My parents wont allow me to sleepover

[likeit]

Hello guys. My parents dont allow me to invite friends over or to go to other friend's houses for sleepovers. What should i do? My mother has allowed me a few times but she always didnt want to and even though i asked her, her answer would be no but now she is saying absolutely not and she wont even let me sleepover at my friends houses....
what should i do guys? I hate this.

[Zachary G]

Did she ever give you a reason why she wont allow this? Personally, I find it a bit odd, but I am sure she has her reasons, you just have to find out what they are. There really isnt much you can do about it, for the time being, but it wouldnt hurt to ask why.

[SethfromMI]

I mean try talking to her but if she refuses no matter what then there is not too much you can do

[Uniquemind]

I'd settle with her decision, but I would request her thought process beyond the "I just said so" answer.

[likeit]

Hey...
well if i tell her for my friend to come over she will tell me that the house looks messy and she thinks that if he is going to come she will have to cook special food for him and she hates that, but she doesnt need to do all of above because neither my friends mom does it when i go to his place. I dont know why she should act like this....
If i tell her however to go to my friend's place she will tell me that you have your own house and that she hates me going to other people's house...

well guys i have convienced her to let me sometimes but i was begging her like a child.
Tell me what should i do because all of my friends do sleepovers but im left behind.
thanks

[redrider12]

That's just a mom being a mom, always incredibly stressed and worried about not seeming like a left-field mother. I slept over a lot when I was younger, but now I rarely ever do. The one time I convinced her ended up being a big party and it was pretty obvious when I came home that I'd been drinking and smoking. It's a protective thing, I suppose.

[likeit]

Okay thanks for your reply, but we dont have parties in our homes here, besides she knows my friend very well, she knows that he doesnt smoke or drink and neither do i, so why should she act like this?
My friend's mom always allows him to do and to go to sleepovers and i think what's wrong with my mom...

[Bluebyrd]

Have you told her that none of those things that you said happen when you go to your friends' house?

[likeit]

Yes and she understands but she also thinks that im bothering their parents if i go to spend the night there...

[Bull]

Yes and she understands but she also thinks that im bothering their parents if i go to spend the night there...

Maybe an invitation from parent to parent would help. How old are you?

[likeit]

I'm 16... And also our parents dont have a really close friendly relationship, they only know them as my parents and also thats what happens with my ones too...

[Cadanance00]

My rents have always been completely okay with sleepovers. Kids at my church have sleepovers, even mixed. Nothing happens. I even slept over with the girl who is my gf now when we were younger, of course her little sister was there, too.

(Believe me, there's no chaperon like a little sister.)

[likeit]

Well my parents are a bit harsh if its about sleepovers...

[likeit]

Hey guys so as i have told you, my parents are a bit harsh about sleepovers. My friend's parents in the other hand are too cool with them. Anyways, guys what if my friends ask me to sleepover over my place, how am i supposed to explain that my parents dont want me to have sleepovers in a kind way and without making them think that my parents dont like them... i mean my parents allow me to have sleepovers but rarely and not everytime... thnx

[Bull]

Tell them you will check with your parents to see if it is possible.,

[TeenPortland]

Sit them down and ask

[TeenPortland]

But do it calmly and explain why you think it is reasonable. Then hear them out

[likeit]

Okay guys i talked with her today about this and she told me:
why don't you just stay 2 - 3 hours on his place instead of sleeping there?
I told her that it is not fun like that but she doesn't understand me...
i think she is like that because back in the past people would come over our place all the time and it wouldn't be 2 days without people over, they would literally be ALL THE TIME on us.
Anyways, i think that they are like that because i just started doing sleepovers, i haven't done any on the past and this quick change has made them furious about it...
But i still want to change her opinions on this, other parents allow their children to sleepover when they want but my parents dont :(

[gemma 2000]

Ask your friend to get his mum to call your mum and invite you to sleepover.

[EmmaButler]

I've been allowed to go to one recently, but it had to be closely supervised. She's always worrying!

[gemma 2000]

I have them all the time