trans friends

[old.acc]

i have 3 trans friends and i completely accept them and i feel very uncomfortable misgendering them and using the names that they dont like

however, everyone around me gives me dirty looks and seems to avoid me when they hear me calling them by their preferred names and pronouns. they say things like "you do know he's just doing it for attention, right?" and "thats not a boy its a girl" etc

i dont want to go around arguing with people about this (i dont want to fall out with them) because barely anyone understands it properly or accepts it and they seem to assume im gay or something and they seem to avoid me slightly

what should i do about this? :confused: :(

[thatgothgirluknow]

ignore them (the people avoiding you) i have plenty of trans friends and calling them by what makes them comfortable is best if you start calling them by the wrong gender or name because of everyone else they may feel like your putting them down and being like the people making fun of them don't worry if people avoid you that's their problem not yours

[northy]

Don't listen to the people that don't understand, they are just being ignorant and are probably evangelical Christians or something. Stick with your friends as they will appreciate the support that you give them. You should be friends with someone because of who they are and not what gender, sex, or sexuality they are.

[old.acc]

ignore them (the people avoiding you) i have plenty of trans friends and calling them by what makes them comfortable is best if you start calling them by the wrong gender or name because of everyone else they may feel like your putting them down and being like the people making fun of them don't worry if people avoid you that's their problem not yours

thank u c:

[old.acc]

Don't listen to the people that don't understand, they are just being ignorant and are probably evangelical Christians or something. Stick with your friends as they will appreciate the support that you give them. You should be friends with someone because of who they are and not what gender, sex, or sexuality they are.

thanks c:

[Semi_IronMan]

i have 3 trans friends and i completely accept them and i feel very uncomfortable misgendering them and using the names that they dont like

however, everyone around me gives me dirty looks and seems to avoid me when they hear me calling them by their preferred names and pronouns. they say things like "you do know he's just doing it for attention, right?" and "thats not a boy its a girl" etc

i dont want to go around arguing with people about this (i dont want to fall out with them) because barely anyone understands it properly or accepts it and they seem to assume im gay or something and they seem to avoid me slightly

what should i do about this? :confused: :(

There comes a point in your life when you need to start realizing that people will always talk, it's really up to u to decide what you listen to. U can rather listen to the negative stuff or the negative stuff, I recommend the latter. Haters gonna hate, do like Taylor and just shake it off. Good luck! :)

[old.acc]

There comes a point in your life when you need to start realizing that people will always talk, it's really up to u to decide what you listen to. U can rather listen to the negative stuff or the negative stuff, I recommend the latter. Haters gonna hate, do like Taylor and just shake it off. Good luck! :)

haha thanks c:

[Semi_IronMan]

haha thanks c:

I'm so sorry. That was supposed to say negative stuff or positive stuff, just saw that now.

[Zachary G]

Who care what other people think. There will always be people who will not like the things that you do or the people you associate with and its more their problem than it is yours. So let them live in their misery. Who wants to be friends with someone who is judgmental and insecure in their own sexuality (possibly) -- if they are saying things like that to you, who is to say they arent saying those same things about you behind your back? You dont want to argue or fall out, I understand that, but you should re-evaluate who you might want your friends to be

[HunterDaniels]

i have 3 trans friends and i completely accept them and i feel very uncomfortable misgendering them and using the names that they dont like

however, everyone around me gives me dirty looks and seems to avoid me when they hear me calling them by their preferred names and pronouns. they say things like "you do know he's just doing it for attention, right?" and "thats not a boy its a girl" etc

i dont want to go around arguing with people about this (i dont want to fall out with them) because barely anyone understands it properly or accepts it and they seem to assume im gay or something and they seem to avoid me slightly

what should i do about this? :confused: :(

You need to decide who your real "friends" are
These people are ignorant and close minded. I know I personally wouldnt be friends with them.
Its one thing to be like "I dont fully understand this transgender thing, explain i to me..."
but its another thing to totally close yourslf off to it and put down a person because of what gender they identify with.

[ptz7649]

You are doing the right thing so well done you. Ignore those jerks. Yeah this is a tough situation to be in

[old.acc]

I'm so sorry. That was supposed to say negative stuff or positive stuff, just saw that now.

its fine i could tell c:

[old.acc]

Who care what other people think. There will always be people who will not like the things that you do or the people you associate with and its more their problem than it is yours. So let them live in their misery. Who wants to be friends with someone who is judgmental and insecure in their own sexuality (possibly) -- if they are saying things like that to you, who is to say they arent saying those same things about you behind your back? You dont want to argue or fall out, I understand that, but you should re-evaluate who you might want your friends to be

that makes sense
thank u c:

[old.acc]

You need to decide who your real "friends" are
These people are ignorant and close minded. I know I personally wouldnt be friends with them.
Its one thing to be like "I dont fully understand this transgender thing, explain i to me..."
but its another thing to totally close yourslf off to it and put down a person because of what gender they identify with.

yea thats true
thanks for the reply c:

[old.acc]

You are doing the right thing so well done you. Ignore those jerks. Yeah this is a tough situation to be in

thankss c:

[Awakened Sin]

Dude, don't care about what other people think. You do you.

[ECSTASY]

Ignore them . That always works ;)