"Love"

[redrider12]

Howdy Yall -
So off and on over the past few months, I've been fumbling around with "love" and what exactly it is. Almost everyone I've ever met has a different definition of it - ranging from on-demand sex to spending a whole day tunnel-vision texting you. I've been in and out of two serious relationships, both of which I enjoyed. But something was missing - and looking back, I never really felt love in either of them. But then again, I'm not 100% sure what love is. I guess it varies from person to person. It's like every time I put my heart and soul into a girl, she runs away or finds someone else. And it's always after we've had sex too which doesn't help anything.
BUT - that's not to say we rush. They've both been 6+ months and both very involved and very personal. No first-date sex deals. I don't do that garbage.

The point is - love. How do you define it? Do you think it's anywhere near realistic to expect TRUE love between two teenagers/college kids?

[SillyShyGuy]

Love is sacred. It is not something that develops over night. A guy can say he loves a girl he has only known for a week and a girl can say she is falling for a guy she has known for over a year. Infatuation is not the same as love because that is the feeling you have when you have a crush for someone. That feeling of obsessing over someone and fades soon after. Love is patient, especially in my experience. My first love made me wait two years before we shared our first kiss. It was definitely worth it because we took the time to become close to each other. Love is not measured by someone's wealth, intelligence, or looks.

Just take me and m first love. I am pursuing a college education, my family is well off, and I have a job. I am skinny, dorky, and quiet. My first love had no interest in higher education, no interest in working a day in her life, and lives at home. She was fit, shy, and kind. We did not agree on much, but we did love each other for three years. Love is when you are willing to give everything to your lover. Everything you own, every emotion, every cell in your body. You can feel free to touch your lover whenever you want and they can to the same. You can trust them and be yourself around them. Even after silly arguments you are crazy for each other and no one else can get in the way. When you both planned a future together you know you are in love.

[Vanilla Cupcake]

I'm slightly confused about what true love is as well. Is true love when you love someone even after you break up? I kind of think that if you really love someone, they will remain in your heart forever weather they are just friends or if they have passed on.
There might also be more then one kind of love?

If your asking what true love feels like as in dating/relationships, I can't really answer that yet I can only take a guess.
My guess would be, you think about them everyday, you want to be with them all the time you get butterflies when your around them, you feel sad when they feel sad, You can't imagine life without them. I'm sure I could add more to the list but You get the idea.
I think you can love many times over. Just because you break up with someone, it doesn't mean you never loved them and some people remain good friends forever.
:)

[faded]

I'm slightly confused about what true love is as well. Is true love when you love someone even after you break up? I kind of think that if you really love someone, they will remain in your heart forever weather they are just friends or if they have passed on.
There might also be more then one kind of love?

If your asking what true love feels like as in dating/relationships, I can't really answer that yet I can only take a guess.
My guess would be, you think about them everyday, you want to be with them all the time you get butterflies when your around them, you feel sad when they feel sad, You can't imagine life without them. I'm sure I could add more to the list but You get the idea.
I think you can love many times over. Just because you break up with someone, it doesn't mean you never loved them and some people remain good friends forever.
:)

hmm I think how you describe true love, fits with how I feel for my brother. Tho the butterfly feeling when his around is more a happy feeling. Like i don't get nervous or excited, just happy.
My feelings towards him is not romantic or sexual tho. but Ive had crushes and partners before and my feelings towards everyone. Crushes, partners, parents, grandparents etc has always paled in comparison to my feelings towards him.

[Vanilla Cupcake]

hmm I think how you describe true love, fits with how I feel for my brother. Tho the butterfly feeling when his around is more a happy feeling. Like i don't get nervous or excited, just happy.
My feelings towards him is not romantic or sexual tho. but Ive had crushes and partners before and my feelings towards everyone. Crushes, partners, parents, grandparents etc has always paled in comparison to my feelings towards him.

Wow you really love your brother, like a lot!!! :eek:

[Tesserax]

Howdy Yall -
So off and on over the past few months, I've been fumbling around with "love" and what exactly it is. Almost everyone I've ever met has a different definition of it - ranging from on-demand sex to spending a whole day tunnel-vision texting you. I've been in and out of two serious relationships, both of which I enjoyed. But something was missing - and looking back, I never really felt love in either of them. But then again, I'm not 100% sure what love is. I guess it varies from person to person. It's like every time I put my heart and soul into a girl, she runs away or finds someone else. And it's always after we've had sex too which doesn't help anything.
BUT - that's not to say we rush. They've both been 6+ months and both very involved and very personal. No first-date sex deals. I don't do that garbage.

The point is - love. How do you define it? Do you think it's anywhere near realistic to expect TRUE love between two teenagers/college kids?

True love is possible between teenagers, though rare due to raging hormones making people horny/lustful. But love is an emotional thing, not so much physical. To love somebody is to have a such a deep emotional connection that you two are basically one person in two bodies. That is true, deep love.

[City Kid]

I strongly believe that true love between teenagers exists, but I agree with what Yan Hearn said about hormones and how they make it a little more difficult to tell simple affection and real love apart.

In my experience, when you finally realize what it means to truly love somebody, you look at all of your past crushes and relationships in a slightly different light. You feel foolish for confusing those feelings for actual love.

What made me realize that I actually, truly loved
my boyfriend was that more than anything else, I wanted him to be happy. When I fell in love with him he was still with his ex girlfriend, but not once did I find myself wishing for them to break up or anything. I put his needs before mine without even thinking about it. That's what love is for me.