Upset

[Hero.of.Hyrule]

Hai so lately ive been upset with my body image and it kinda has lead me into depression. And on top of that, as im going through puberty i think im starting to accept myself as being gay. But, my parents, friends, best friends, and all the people around me dont accept gay people. I cant talk to anyone about it because everyone around me wont accept me... i wanted help and i would also like to know if any other guys that are going thorugh puberty has had problems like this - if any of you have can you please share your experience? Thanks guys <3

[Bluebyrd]

I haven't had problems like this but the most important thing for you to remember is that you can't help who you are, that includes your sexuality. My best advice to you is to just keep your sexuality to yourself for now because living with homophobic people as a gay person, I could imagine wouldn't be particularly pleasant.

[alex67]

Firstly, I would like to say that there is a bunch of people like you out there that are the same as you right now. I think you have a self-steem problem and the only way to treat this is by feeling confident. Don't let your body image control you, try to believe a bit more in yourself and don't let any judgements depress you, even though it is hard nowadays where physical appearance seems to be what matters the most.

Secondly, I must accept that Im kind of in the same situation as you are about accepting yourself as being gay, although Im accepting myself more like in a bi way. I completely understand you because "my parents, friends, best friends, and all the people around me dont accept gay people" neither which is why I came here to Virtual Teen to feel as if I could express more freely about my feelings.

I hope this has helped...

[ska8er]

If u think u r bi or gay and worry that someone is not going
to accept u-I would not come out during puberty or any other
time until u first think that ur parents or friends will accept u.
this is a hard time for many of us and there is no need to put
other probs on top of it. If u still have depressing feelings u
can look and c if there is a LGBT organization in ur area. I read
that they give guidance over the phone and they do not ask u for
ur name but that is a last resort cause I would b cautious myself
if it is secret. I consider myself straight but I have bi feelings toward
other guys so I am confused right now. I like it both ways but none
of my friends know or my parents and it is going to stay that way
unless one or more of my friends tell me that they have the same feelings
but who will tell and who knows who is who. Take it slow and calm down-
no use to get sick over it-im sure it will get better as we get older-I hope.

[ashdaniel]

I have been through all those stage you mention. I had bad body image and self-conscious. I thought was gay and very scared to tell people but find out I am bi. It is hard to accept who you are but that is the first step. There is always a way to work out. Come on, gay marriage is legal now in the state. How long will it take to let people accept people? Just be yourself and you find a way out and remember to stay positive no matter what.

[thatonekidjacob]

You can talk to people at the Trevor Project. They helped me one time when I really needed it. google Trevor Project

[HunterDaniels]

Hai so lately ive been upset with my body image and it kinda has lead me into depression. And on top of that, as im going through puberty i think im starting to accept myself as being gay. But, my parents, friends, best friends, and all the people around me dont accept gay people. I cant talk to anyone about it because everyone around me wont accept me... i wanted help and i would also like to know if any other guys that are going thorugh puberty has had problems like this - if any of you have can you please share your experience? Thanks guys <3

Dude I'm right here with you. A year ago I was majorly depressed and deLing with that I was gay and being bullied and I tried to take my life. Lucky that I didn't cuz now a year later I'm out to everyone and I'm so much more happy. Pleas contact me if you want to talk about that. You're not alone.
As far as body image I hate everything about it.
I hate that I'm short and my voice and penis stuff and hair and all that. I'm not like depressed over it but at least once a day I think about it and it sucks. I'm smart enough to realize that all the changes will happen and everyone does it at their own pace and everyone catches up. I heard it all before but still it sucks. But what can you do? Nothing.
Wow that totally wasn't helpful lol but really what can u do?

[hairy balls]

hi hero if you are depressed you must go and talk to some one about they will help you either a dr or a councillor not sure how old you are but don't try to work it out on your own I had the same problem and I ended up in hospital I thank god I admitted I had a problem if you like you can talk to me I feel for you