I pretend my pillow is a girlfriend? Please help

[NoahN]

I'm 15, heterosexual male. I've been unsuccessful thus far is getting agirlfriend even though I've tried repeatedly.

I constantly experience painful desires to cuddle and make out that I can never satisfy. Therefore, I pretend my bed pillow is a girlfriend I kiss and cuddle and fall asleep with.

I've never actually kissed a girl before and need this outlet to temporarily fulfill my need for basic intimacy only to be hurt once more when I'm reminded of my failure. Is this abnormal or do you have any advice?

[redrider12]

I wouldn't say it's "normal", but at the same time it's nothing bad or wrong. I have those urges from time to time as well, and although I've had a girlfriend in the past to do that stuff with, I've never felt the need to do what you're doing.

[northy]

So what if it's abnormal? Everyone is different and enjoys different things. You are not a failure, you just haven't met the right person yet. Also, you are only 15, you've got plenty of time.

[SillyShyGuy]

It is uncommon, but do not feel it is a bad thing. In my case, I used plush toys my little sister gave me as a way to get over my need to hold something. I do not care because I am open to things. What we are doing is better than bottling it up inside like some other guys do because they fear being labeled as feminine. I would rather cuddle a pillow or my teddy's than be that person that goes to a shrink because they kept their emotions bottled up for years.

[tulolita2015]

No your not abnormal. I heard of lot guys in the same situation like you, take it easy.

[Vanilla Cupcake]

Don't worry because it's not like anyone knows you do it and if it's soothing and makes you feel better then I say go for it.
I have tons of teddy bears, and sometimes I do fall asleep with one in my arm, it's comforting. :)

[AutumnWinds]

I'm 15, heterosexual male. I've been unsuccessful thus far is getting agirlfriend even though I've tried repeatedly.

I constantly experience painful desires to cuddle and make out that I can never satisfy. Therefore, I pretend my bed pillow is a girlfriend I kiss and cuddle and fall asleep with.

I've never actually kissed a girl before and need this outlet to temporarily fulfill my need for basic intimacy only to be hurt once more when I'm reminded of my failure. Is this abnormal or do you have any advice?

i think it's VERY normal.:):D you hit the nail on the head when you said you " need this outlet to temporarily fulfill my need for basic intimacy" there is NOTHING wrong with what you're doing! we all need to feel intimacy sometimes, and we aren't lucky enough to always have someone there to help us. don't beat yourself up over it. :whoops:

[Gunter]

Hit the weights. Make the gains your girlfriend

[hesaidhesaid]

I must confess, I'm not sure whether this is a good thing or a bad thing. But something tells me that you just haven't met the right girl yet. And in that respect- I'm sure you will :)

[Bluebyrd]

take it easy.

I hope that was an Eagles reference LOL

Anyway. I agree with what everyone else has said. If it's what you want to do then go for it!