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January 14th, 2016, 04:30 PM
So I am pretty dang bored and feeling like life is pointless. I think a romantic partner/interest could help probably.
I would like to have children some day and help them grow up, preferably without inheriting my pessimism, depressive mindset, lack of confidence and self-esteem, etc. I learn all this crap in school and read and stuff thinking "I can teach this to my kids someday and they'll be hella smart." But you know what? I think I might be alone forever.
I am 19 and have never come even close to a girlfriend, never kissed anyone, never had sex, never even truly flirted with anyone. Doesn't help that I'm bisexual and have been hiding (ignoring?) my strong attraction to guys since the 6th grade.
There is a girl at college I find attractive. I had her for a group project and got her # because of that and started texting her every now and again. She would respond but we never had chances to talk much IRL. Even then, she never really seemed interested. During our group's presentation, she was staring a lot during my part but I assume it was because I was talking. She looked a lot when we were walking back to the dorms too. At the end of last semester, I sent a text when I got home saying that I hope she enjoyed her semester and has a nice break. No response. I texted in the middle of the break asking how her break was going. No response. I texted about 5 days ago with a funny story I found. No response. Awesome:confused:
I just can't tell when people are interested. My very sexy best friend gets checked out all the time and I notice it like every time. Yet I can never notice when people do it to me which has led me to believe it just doesn't happen much. I'm not surprised...I'm not attractive I don't think. But if that's the case, how do I attract people??? How do I know someone is interested or thinks I'm attractive?
And lastly, HOW DO I FLIRT? I'm not a socially awkward person and interact with people just fine (I think?). If they're not responding or talking as much however (kinda like that girl I mentioned) I start to think I'm boring them or they don't like my personality or something and get nervous. But yeah I can talk to people, even girls/guys I find attractive, all day, but how do I go beyond that? How do I let them know I'm interested and then get them interested to? HOW? Is there a secret to it or is it supposed to just happen naturally? I feel like I'm friend-zoning myself.
TL;DR--->Teach me how to recognize when people are attracted to me and how to make more people attracted to me. Then, teach me how to be flirty and not just make a s***load of friends.
I would like to have children some day and help them grow up, preferably without inheriting my pessimism, depressive mindset, lack of confidence and self-esteem, etc. I learn all this crap in school and read and stuff thinking "I can teach this to my kids someday and they'll be hella smart." But you know what? I think I might be alone forever.
I am 19 and have never come even close to a girlfriend, never kissed anyone, never had sex, never even truly flirted with anyone. Doesn't help that I'm bisexual and have been hiding (ignoring?) my strong attraction to guys since the 6th grade.
There is a girl at college I find attractive. I had her for a group project and got her # because of that and started texting her every now and again. She would respond but we never had chances to talk much IRL. Even then, she never really seemed interested. During our group's presentation, she was staring a lot during my part but I assume it was because I was talking. She looked a lot when we were walking back to the dorms too. At the end of last semester, I sent a text when I got home saying that I hope she enjoyed her semester and has a nice break. No response. I texted in the middle of the break asking how her break was going. No response. I texted about 5 days ago with a funny story I found. No response. Awesome:confused:
I just can't tell when people are interested. My very sexy best friend gets checked out all the time and I notice it like every time. Yet I can never notice when people do it to me which has led me to believe it just doesn't happen much. I'm not surprised...I'm not attractive I don't think. But if that's the case, how do I attract people??? How do I know someone is interested or thinks I'm attractive?
And lastly, HOW DO I FLIRT? I'm not a socially awkward person and interact with people just fine (I think?). If they're not responding or talking as much however (kinda like that girl I mentioned) I start to think I'm boring them or they don't like my personality or something and get nervous. But yeah I can talk to people, even girls/guys I find attractive, all day, but how do I go beyond that? How do I let them know I'm interested and then get them interested to? HOW? Is there a secret to it or is it supposed to just happen naturally? I feel like I'm friend-zoning myself.
TL;DR--->Teach me how to recognize when people are attracted to me and how to make more people attracted to me. Then, teach me how to be flirty and not just make a s***load of friends.