Good looking or just plain ugly?

[Tesserax]

Can't tell for myself, the illusion is too stronk. I'm sick of it, I can't take pictures of myself because to me, my cheek bones stick out, my eyes are incredibly uneven (which is true but I normally can't notice it), my smile is terrible, everything is just horrific to look at. But when I look at myself in the mirror, it looks fine. I know the mental illusion thing, where it's different because you look flipped. And I know that the camera will have an effect on what the picture looks like, but I'm going to take a picture of myself with my webcam, and I want you guys to judge for me, I'm sick of not knowing how I actually look to others. Be as brutal as you wish, just don't be mean, but I have to know what people think when they see me. And please, cut me the compliments, unless you're actually giving an honest opinion.

Edit: Two more things, not sure where to put this so feel free to move it around mods, and to everybody judging, this is just me smiling, I think I probably look better with my mouth shut lol

[ClaraWho]

What's the big deal? You look like a normal guy, why beat yourself up?

Instead of asking a whole load of random strangers to tell you what you look like, wouldn't your time be better spent learning to accept or dare I say, even love yourself?

Start by writing down the positive attributes you do like, get photos of guys your age, your race, that you think look good. What is so different? Compare and contrast. Sure, you can't change your bone structure to match theirs, but you could change up your style.

To me you look fine, just like any other guy. But you clearly have some serious self-esteem issues. Maybe exercise more, or find something to enjoy doing so you don't have time to sit around and ask ridiculous questions.

Another challenge that might help - just photograph yourself CONSTANTLY, or record random vlogs. Anything were you can see you being you. You'll get used to yourself eventually.

If none of the above works, you may want to speak to a counsellor, as what you are seeing is clearly a warped version of yourself.

Good luck,

~ Clara

[jkringle]

While you should totally accept yourself for who you are, I think the biggest detractor you are seeing in the mirror is your lack of self-confidence.

There are some things you can do to help your confidence, which will make you look and feel more attractive to others. First, try on some clothes that fit. Looking at your picture, the seams for the arms and shoulders are off. The seams for your shoulders should be sitting on top of the shoulders, shirts designed with the seams slightly forward are for muscular guys looking to enhance the appearance of their trapezius (traps) muscles. The seams for your arms should rest where your arm meets the shoulder.

I can't see if your pants fit, but the way you can tell is (for non-dress pants) the hem of the jean should sit near your ankle, and/or on top of your shoe. The seam of the pants should come up close to your crotch. If the seam is significantly lower, it gives an appearance of being shorter.

Fitted clothes (which can be found at most stores) will give you an appearance of better posture and a more appealing look overall. Currently, due to where the seams are on the shoulders, you appear to be slouching more than you actually are (as indicated by both your neck and shoulders).

Second, you can always work on your posture. Try sitting straighter, and walking without slouching. Good posture makes you appear more confident. Working out will definitely help, as it strengthens your back. Slouching can be caused by the lower back's inability to keep your upper back straight, so you shrug forward to relieve tension on the muscles.

A final thing you can do is try out hairstyles. Currently, your hair just rests on your head. That isn't necessarily bad, but you have nice hair that you could definitely style in a variety of ways. It is hard to tell in the picture, but you appear to have a heart or square shaped face, which goes well with a variety of styles. Personally, unless you are planning to fill in the mustache, you should shave it.

Fitted clothes, good posture, and some style will give you an appearance of being more confident, which will help you appear more attractive. Remember that the end goal is to be happier with yourself and not for others. Following any of the above steps should be for you and no one else.

Full disclosure: My advice comes from my (brief) experience within the modeling industry, and as such my view of attractive is biased towards styles of the companies I work with.

[SillyShyGuy]

Haha you are not ugly my friend. You just need to find that special someone who will find you the most handsome young man in the world. You will find that person, just be patient. Be confident as well.

[Vanilla Cupcake]

Nope, your not ugly at all, and your cheeks are cute. I think we all pick ourselves apart and wish we had better this or that. We want perfect I guess.

[Uniquemind]

You've got nothing to worry about looks wise.

[amgb]

Hey~ Firstly, my honest opinion is that you look fine in the photo:) Your smile is nice, in fact a smile in my opinion is someone's best feature. I myself have taken pictures of my face before, glanced at it and thought it was the ugliest face in the world. The pictures of ourselves that we take do sometimes look weird and slightly distorted compared to our perception of ourselves in the mirror, since we might've accidentally squinted a bit or moved a cheek muscle before we took the shot. I understand you want to know how you look to others, but it's not the position of others to judge you. How you judge yourself and what you see when you look at yourself is what's most important. If other people are going to judge you unfairly based on simply what you look like, their opinions aren't worth listening to. You are worthy and your thoughts have more worth than anybody's opinion or judgement about you. I'm still struggling with a negative self-image, and that's okay. It's okay that you see yourself the way you do, but don't poison your mind with self-hate. Try little things; tell yourself you don't look too bad, and then from that maybe one day you can build yourself up to be able to tell yourself that you look great.

As for relationships, don't stress too much over what the other person thinks of your face. Focus on what they think of your heart and the good kind of person you are~

[tulolita2015]

Your not ugly at all you look pretty fine to me.

[Bluebyrd]

You're not ugly at all! Don't worry yourself! Maybe shave that moustache though

[Awakened Sin]

"Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder."

A simple yet strong quote. Some may not find you attractive, but there will always be someone out there that finds you attractive.

[Vanilla Cupcake]

I think your hair would look really nice if it was shorter, and maybe gelled on the top with some messy bits or pushed up type of thing.

[hesaidhesaid]

You're fine.
CAN WE STOP THIS THING ABOUT WHO LOOKS GOOD OR NOT? AS LONG AS YOU'RE YOU, SOMEONE WILL FIND YOU. You're all fine :)

[Tesserax]

I think your hair would look really nice if it was shorter, and maybe gelled on the top with some messy bits or pushed up type of thing.

Yeah I haven't had a haircut in awhile, I normally keep it shorter and messier :3