me she had told him she wasn't looking for a relationship and didn't want to lead me on. I was pretty bummed, and I'm not so sad anymore because we have kept talking. But recently she invited me to come to her chorus concert, and I said I would come. Well it was today, and when she found out no one else could come she told me that it would be super boring and I wouldn't enjoy it. I took the hint and said I wouldn't go. I'm not sure what to think anymore, because when I text/snapchat her she always seems into me and when we are together it's the same way. I want to talk to her about it, but I don't want to ruin what could be a great future as just friends. I do know that being just friends with someone you REALLY like is awful, I know that from something that just ended a few weeks ago. But it hasn't gone that far yet. If you have read this far I just want to say thank you, because this was really all over the place. But before you go I just have two questions. The first is just because she isn't looking for a relationship right now, does that mean she doesn't like me as any more than a friend, and I should just give up? And the second is what should I make of her not wanting to hang out with just me? Any insight is appreciated! Thank you!