How do you know?

[Beach_Blonde]

I'm pretty sure I'm gay.....bi at the very least. I'm just wondering how you know? Like really know....I'm pretty sure. I have a friend that I have a major crush on. I dont really want another boyfriend. And I have only really been watching lesbian porn for like the last two months.

I'm pretty sure...... But still really confused.

[Zachary G]

For me, I REALLY knew when the crush I had was the only thing on my mind and when I was around them, they were all I could focus on, and when I wasnt with them I was jealous of whoever was. At the time I had a friend who was a girl I really liked, but my feelings for my boy friend were much much stronger and that is when I knew.

When I hit puberty and began to have sexual attractions, that really confirmed it for me.

[northy]

Don't use porn as a judge for anything.
I realised when I had a really strong crush on someone and then whilst thinking about it, I was never really interested in girls in the same way as my friends. I just knew.
Sexuality is about romantic as well as Sexual attraction.

[Bluebyrd]

Ever since I started having feelings towards people it's always being towards boys. There's never been a doubt in my mind.

[Beach_Blonde]

Well now y'all got me thinking......and now that I think about it all of my major crushes have been on girls. Every best friend I have ever had started out as a crush. And with the exception of two boys its kinda always been that way.
Even with the only boy I have ever dated I felt myself attracted to his sister and wanting to be with both of them (as in dating..….for the most part).
And usually when I fantazie I'm always with a girl. And I've always thought girls would be better romantically. Like I feel they would actually care about me more.

But Idk.... Why does everything become more confusing when you try and label it...

[ECSTASY]

Don't use porn as a judge for anything.
I realised when I had a really strong crush on someone and then whilst thinking about it, I was never really interested in girls in the same way as my friends. I just knew.
Sexuality is about romantic as well as Sexual attraction.

it really sucks when you can't express your feelings to him x_x

And well TheQuietGirl
If you have never had a crush on a guy , then you're lesbian . Nobody can tell you who you are . You'll find out by time .

[Beach_Blonde]

I have but only on two guys

[UNKNOWN8198]

Things can become more confusing once you label them, because there will almost always be some exceptions to the label, and it can be confining, and the whole point of your sexuality is to 'run free' with it. Also remember that you can try a label, and if you feel that it doesn't describe you properly, then you can change it.

I knew that I was gay because I'd only ever been attracted to guys, I've never watched 'straight' porn, and since about 11, I thought the idea that breasts were supposedly going to become these fascinating objects to me like they had to the rest of my friends bewildering.

(Also remember that there are other labels beyond straight/bi/gay. I 'technically' go by bi-romantic homosexual to describe what I think to be my full sexuality, but I'm not completely sure it's right and it's far easier to go by 'gay')