Exchange Student and Sex?

[just-in]

Hey guys,
I have an Uzbek exchange student brother who I talked to about sex a lot last week. He says he lost his virginity at 15 to a college-age girl and he has had sex about once a month thereafter (he's 17 now). He also said him and his friends have picked up prostitutes and girls off the street and such.
Do you think this is normal for this area/region (central asia)? Do you believe it?
While we were talking about this I asked him how long his penis is. He said 22cm (8.66 in), which seems really long... and he's like 5' 7" or so. I explained to him how that seems abnormally large for being Asian, and he said that's just a misconception and that his friends are about that size too.
What do you think? Does anyone know if people in this area have penises this big?
I'm 14. While talking to him I brought up that we should try to find an American girl to have sex with before the time he leaves (May). But i'm a virgin so I have a lot of questions...
Is it okay to lose my virginity at 14? I'm okay with it, but still IDK what might happen. He agreed to this proposal, but is he actually interested in finding a girl for us? I have no clue what having sex with a girl with a friend entails.. what am I supposed to do?

Finally, I don't know how to bring up the topic of sex with him... he's really busy during the week with school and tired on the weekends and we are almost never alone. Suggestions?

Thanks for reading all of this... just try your best to provide through thoughtful answers.

(to clarify, I am NOT intending on having sex with my exchange student :) )
Thanks again :D

[heresjohnny]

Don't push it...if it doesn't happen, it doesn't happen. IF it were to happen, I would suggest a pill for her and a condom for him. If she were to become pregnant, that's all sorts of trouble that no one wants to get into.

14, IMO, is a bit early to be going that far, but that's just my opinion...but you asked, right? ;)

The whole "where you are" thing...I think it's largely a myth.

[ashdaniel]

Wow, 14, I lost mine when I just turn 18. Dont be rush about sex, there will be a time where things will come together. Peer pressure is the biggest factor that teenager are having sex and getting pregnant. So just enjoy yourself and experiment different stuffs but dont rush into sex cause not everyone is ready for it.

[Bluebyrd]

It's normal to lose your virginity at 14, in fact at lot of people on here have done so already by that age. I wouldn't rule out him being big in terms of size just because he's Asian because while there is a little bit of truth to Asians being smaller, it's only by a small bit. I do agree with you in saying that he's lying though because 8 inches is awfully big. If you want and feel ready for sex, then go for it!

[ska8er]

Ur going too fast-chill-he seems to b a bad influence for u.
Meet girls on ur own and start a relationship then think
about what u should do.

[northy]

Hey guys,
I have an Uzbek exchange student brother who I talked to about sex a lot last week. He says he lost his virginity at 15 to a college-age girl and he has had sex about once a month thereafter (he's 17 now). He also said him and his friends have picked up prostitutes and girls off the street and such.
Do you think this is normal for this area/region (central asia)? Do you believe it?
While we were talking about this I asked him how long his penis is. He said 22cm (8.66 in), which seems really long... and he's like 5' 7" or so. I explained to him how that seems abnormally large for being Asian, and he said that's just a misconception and that his friends are about that size too.
What do you think? Does anyone know if people in this area have penises this big?
I'm 14. While talking to him I brought up that we should try to find an American girl to have sex with before the time he leaves (May). But i'm a virgin so I have a lot of questions...
Is it okay to lose my virginity at 14? I'm okay with it, but still IDK what might happen. He agreed to this proposal, but is he actually interested in finding a girl for us? I have no clue what having sex with a girl with a friend entails.. what am I supposed to do?

Finally, I don't know how to bring up the topic of sex with him... he's really busy during the week with school and tired on the weekends and we are almost never alone. Suggestions?

Thanks for reading all of this... just try your best to provide through thoughtful answers.

(to clarify, I am NOT intending on having sex with my exchange student :) )
Thanks again :D

I suspect that he's lying about the size of his penis, the global average is 5.5in. I would not recommend losing your virginity to a prostitute because you feel socially pressured by your exchange student. It is probably not legal, would be something that you regret and if he is lying about his penis size, why would he be telling the truth about the prostitutes? Yes, they have a different culture over there, but I think he is showing off.

[Harrier]

it always seems like a lot of exchange students have a TON of stories. Maybe they are lying to get popular (I wouldn't blame them, it would be hard to be an exchange student) or maybe kids in other countries do have more fun, or maybe exchange students are naturally more adventourous. Idk. But if you want to do stuff with him and see if the two of you can get a girl and get laid, then try it. Just don't try to be someone you're not.

[jake1214]

I don't think it's wrong or bad to loose your virginity at 14. I would just go with your gut, and if it happens, be smart about it. I mean, I'd totally do it, but I know for me it's different since I'm gay, and really not confident in myself.

[Harrier]

I don't think it's wrong or bad to loose your virginity at 14. I would just go with your gut, and if it happens, be smart about it. I mean, I'd totally do it, but I know for me it's different since I'm gay, and really not confident in myself.

So you'd lose your virginity because you have low self confidence? Not judging positive or negative just trying to understand. Also do you think being gay or straight alters when a person should lose their virginity?

[just-in]

it always seems like a lot of exchange students have a TON of stories. Maybe they are lying to get popular (I wouldn't blame them, it would be hard to be an exchange student) or maybe kids in other countries do have more fun, or maybe exchange students are naturally more adventourous. Idk. But if you want to do stuff with him and see if the two of you can get a girl and get laid, then try it. Just don't try to be someone you're not.

Thanks. That's good advice. He is here for a few more months so I guess I will just have to wait and see. Keep me posted if you think of anything else I can try :D

[jake1214]

So you'd lose your virginity because you have low self confidence? Not judging positive or negative just trying to understand. Also do you think being gay or straight alters when a person should lose their virginity?

My note about self confidence was not connected with my advice to him. I was implying the opposite; that I don't see myself even doing it because I have low self confidence. About being gay...I think it's generally harder when someone is gay simply because there are a lot fewer gay people. I don't even know if any of my friends, or people I know are gay. Or at least nobody is openly gay, or has told me that they are.

Sorry for getting off topic. Just wanted to clarify.

[TimMyself]

It seems a bit weird, his story

[just-in]

Any other thoughts?

[RiHouse]

This is just personal experience, but I have 3 friends from that region who are 14 years old and their dicks are all bigger than 6.5". I know this obviously can't speak for the majority, but 3 in one spot does seem like it might not be as unusual as you think.