school relationship

[fighterpilot360]

hey guys and girls i need some help. there is this girl at my school that i like and she says she like me. she is very school oriented and we have midterms coming up and when i asked her out she said that she has never been in a relationship before. after that she said that she wants to wait till after midterms do date. im not sure if she is just brushing me off or is she being serious.

[lacey02]

I think she may be serious and that she is worried about her grades. Maybe you can explain how much time you think a commitment to you involves and then she wont be so worried about tests.

[Splat]

If she's school orientated she's not having a laugh. As you both like each other she's probably gonna be fine about being with you but seeing as she's never been in a relationship before, she might find it stressful and if anything were to happen between you just before the exams, her grades might go down because of the added stress. Why not just wait til afterwards? There's no rush.

[everlong]

If she's really focused on school, seems fair.

[redrider12]

I think you're way overthinking it. If she's said she likes you, that should be good enough reason to assume she's not brushing anything off. Some people are just very academic, and don't want anything to get in the way of that. Respect her wishes. As Anna said, there's no rush

[Tesserax]

hey guys and girls i need some help. there is this girl at my school that i like and she says she like me. she is very school oriented and we have midterms coming up and when i asked her out she said that she has never been in a relationship before. after that she said that she wants to wait till after midterms do date. im not sure if she is just brushing me off or is she being serious.

She's being serious. Generally you don't want to start a relationship during exams. That's the time you should be starting to learn about each other and building that connection, not staying away and studying. A relationship takes time to build properly, so just be patient :)

[Uniquemind]

Look at it this way. You've positioned yourself to play the waiting game and your locked into a desired outcome that you want.

Patience is a virtue, and delaying of gratification is going to be a skill you NEED to make the relationship work.

It's not like once she does start dating you that you've won some desired "endgame" scenario.

Relationships take constant work and maintenance.

[Semi_IronMan]

I don't think she's brushing you off, u said it yourself she's school oriented so I suggest u take her up on her offer and wait till you're done with your midterms. Hope it works out, GOOD LUCK!!

[SillyShyGuy]

If she likes you then she is not brushing you off haha. She just wants to get exams out of the way before focusing on a relationship. More often than not yes girls do like when they say they would rather focus on school because they either have a boyfriend or are not even getting perfect grades. But not in this case. Just be patient, keep in mind that she has never dated anyone before. Good luck.

[Vanilla Cupcake]

Are you sure she likes you? How do you know? Just wondering.

[tulolita2015]

Talk to her and let her know about you thoughts and feelings. ;-)

[fighterpilot360]

Thanks guys but it probably wont work anyway because she just kinda blew me off

[Cadanance00]

Thanks guys but it probably wont work anyway because she just kinda blew me off
That happens. You get shot down ten times for one that works.

[fighterpilot360]

That happens. You get shot down ten times for one that works.

yeah but its not just a failed relationship she was my way out she could have been the one to help me out of the hole im in right now :'(

[Cadanance00]

yeah but its not just a failed relationship she was my way out she could have been the one to help me out of the hole im in right now :'(

That's always the way it seems, you can't live your life without her, with her everything is possible, without her you're nothing. It's not true. Win some, lose some.

There's something I heard called personality addiction. It means you think a certain person will cure all your ills, make you a new person, etc. It's all bullshit. You can make it on your own, she's really just another girl and there's one out there for you.

[Beach_Blonde]

I think the best in you could do is just take I easy. Ask her out on a date. Tell her you like her and that she can make all the rules ad set the pace. I mean if you really like her you should tell her that and tell her you respect her descions.