Afraid or fear of penis

[Beach_Blonde]

I don't like the thought of having a penis inside of me. My friends were talking about it girls using hairbrushes and carrots to simulate having a penis in them and I just thought it was to weird and I couldn't see myself doing it. I don't know if its just he thought of having a penis in me that scares me or having it actually like be thrust inside.
I do use my fingers when I masturbate and I've used little objects like a sharpie but I just don't like the idea of having a penis in me. I don't know if its the size and thickness or if I'm afraid it'll hurt. I know I am young and I am still a virgin ( I think), and I'm pretty sure I like girls more.

But still I want to know if I am weird, or if this will go away in time? Also are there anyone else who has a similar fear?

[Exotic Babe]

There are both people who are just “turned off” by the thought of a penis and those who are legitimately afraid of them (the phobia is called Phallophobia). And I can pretty easily see how the thought of having something so big and thick stuck up your vagina can seem quite uncomfortable and scary. I don't think you're weird for that. Will you get over it? Time will show. Whether the fear kinda just fades away by itself or maybe it'll go away because of some good experiences.

[Vanilla Cupcake]

I admit I'm frightened of thought but at the same time I really want to try it, I want to know what it feels like. I know after I get through the pain then it will be awesome and that's what I wanna experience.

[kryptonite]

I don't like the thought of having a penis inside of me. My friends were talking about it girls using hairbrushes and carrots to simulate having a penis in them and I just thought it was to weird and I couldn't see myself doing it. I don't know if its just he thought of having a penis in me that scares me or having it actually like be thrust inside.
I do use my fingers when I masturbate and I've used little objects like a sharpie but I just don't like the idea of having a penis in me. I don't know if its the size and thickness or if I'm afraid it'll hurt. I know I am young and I am still a virgin ( I think), and I'm pretty sure I like girls more.

But still I want to know if I am weird, or if this will go away in time? Also are there anyone else who has a similar fear?


It's the thing a guy pees with. Yeah, the fear is totally normal. Unless you've had sex, you're a virgin. The definition of "virgin" is a bit tricky because you can have something in you and you're still a virgin. If all you do is oral, you're probably not a virgin. It's a bit of a gray area.

The fear will probably go away in time.

[ClaraWho]

I don't like the thought of having a penis inside of me. My friends were talking about it girls using hairbrushes and carrots to simulate having a penis in them and I just thought it was to weird and I couldn't see myself doing it. I don't know if its just he thought of having a penis in me that scares me or having it actually like be thrust inside.
I do use my fingers when I masturbate and I've used little objects like a sharpie but I just don't like the idea of having a penis in me. I don't know if its the size and thickness or if I'm afraid it'll hurt. I know I am young and I am still a virgin ( I think), and I'm pretty sure I like girls more.

But still I want to know if I am weird, or if this will go away in time? Also are there anyone else who has a similar fear?

May I ask what age you are? I wouldn't worry about it until it becomes an issue, give it time!

~ Clara

[Claire Asteroid]

I'm nervous of the idea of having a penis inside me too, I'm 17. I'd like to know what it's like, but it seems pretty scary too.

[Maria16 Here]

I don't like the thought of having a penis inside of me. My friends were talking about it girls using hairbrushes and carrots to simulate having a penis in them and I just thought it was to weird and I couldn't see myself doing it. I don't know if its just he thought of having a penis in me that scares me or having it actually like be thrust inside.
I do use my fingers when I masturbate and I've used little objects like a sharpie but I just don't like the idea of having a penis in me. I don't know if its the size and thickness or if I'm afraid it'll hurt. I know I am young and I am still a virgin ( I think), and I'm pretty sure I like girls more.

But still I want to know if I am weird, or if this will go away in time? Also are there anyone else who has a similar fear?

Nothing unusual about being afraid to do something you never did before. With the right guy and at the right time you will find that the desire for sex will surpass your fear of sex.

[KellyNC]

I don't consider that to be strange or to mean anything about your sexuality, it can definitely feel intimidating to imagine something that size entering you. That being said I think when you're with a guy you're interested in, and maybe do some foreplay to get a better feel for it, it won't feel so scary and you maybe find yourself really wanting it.

[sabbi]

Nature will take over when the time comes ( no pun intended)::)

[ClaraWho]

On a similar note..

I can't personally relate to this question, but my instinct is that's because I've never considered anything sexual with anyone I don't trust completely; trust never to hurt me and will always keep me safe. Therefore it's never been an even minor concern, but I didn't start having more sexual orientated thoughts until I was older than most (around 15 actually), which may be a contributing factor for some.

~ Clara

[tulolita2015]

I used to be afraid of big penises when start having sex. Specially black-americans men have most of the time big penises. To my experience. After more sexual experience now i like them.

[ClaraWho]

I used to be afraid of big penises when start having sex. Specially black-americans men have most of the time big penises. To my experience. After more sexual experience now i like them.

Just to clarify that black african-american men do not actually have bigger penises, compared to Caucasian or Hispanic, according to extensive scientific research. That it merely a myth.

I appreciate your own personally experience has been different, but just to allay any misunderstanding.

~ Clara

[angelina]

My friends were talking about it girls using hairbrushes and carrots to simulate having a penis in them and I just thought it was to weird and I couldn't see myself doing it. I don't know if its just he thought of having a penis in me that scares me or having it actually like be thrust inside.

It is common in our friends' circle to have small size carrots and blunt objects which resembles a penis inside us occasionally . My girl cuz told an actual penis is better than these objects as that does not hurt in anyway..i have not tried yet

[tulolita2015]

I dont think its safe to put inside our vagina a carrot, cucumber or any vegetable, I think we can get an infection. I tried few times with cucumbers then I read that is not safe for us, unless you put a condom on it, I guess. Better try your fingers, or something that can be safer, thats my opinion.

[Doro15]

you can not compare a real penis with a cucumber or banana. And also every penis is different.

[LilLena]

But still I want to know if I am weird, or if this will go away in time? Also are there anyone else who has a similar fear?

I don't think it is weird. - I feel the same actually. Cannot imagine having a penis in there.
I still believe the others, that maybe the feeling will change with the right person and when I'm older. However, I don't like putting anything inside either.

[Beach_Blonde]

May I ask what age you are? I wouldn't worry about it until it becomes an issue, give it time!

~ Clara

I'm only 13. Pretty close to being 14. I think it might go away with time and Im still fairly young. (I don't think I'll ever get use to admittong that). I

I just feel like the werid girl with my friends. They all seem ready for sex and I know I'm not there yet.

But I'm glad to know I'm not the only girl who is slightly afraid. And its not something I could really talk to my friends about. I almost didn't make a post about it on here.
But now I'm just wondering of its just a natural fear that will go away with time....granted I become interested in boys again...or more of an actual turn off. Which is why I'm so much more interested in girls.

[ClaraWho]

I'm only 13. Pretty close to being 14. I think it might go away with time and Im still fairly young. (I don't think I'll ever get use to admittong that). I

I just feel like the werid girl with my friends. They all seem ready for sex and I know I'm not there yet.

But I'm glad to know I'm not the only girl who is slightly afraid. And its not something I could really talk to my friends about. I almost didn't make a post about it on here.
But now I'm just wondering of its just a natural fear that will go away with time....granted I become interested in boys again...or more of an actual turn off. Which is why I'm so much more interested in girls.

Well, I wouldn't posit a fear of potential pain when having intercourse as a reason to not like boys sexually. That's what it is right? You're scared it will hurt to have him inside of you?

So if we reframe that, you are scared of being physically hurt, which is completely rational and understandable.

Some things to keep in mind;
- Whilst a penis is described as 'hard', it isn't like a pen or hairbrush. It doesn't even have a bone in it! Despite the misnomer 'boner'. Maybe Google for some flaccid penis images to see what I mean, if your internet history allows...
- Do you touch yourself? If so then do your fingers hurt when you are gentle? No, right? Same thing applies here. If you find someone WORTH giving yourself to sexually, then they will be just as gentle as you, or you could always be in charge hah :P
- Studies show most guys are in the 3-6.5 inches range, with most being around 4 so if you see massive pensises in porn, either they are oddities and exceptions, or they are filmed to look bigger than they are (close ups, wide lens, etc I'm guessing).

So in terms of your age, you are really young to be even thinking about sex. I knew about the biological side of sex when I was 12/13, but had no interest in doing anything until 15. Most other girls will use bravado to make themselves appear 'older' than they are, but why rush to be an adult? From what I've heard, adult life isn't all that fun... Sex can wait till you are ready, and have met the right person for you. Any monkey with genitals can have sex, it's only special if it's with someone you love.

As for liking girls more than boys, I'd forget about all of that. Nobody needs labels. If you fall in love with a girl, you'll know about it. And it will be okay, because that's who you are. If not, well then such is life.

Hope I've helped,

~ Clara

[Beach_Blonde]

I'm not really scared off the pain. I didn't really think it would be to much different then when I use my fingers. I don't know how to explain it. I think it's more mental then anything. Like I don't really know. Just something about it werids me out.

[JessiF]

Well, I wouldn't posit a fear of potential pain when having intercourse as a reason to not like boys sexually. That's what it is right? You're scared it will hurt to have him inside of you?

So if we reframe that, you are scared of being physically hurt, which is completely rational and understandable.

Some things to keep in mind;
- Whilst a penis is described as 'hard', it isn't like a pen or hairbrush. It doesn't even have a bone in it! Despite the misnomer 'boner'. Maybe Google for some flaccid penis images to see what I mean, if your internet history allows...
- Do you touch yourself? If so then do your fingers hurt when you are gentle? No, right? Same thing applies here. If you find someone WORTH giving yourself to sexually, then they will be just as gentle as you, or you could always be in charge hah :P
- Studies show most guys are in the 3-6.5 inches range, with most being around 4 so if you see massive pensises in porn, either they are oddities and exceptions, or they are filmed to look bigger than they are (close ups, wide lens, etc I'm guessing).

So in terms of your age, you are really young to be even thinking about sex. I knew about the biological side of sex when I was 12/13, but had no interest in doing anything until 15. Most other girls will use bravado to make themselves appear 'older' than they are, but why rush to be an adult? From what I've heard, adult life isn't all that fun... Sex can wait till you are ready, and have met the right person for you. Any monkey with genitals can have sex, it's only special if it's with someone you love.

As for liking girls more than boys, I'd forget about all of that. Nobody needs labels. If you fall in love with a girl, you'll know about it. And it will be okay, because that's who you are. If not, well then such is life.

Hope I've helped,

~ Clara


Everything which Clara has said. Great post and answers everything !

[federica]

I don't like the thought of having a penis inside of me. My friends were talking about it girls using hairbrushes and carrots to simulate having a penis in them and I just thought it was to weird and I couldn't see myself doing it. I don't know if its just he thought of having a penis in me that scares me or having it actually like be thrust inside.
I do use my fingers when I masturbate and I've used little objects like a sharpie but I just don't like the idea of having a penis in me. I don't know if its the size and thickness or if I'm afraid it'll hurt. I know I am young and I am still a virgin ( I think), and I'm pretty sure I like girls more.

But still I want to know if I am weird, or if this will go away in time? Also are there anyone else who has a similar fear?
i am not afraid at all, i am very curious about penis

[Jamy]

I'm not really scared off the pain. I didn't really think it would be to much different then when I use my fingers. I don't know how to explain it. I think it's more mental then anything. Like I don't really know. Just something about it werids me out.

How are you now about this topic and I hope all goes well with you. The other girls here gave you already a lot of good advice and information.

:)

[veroda]

ok I feel like Im weird for feeling exactly the opposite... Im a virgin... I tried to put a pen inside of me a while ago and didnt like it... I recently tried a small shampoo bottle and it did hurt like hell... with my finger I never had any pleasure out of it but I love rubbing my clit... still I dunno but I just feel I want a penis inside of me... :whoops:

[amelia_]

ok I feel like Im weird for feeling exactly the opposite... Im a virgin... I tried to put a pen inside of me a while ago and didnt like it... I recently tried a small shampoo bottle and it did hurt like hell... with my finger I never had any pleasure out of it but I love rubbing my clit... still I dunno but I just feel I want a penis inside of me... :whoops:

that kinda makes sense like the idea of sex with a boy is alot different than just putting something in

[The1uwant]

ok I feel like Im weird for feeling exactly the opposite... Im a virgin... I tried to put a pen inside of me a while ago and didnt like it... I recently tried a small shampoo bottle and it did hurt like hell... with my finger I never had any pleasure out of it but I love rubbing my clit... still I dunno but I just feel I want a penis inside of me... :whoops:

I get more pleasure from rubbing my clit then from penitration of any kind also

[Jamy]

ok I feel like Im weird for feeling exactly the opposite... Im a virgin... I tried to put a pen inside of me a while ago and didnt like it... I recently tried a small shampoo bottle and it did hurt like hell... with my finger I never had any pleasure out of it but I love rubbing my clit... still I dunno but I just feel I want a penis inside of me... :whoops:

Veroda and also Amelia, a penis feels very different than a pen or a shampoo bottle.

[Living For Love]

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