When?

[AnxietyAndIL]

I've been talking to this girl online for a while and I think that I'm getting feelings for her. When should I tell her?

[Vanilla Cupcake]

If you have been talking for a while then I'd say tell her now. Why not it can't hurt, maybe she feels the same about you!

[AnxietyAndIL]

If you have been talking for a while then I'd say tell her now. Why not it can't hurt, maybe she feels the same about you!


When I said a while I meant 3 days lol

But we've been talking almost constantly so idk

[Exotic Babe]

You should tell her when you feel like it. Why rush, 3 days sounds quite a little to me. You can just tell her it's nice talking to her or smth. I would personally be quite disappointed when a guy straight up told me he has feelings for me when we had only been talking for 3 days. Also, does she live near you? Have you seen pictures of each other? It's great when you can hold up a conversation online, but in real life? I'd suggest if possible, meet up irl before you confess your feelings to her, and in case she doesn't live near you, maybe she's not into online dating?

[AnxietyAndIL]

You should tell her when you feel like it. Why rush, 3 days sounds quite a little to me. You can just tell her it's nice talking to her or smth. I would personally be quite disappointed when a guy straight up told me he has feelings for me when we had only been talking for 3 days. Also, does she live near you? Have you seen pictures of each other? It's great when you can hold up a conversation online, but in real life? I'd suggest if possible, meet up irl before you confess your feelings to her, and in case she doesn't live near you, maybe she's not into online dating?

Yeah I know 3 days is short :/

She lives about 3 and a half hours away driving so it's far but not super far. Yeah we've seen pictures of eachother, we've been snapchatting and stuff.

How long do you think I should wait if not soon?

[Exotic Babe]

Yeah I know 3 days is short :/

She lives about 3 and a half hours away driving so it's far but not super far. Yeah we've seen pictures of eachother, we've been snapchatting and stuff.

How long do you think I should wait if not soon?

Uh, I don't even know, I'm personally not a big fan of online dating. But if you really like talking to each other and feel physically attracted to her as well, then you could like tell her you really enjoy talking to her or something in the lines of that and see how she reacts and what she says and kinda go with the flow... I definitely wouldn't like if someone straight up told me "I like you, wanna date" and irl I'd like the first kiss before that, but that isn't really possible online lol. Maybe you guys could Skype or smth so it would feel more 'real' other than just messaging her about it?

[SillyShyGuy]

My advice as a guy who has dated two girls I met online: do not do it. If distance is not already an obvious issue, the fact that you have no tangible connection other than your chatroom is a red flag. I think it is better to meet girls (or any significant other) in person.

[AnxietyAndIL]

Uh, I don't even know, I'm personally not a big fan of online dating. But if you really like talking to each other and feel physically attracted to her as well, then you could like tell her you really enjoy talking to her or something in the lines of that and see how she reacts and what she says and kinda go with the flow... I definitely wouldn't like if someone straight up told me "I like you, wanna date" and irl I'd like the first kiss before that, but that isn't really possible online lol. Maybe you guys could Skype or smth so it would feel more 'real' other than just messaging her about it?

My advice as a guy who has dated two girls I met online: do not do it. If distance is not already an obvious issue, the fact that you have no tangible connection other than your chatroom is a red flag. I think it is better to meet girls (or any significant other) in person.


I think I failed to mention that we've been skyping for long duractions of time so it's not just a chatroom or messaging haha. Does this change anything?

[Exotic Babe]

I think I failed to mention that we've been skyping for long duractions of time so it's not just a chatroom or messaging haha. Does this change anything?

Well, it definitely makes things more personal and I'd say it's better than just messaging or chatting in a chatroom. You can see each other's faces and emotions, even if virtually. It probably still wouldn't work for me tho, seeing as I'd want to hold hands and hug and kiss with my loved one and the whole online dating thing just doesn't sound good to me. It may not last, but you guys can give it a try I guess.

[AnxietyAndIL]

Well, it definitely makes things more personal and I'd say it's better than just messaging or chatting in a chatroom. You can see each other's faces and emotions, even if virtually. It probably still wouldn't work for me tho, seeing as I'd want to hold hands and hug and kiss with my loved one and the whole online dating thing just doesn't sound good to me. It may not last, but you guys can give it a try I guess.

Well it would be my second LDR so I know I can handle is but this distance is about 4 times as far as my last one.

Being physical is big for me too but strong feelings are more important to me I guess but I'm not really sure if it's the best choice :( i really like her though

[Exotic Babe]

Well it would be my second LDR so I know I can handle is but this distance is about 4 times as far as my last one.

Being physical is big for me too but strong feelings are more important to me I guess but I'm not really sure if it's the best choice :( i really like her though

Well, you can always give it a try and see how it goes.

[Vanilla Cupcake]

When I said a while I meant 3 days lol

But we've been talking almost constantly so idk

Well 3 days isn't too long but if you have been talking for many hrs I can see how you could really get to know one another.

Do you think she feels strongly for you too? Like do you get a sense?

[Maria16 Here]

I think I failed to mention that we've been skyping for long duractions of time so it's not just a chatroom or messaging haha. Does this change anything?

I really don't think we can tell you when, but if you have been skyping for hours so far I would hope that she must also have some feelings for you so just be honest with her.