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llamaroad
January 7th, 2016, 07:38 PM
So this is my first post.

I like this girl. She's 15, and I've known her since 9th grade. Known her, but not really friends. She's in one of my classes this semester and I've really been wanting to ask her out. I've been trying to rapidly lose weight before the semester ends as I don't want to be rejected for being fat. I don't have my Driver's License yet, but will have it in July. How could I ask her for her number, for example, without making it extremely awkward?

Thanks,
Jacob

SillyShyGuy
January 7th, 2016, 07:47 PM
Well first get to know her better so she does not get the wrong idea. Then slowly lead up to going on a date. Do little things first like walk to to class, study with her, or go to school events with her. Then ask for her number. Be sure to ask her on a date in person not over text.

redrider12
January 10th, 2016, 08:48 PM
Never, never, never ask her out before you all would conceivably hang out away from school in a group setting.
Try to get to know her some in school - talk to her after class, ask her just small stuff when you see her. Or hell, even just smile or say hey when you see each other.
Once you've talked a few times, just say something to the effect of "hey, you're really nice, maybe we could talk sometime?" That particular one worked for me, but girls are as variable as can be. Whatever you do, don't make any hints when you do ask for her number. Just be cool about it, ask or say you'd like to talk and get to know her some. If she picks up that you want to date her at first, it'll be that much harder to ever actually get the chance. Girls are smart like that. Just ease into it.

Vanilla Cupcake
January 11th, 2016, 01:44 AM
So this is my first post.

I like this girl. She's 15, and I've known her since 9th grade. Known her, but not really friends. She's in one of my classes this semester and I've really been wanting to ask her out. I've been trying to rapidly lose weight before the semester ends as I don't want to be rejected for being fat. I don't have my Driver's License yet, but will have it in July. How could I ask her for her number, for example, without making it extremely awkward?

Thanks,
Jacob

I would wait and see if you ever catch her looking/staring at you. You could also maybe look at her from across the room and give her some kind of half smile but not like a huge one and see if she smiles back. Then play it cool for a while and see if she ever looks at you.
Once you have a hint that she actually looks interested then I would ask.

ashdyn
January 11th, 2016, 02:59 AM
Everyone gave some awesome advice already that I pretty much agree with. Don't up and ask her out before you even feel comfortable hanging out together in a friendly sort of way. Once you get to know her then work from there.

Congrats on making the commitment to lose weight and get healthier! Setting a goal is really the first step. I just want to throw out there that while losing weight should help your chances at getting the girl and will totally boost your self confidence, it shouldn't be a prohibiting factor in asking a girl out. Say you don't meet your goal by the end of the semester....if she rejects you based on weight or body type then she's not even close to being the right girl for you especially if you get to know her and become friends before you ask her out. My GFs sister is HOT AF and she dated a chubby dude for a long ass time lol (he turned out to be an ass but that's not the point lmao)

Good luck!