How important is the emotional stuff?

[MeliWelli]

I'm very comfortable with my body and generally enjoy sex, but I'm not 100% happy with my sex life. Most of the pleasure I get is from knowing I've made the guy happy, but sometimes it doesn't seem to matter what happens to me. I want a guy to be as crazy about me, as he is about my body. If sex with a guy/girl was good, but you knew he/she wasn't as crazy about you as you were him/her, would it matter, or stop you from seeing him/her?

[Uniquemind]

For me it matters a lot, but I can't say it will for others because there's a divide here.

You got the types of person who likes the physical side of sex, but wants to remain emotionally distant for whatever reasons and then you have the people who want emotional mutual closeness because they're seeking a strong monogamous relationship perhaps even marriage.

In the latter camp if the attraction to both physical and emotional personality is one sided, it does affect the quality of the sex too because of that nagging voice in your head saying "this isn't right, this isn't what you want" prevents you from being fully immersed in the moment.

[Vanilla Cupcake]

I would have to say that I would prefer mutual feelings. If I were with a guy and he wasn't that into me aside from sex, it would be hard for me to be turned on, I guess it would feel like I was being used. Not only that, I don't think I would enjoy sex with someone I wasn't into, but IdK?

[Mollypop]

It depends on what I'm looking for. I mean, if it's just about the sex then I probably don't want him being crazy about me. But if it's about a relationship and sex is part of it, then yeah I want him to be as crazy about me as I am about him.

[tulolita2015]

Yes it depends on what are you looking for in a relationship. If you feel something about that person and not only sexual desire then I think both parts should be 100% into everything sexual and the feelings.

[MeliWelli]

Thanks everyone

[angelina]

Yes it depends on what are you looking for in a relationship. If you feel something about that person and not only sexual desire then I think both parts should be 100% into everything sexual and the feelings.

this i agree with Brenda..understanding each other's preference in sex will do a lot in the total satisfaction.

[Emerald Dream]

OP banned. :locked: