Sex at young age

[Jollyguy]

Hello guys! So i've been with this girl for a while now and feel like I might want to have sex. The problem is i'm 13. People say it's wayyy to young, but I feel like it's more about maturity. By the way, we're both 13, and we live in Canada so it isn't illegal, and I have condoms.

What do you guys think?

[redrider12]

It is too early, almost objectively. Your desire to have sex almost certainly is entirely hormonal. At 13, most guys are just barely into puberty. Hormones are raging like crazy. Just because you physically can penetrate her doesn't mean you should yet.

[Jollyguy]

It's not just about the raging hormones, we've been together for a long time and I really do love her..

[Straya]

Hello guys! So i've been with this girl for a while now and feel like I might want to have sex. The problem is i'm 13. People say it's wayyy to young, but I feel like it's more about maturity. By the way, we're both 13, and we live in Canada so it isn't illegal, and I have condoms.

What do you guys think?

if you both think your ready and want to do it then go ahead i lost mine at a young age and dont regret it

[AutumnWinds]

It's not just about the raging hormones, we've been together for a long time and I really do love her..

how long have you been together?

and honestly, it's your life. you're certainly young, but only you can decide if that means you're not ready. :)

[Bluebyrd]

I disagree with what Mark said. If you want to like you said and if she wants to, then go for it! Just make sure you use a condom correctly because I don't think you want to get her pregnant!

[Beach_Blonde]

I think age isn't really a factor. Ifgyuu think your ready then no one is going to stop you from doing it anyway. However I think you should make sure she feels the same way. And if she doesn't you should respect her decision and not pressure her. Sex does take a relationship to another level but it can also destroy it. Be care ful. And you should use a condom.

[Vlerchan]

It's not just about the raging hormones, we've been together for a long time and I really do love her..
What's a "long time" when you're 13?

The fact that was placed before the fact that you love her seems like an indication that whatever the time period is it fits with whatever your peers are doing. The fact that's it's being used as a justification at all makes me wonder if this is being considered for the right reasons at all. I'm not going to pretend I can give a proper answer as to whether it's right or wrong - I'd be regretting it if I'd had sex at 13 though - but I will suggest having a proper thought about what sex and this girl means to you:

That's not something a teen forum can answer.

[RiHouse]

I personally think it's fine, just as long as you're both comfortable with it. I lost my virginity at your age and I'm fine with it, and so is the person I did it with.

[ClaraWho]

This is one of those subjects that for some people takes hindsight to realise how bad an idea it is, or how much they'll regret it.

~ Clara

[hairy palmer]

just remember the earlier u start sumthin the longer ull be doin it. just dont go so sick that ur burnt out n over it by the time its ur 21st lol

[Uranus]

Just because it's legal. Doesn't make it appropriate.

[Babs]

I'm not sure about in Canada, but in the US - and I don't think the sex laws differ drastically between the two countries - it's illegal to have sex when under the age of consent, period. Meaning that it's illegal for the two of you to have sex, even if you are both underage. I'm pretty sure it's the same in Canada, but you should look into that.

imo, 13 is a little early to be having sex, even if you think you're mature enough. It's entirely up to you, but if you're doubtful - which I think you are, otherwise you wouldn't have posted this thread - you should probably wait.

[ethan-s]

Hello guys! So i've been with this girl for a while now and feel like I might want to have sex. The problem is i'm 13. People say it's wayyy to young, but I feel like it's more about maturity. By the way, we're both 13, and we live in Canada so it isn't illegal, and I have condoms.

What do you guys think?

Look, i dont think you should do it. Im 14 going on 15 and i can say with confidence, that i want to have sex too. BUT, i cant because 1)im not ready, 2) im christian,3) i dont really have.a.girl lol. Dont do it. If you insist on that sort of thing, start with wanking or oral, nothing penitrative for a.couple years. Also, make sure she is ready for whatever you do.

[SillyShyGuy]

Well it is very good that you are mature about the subject and I applaud you for taking precautions by having condoms available. I think if you are ready and you care a great deal about each other there should be no harm in it. However, at thirteen years of age I seriously doubt your bodies are potent or able to do such a performance. Your genitals are not fully developed. Your winky is probably too small and her privates are not ready for that kind of action silly

[Vanilla Cupcake]

I think if you both feel comfortable and you have protection why not? Have fun, explore, learn, and be safe!

[Daily]

Theres no predator age gap so I say go for it!

[Uniquemind]

Hello guys! So i've been with this girl for a while now and feel like I might want to have sex. The problem is i'm 13. People say it's wayyy to young, but I feel like it's more about maturity. By the way, we're both 13, and we live in Canada so it isn't illegal, and I have condoms.

What do you guys think?

I'd hold off for now. Wanting it is one thing, being ready for both the act itself and it's consequences is another scenario altogether, even if pregnancy and STD's don't happen.

There's a deep shift in the emotional bonds between a couple, or even two people who are the other's first sexual intercourse partner, double that if you are each other's mutual first sex.

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I disagree with some posts above who said physically you probably aren't developed enough, because I think nature has proven differently, even with testimonials of other posters in these forums.

But the mental maturity side of things, that, how you prove your ready for that...that's hard and that's only something you can answer and something your partner can answer.

Use logic to a point (ex: do the condoms fit right, do you understand the anatomy down there and how it works both on yourself and your partner, what do you do if when you see blood, eating spicy food before sex and then involving the mouth down there is a big NO it will cause medical problems).

Then there's the emotional side of things like how to set the mood, maintain the mood of romance and sense of caring and safety and trust both before during and after sex. (Oh btw forget candles, I know it's in the movies and TV all the time, but for a beginner, there's too much of a risk of setting something on fire, that will ruin the mood and might even get you killed).

What do you do if she gets pregnant? Baby's are expensive, you better make sure you have $450,000 just in case.

[Zachary G]

I lost mine at a young age, too and I dont regret it, but I dont recommend it. I think you should wait at least another year -- if you can -- to give you both time to discuss it more and see if you both are doing it for the right reasons. If you cant wait, at least be careful and be safe.

[Pat the Bunny]

Remember that you aren't gonna get a lot of non-biased opinions on a site full of people who are hormonal teens themselves