Long distance relationship HELP!

[RCT109]

i need help all
my gf is moving back home and its going to be rough but she doesnt want to do a ldr and i want to try it out
any advice

[SillyShyGuy]

It is a trap. Some people can manage a long distance relationship, but more often than not they do not work. I have had two. One did work because we truly loved each other and my girlfriend waited until I returned from college. The other cheated on me. If you are patient and love your partner, then give it a chance.

[Microcosm]

roby,

Hey, Shawn.

Your girlfriend being scared is totally normal. She doesn't want to hold onto you tightly over such a distance because that can sometimes have emotional effects on people that can be very difficult to bear.

Here is my suggestion as to what action you should take if you want a LDR: Try to visit her often and tell her that you will try to visit her often(this is optional because some people can't do this, but it really helps if you can actually see her in person occasionally). Also, talk to her about it and tell her that you don't want to lose her and that you think the two of you could work it out such that it would be a fulfilling relationship. Try Skyping frequently and texting and calling.

Discuss all of these things with her very seriously. If she is still obstinate or doubtful, please keep in mind that it is her decision to make in this case. If she doesn't think she can handle it and decides firmly that she won't do it, then it is best to try and let her go even if that is incredibly difficult. It would just cause both of you emotional harm if you weren't able to let her go after she'd severed ties with you and moved away.

Best of luck. I hope it works out for you.