I need to tell my Grandma

[Croconaw]

I might need tell my extreme catholic grandma that I'm gay. I was bi-curious a while ago but I found out that I only have a sexual and romantic interest in girls. When this girl hugged me it felt different because I liked it; it made me freeze on the inside. I've never felt that way with guys I experimented with. I was extremely grossed out when he showed me his you know what. I kissed a girl a few days ago and it was amazing. I'm going to a dance type party thing with this girl in about three weeks. It's something that the group I'm in at school is doing. My dad agreed to drive me there, and my grandma is driving me home. The thing is, she said that I better not be going to the dance with a girl or I will die in hell. I'm an atheist, and she doesn't know that either. She keeps trying to set me up with dudes for the dance though. I told her I wasn't interested and she said it was fine and maybe next time. Now I feel like I need to tell her I'm gay. Can anyone help me? I have to tell her sooner or later so I thought I'd get it over with. I want her to still like me even after telling her this...

[MechaSniper]

I'm not the religious type myself but isn't part of family to forgive and forget. if she really loved you she wouldn't care.

[Harry Smith]

To be honest I don't think it's worth it. I'm in a similar position with my grandma. She's a lovely caring woman but she simply would dismiss it. She's 89 so she's not very liberal on homosexuality and it's really not worth the effort for me.

She sounds like a pretty die hard catholic so I doubt she'll be very compassionate about it, I know the films always say you have to stand up and everything will be fine but life's just shit about stuff like this. As much as I wish I could say 'she'll love you no matter' when it comes to situations like this you can't be that idealistic

[Aajj333]

She shouldn't be telling you that you will die in hell for dating a girl. She comes from a different time where she was taught to believe that that stuff is bad. I just cant see how she would care if your gay or straight or bi. If she loves you she wont.

[Gamma Male]

I wouldn't. I obviously don't know her very well, but based on what you've said she doesn't seem like the most accepting person. Wait until you move out.

[DeadEyes]

I would say you don't "need" to tell anybody.

[Croconaw]

I would say you don't "need" to tell anybody.I just hope she doesn't find out when she picks me up.

[DeadEyes]

I just hope she doesn't find out when she picks me up.

You could pretend you went there togheter just as single friends.

[Croconaw]

I'm not dating her. She's straight. My grandma seems to jump to conclusions when I hang out with people. :lol: Thanks for the help! :)

[DeadEyes]

I'm not dating her. She's straight. My grandma seems to jump to conclusions when I hang out with people. :lol: Thanks for the help! :)

My misunderstood then, you are actually going together as single friends haha, but if you were actually dating, you could still pretend that.

It might sound bad to lie and pretend something but well, a good part of life in society is made of pretending so if it's to stay out of trouble, why not.