Ways to fall out of love

[Awakened Sin]

I've met a lot of heartache recently. Due to me being a fact and logic man. I noticed that I have a high failure rate of getting in relationships or being in relationships. Long story short, I've failed 10 times in the past two years. Two weeks ago made eleven. Unfortunately, this has led me to despise relationships. For example, when I see a lovey dovey post on Instagram I cringe.

This is background information for the purpose of what I am about to ask. How does one stop falling in love? Biologically, it's difficult I know. I've done research on this for a while. Scientifically, the stages when a person falls in love goes like this.

Stage 1: Lust

Stage 2: Attraction

Stage 3 Attachment

Lust is driven by testosterone for men and estrogen for women. Since the first stage of falling in love is lust. It only makes sense to stop lust. And to stop lust would be to lower testosterone. There is medicine to increase it but not many to decrease. Most medicines that decrease it is usually a side effect for another medicine for another purpose. The one specifically to lower testosterone is usually reserved for sex offenders called chemical castration. This is prescription so I cannot get it or else I would get it in a heartbeat.

There are supposedly supplements that lower testosterone such as black licorice, spearmint, saw palmetto, and a few others. I do not believe supplements work.

After, the research I have yet to find anything prevents me from falling in love. There has to be something out there, but I'm just missing it! This is where I need your help!

P.S. Correct me on incorrect grammar. I've vigorously checked this post.

[Vanilla Cupcake]

Don't do that, just let things happen as they fall. There is a reason for everything and it's all a learning experience.
For every negative thing that happens in our lives, the is always a positive too. It's how we learn.
I know it's hard and disappointing, but love makes the world go round.

Have you ever seen the move The Secret? I found it fascinating. It's about the Law of attraction.
Don't give up! :)

[Tesserax]

I've met a lot of heartache recently. Due to me being a fact and logic man. I noticed that I have a high failure rate of getting in relationships or being in relationships. Long story short, I've failed 10 times in the past two years. Two weeks ago made eleven. Unfortunately, this has led me to despise relationships. For example, when I see a lovey dovey post on Instagram I cringe.

This is background information for the purpose of what I am about to ask. How does one stop falling in love? Biologically, it's difficult I know. I've done research on this for a while. Scientifically, the stages when a person falls in love goes like this.

Stage 1: Lust

Stage 2: Attraction

Stage 3 Attachment

Lust is driven by testosterone for men and estrogen for women. Since the first stage of falling in love is lust. It only makes sense to stop lust. And to stop lust would be to lower testosterone. There is medicine to increase it but not many to decrease. Most medicines that decrease it is usually a side effect for another medicine for another purpose. The one specifically to lower testosterone is usually reserved for sex offenders called chemical castration. This is prescription so I cannot get it or else I would get it in a heartbeat.

There are supposedly supplements that lower testosterone such as black licorice, spearmint, saw palmetto, and a few others. I do not believe supplements work.

After, the research I have yet to find anything prevents me from falling in love. There has to be something out there, but I'm just missing it! This is where I need your help!

P.S. Correct me on incorrect grammar. I've vigorously checked this post.

Don't. Do not do this. Listen to yourself, this is not logical at all. "I tried and failed therefore I will give up". Logical men do not give up, they look at the problem and try to understand it. You may be picking the wrong partners, or picking partners for the wrong reason, or you may even be incorrect in your evaluation of love. For me, love does not start at lust. I lust over a lot of people, but the people I begin to truly love are ones I develop a strong emotional connection with. So my order of falling in love would rather be:

Friendship
Attraction
Love

You have to get to know the other person first, and get to know them really well. Build that strong emotional connection, it's much harder to break than a physical one. After that, take them out on a date, if they enjoy it then you've begun to build attraction. Attraction will continue to build as you talk to, get to know, and see the other person, and simultaneously the love that you share will begin to build up. Eventually your attraction reaches a peak, but the love you share may yet continue to grow through experience or other things.

Take the logical approach, realize that maybe your method is wrong, or your hypothesis, and then adjust, change, adapt, and reevaluate after experimenting further. That's how I've always dealt with my relationships. In fact, I've only actually been in one myself because I've always been shy, and I've had to pretty much teach myself how to get a girl.

I began pretty badly, the first couple I just had to let go. Then I started to become better friends with people, and tried to show interest, hoping that they would ask me out, but I realized soon that I had to do it myself. Stuff happens, I try sharing my feelings, only to be shut down. So then I tried something less direct, just asking out on a date. Would you like to go watch a movie with me? I found that making it personal helps. The girl enjoyed it, we kissed, and we went out for awhile. Unfortunately our relationship ended, but I know what we both did wrong, I learn, and I continue. Now I'm planning on asking somebody else out soon. This time, I have the method down; get to know, ask out, and then relationship stuff comes after. It's all up to refinement now, the details. Details are always important, but the method comes first.

So again, change your method, work out the kinks and flaws with what you're doing, and then try again. Logically, it's the best way to go about it. Giving up is the easy way with no reward, and you may find yourself falling in love anyway, but just without the sexual drive. The problem is that here you're trying to understand love, but you cannot understand it. But what you can understand and control is who you fall in love with, and that's the most important thing here.

[Awakened Sin]

Unfortunately, I already gave up. This won't change in the foreseeable future. Now I'm just looking at ways to make my life easier. It hurts for me to say this but there are countless others trying to help me with this and it doesn't work. I'm already to deep for help. And I'm ok with that! For now I'm just looking for something so I can stop myself from falling in love. I hate the feeling.

[SillyShyGuy]

I know that first comes infatuation. That is what causes us to get crushes on people when most of the time they will fade and we look back thinking, "I used to like that person?" I think approaching love scientifically is not very prudent. Love is something that happens naturally as does falling out of love. There is no scientific reason behind how a couple can stay together for over 30 years or for how a couple who was crazy about each other divorces after a few years. Sometimes science cannot explain certain situations. My advice to you would be to let it happen naturally. If you fear failure, do what I do and wait for a girl to approach you rather than approach many girls and face rejection.

[Awakened Sin]

I know that first comes infatuation. That is what causes us to get crushes on people when most of the time they will fade and we look back thinking, "I used to like that person?" I think approaching love scientifically is not very prudent. Love is something that happens naturally as does falling out of love. There is no scientific reason behind how a couple can stay together for over 30 years or for how a couple who was crazy about each other divorces after a few years. Sometimes science cannot explain certain situations. My advice to you would be to let it happen naturally. If you fear failure, do what I do and wait for a girl to approach you rather than approach many girls and face rejection.
I will always take the science look of love. Unfortunately, what you suggested will not work. I have tried that already.

[Tesserax]

Unfortunately, I already gave up. This won't change in the foreseeable future. Now I'm just looking at ways to make my life easier. It hurts for me to say this but there are countless others trying to help me with this and it doesn't work. I'm already to deep for help. And I'm ok with that! For now I'm just looking for something so I can stop myself from falling in love. I hate the feeling.

Alright how about this. If you run a race, and you lose, you don't cut your legs off. If you go up and do a speech and embarrass yourself, you don't cut your tongue out. If you fail at an exam, you don't dig your brain out.

You try, you fail, you try again. You don't give up. You hate the feeling? Yeah, you hate the feeling of anything good that comes your way, until it comes. The struggle, the fight for it before you get it is always painful. You want good grades? Work hard and don't play. You want to be fit? Work hard and train. You want to have a successful relationship? Work hard and make it happen. You can't just give up because you've failed. You've only gone about 10 times you said it yourself. Edison failed 1000 times in experiments when he tried to make a light bulb, and only succeeded once, but it was enough to immortalize him in the history books.

But if you're logical, perhaps you'll think of it better this way; if you give up entirely, and cut off any possibility of it working in the future, your chances are 0%. If, however, you give it a chance, you may think that the probability is low, and that you might get a lot of pain, but you still have that chance and it's fucking worth it. Pain is temporary, victory is forever, but victory doesn't come without persistence. You give up now, you give up forever on love. Know that if you go through with this, you will probably live alone the rest of your life, if you are to truly neuter your ability to fall in love.

In the end, the choice is up to you, but don't just think, feel. The logical part of our nature is important, but so is the emotional. Remember, you're 17, high school couples don't often work out. Generally, people are too horny to actually love each other, and that's the problem you're probably running into. You're just choosing the wrong partners, using lust as an excuse for love, and then blaming your failures on love and trying to remove it from yourself. If you truly want to be logical about it, you'll cut off your dick. Since lust is the big problem, you won't have a need for it, nor will you need your balls. Might as well completely castrate yourself. Like hey, it's the easiest way out, it guarantees that you won't "fall in love" the way you describe it, and it's probably a lot cheaper than getting chemically castrated.

[West Coast Sheriff]

It's natural for a man to want to love a woman or I guess another man. We are a special, advanced species that longs for companionship. However, in your case, you have probably been hurt so many times that you have become bitter to the idea of relationships. You see a relationship on Instagram and it hurts because it's what you want but don't have. I can relate to that. I believe that you will find a wonderful person. Now, you aren't attracted to any person because you have grown tired of just physical beauty. That can't satisfy your thirst for a true, loyal companion. You've been let down and are afraid to be let down again. You need a promising someone that you can have a deep connection with. And one day you will.

[Awakened Sin]

It's natural for a man to want to love a woman or I guess another man. We are a special, advanced species that longs for companionship. However, in your case, you have probably been hurt so many times that you have become bitter to the idea of relationships. You see a relationship on Instagram and it hurts because it's what you want but don't have. I can relate to that. I believe that you will find a wonderful person. Now, you aren't attracted to any person because you have grown tired of just physical beauty. That can't satisfy your thirst for a true, loyal companion. You've been let down and are afraid to be let down again. You need a promising someone that you can have a deep connection with. And one day you will.

Oh lord. That's not it at all. And I see myself being a bachelor in the future. Not everyone has to be in a relationship. Sort of like a Priest. I inspire to be like them. Awesome life with no women, just God. Anywho I don't see myself marrying. I know everyone says that but I SERIOUSLY don't see me marrying. I see myself being celibate more. Celibacy can definently help, but it's hard when emotions of love is in the way.