Girl problems, same girl, please help.

[Croconaw]

I recall posting about this girl in the last topic, but the problem seems to persist with her. She's never satisfied and is always pissed off. Our texts are always an argument, and she said she is wasting money sending me texts because her texts cost money. It is true, she lives in a different country. Her always being pissed off is helping me lose attraction to her, and I am even starting to think my life would be better off without her.

Unfortunately, I still want her as a friend, but keep in mind it's not because it is her. It is because I believe I have a lack of friends in real life and online, that the thought of having a friend makes me happy. I have one friend, and he and I talk a lot, so it's not like I don't have any.

Back on topic, this girl said I am not mature and I act like a twelve year old, but that's the impression I get about her! It's always hard not believing her when she tells me these insults, but I know inside, she's the immature one. I believe it would be best to block her number and just stop talking to her altogether, but there is a problem with that. She is also on a forum I go on sometimes, but it is not this forum, I can tell you that. She could message me on there, unless I also block her on there, as well. My only fear is regretting it after cutting contact with her, but she is bring unnecessary negativity into my life. Any advice?


We were just arguing a few minutes ago about stupid s***, and she's a therapist for her profession, so I figured she would be less angry all the time, but I guess not.
Thank you. :)

[StoppingTom]

Honestly, do you think it's even worth the trouble to keep her around as a girlfriend OR a friend? She seems pretty toxic, in that all she seems to do is put you down and make you feel bad. Do you really want someone like that around you?

[Vanilla Cupcake]

What do you fight about. Maybe you really are doing something that upsets her and you don't want to admit it or maybe you are blind to it?
Girls like to talk about problems in hopes to fix them. If she didn't care about you, then she wouldn't try to fix things, she would simply find someone else to talk to.
Just something to think about..

[Croconaw]

I'm not doing anything to upset her. Some people just get pissed off easily. We argue about everything for no reason. There isn't even a way to describe our arguments. It's always her accusing me of being jealous of her friends that we don't talk as much as them. She makes me feel not important because she never wants to talk to me. It's to the point I want to not talk to her anymore.

[Hudor]

I think it would be best if you part ways. As far as I can see, the only thing you're accomplishing by talking to her is feeling continually worse. If she has a problem with anything, everything regarding you I feel she's only going to add to the emotional stain and it's more of a question how soon you leave her and how less strain you have to bear before it.

[Uniquemind]

So is the relationship physical or a cyber one only?

If it's online-only, this is a problem because from your end the only measure of affection is how often you can talk to each other.

This is awkward because in face to face romances, often times there are comfortable silences but lots of looking snuggling and cuddling and carnal sex, basically body communication of affection.

So make sure you're in the right mental mode to judge the situation carefully and not accuse her of lack-of-affection when it's the long-distance that's to blame and not the person.

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I'm in a long distance relationship myself, but we make it work because both of us like the freedom of almost being single and focusing on other areas of our lives (friends, education/work, and family).

[SillyShyGuy]

I used to have a lot of arguments with my first love and it began when I moved for college. In that aspect I can understand the long distance part. But if she is not making you happy and if she is not making an effort to make you happy then it is time to move on. Just shut her out altogether. I do not think it will be healthy to keep her as a friend either because the stress she puts on you will only make you go mad over time. You can make new friends at school or in your neighborhood. Do not make this girl your only hope for a friendship besides your best friend. Let her go, make some friends, and perhaps find a better girlfriend. Good luck :)