Are big strong guys even attractive to anyone anymore?

[Gunter]

I ask, because it seems that like 20 years ago, girls liked guys that were strong as hell, opposed to being girly, or just having abs. I'm 5'10" i weigh 250lbs (not near as fat as you think lol) i bench around 300 lbs, im a very good football player, and shot put thrower. But every girl seems to find girly guys, or guys with abs way more attractive. Had to rant a little. lol

[Uniquemind]

I doubt anything has changed except technology and it's influences on socialization.

[SethfromMI]

I ask, because it seems that like 20 years ago, girls liked guys that were strong as hell, opposed to being girly, or just having abs. I'm 5'10" i weigh 250lbs (not near as fat as you think lol) i bench around 300 lbs, im a very good football player, and shot put thrower. But every girl seems to find girly guys, or guys with abs way more attractive. Had to rant a little. lol

what's your definition of girly? if they are not built like a body builder? I play football and baseball. I am not ripped, but the girls find me attractive

[Gunter]

by girly i mean the emo guys that the girls could probably woop

[BookSmart]

Okay, so I definitely do not speak for all the ladies out there! But!

I think that different people have different preferences. A lot of girls find guys who are "edgy" or "hipsters" attractive, and I honestly think it's just because of media influences? (although I'm not really into goth guys or hipsters)

When I think of an attractive male, admittedly, initially I may think of abs! But The guy I'm dating right now isn't incredibly ripped, and I still find him extremely attractive. I think his smile and eyes are just amazing!

But my point is, there could definitely be girls out there who still like super buff men! But people are a lot more accepting of varying body types now, so many girls let their preferences show. And honestly, personality is the biggest factor in why most people end up being attracted to each other! (Well that and pheromones, but I'll spare you the whole science side of things).

If your a nice guy, I'm sure your appearance will only help you even more in finding a nice girl to be with. I bet there's already someone who has their eye on you! :)

[Vanilla Cupcake]

I love a big guy with muscles. I prefer a big guy over a skinny guy and he doesn't have to be a body builder either. Abs are nice but I don't really care one way or the other. I think a belly is kinda cute.
Bigger guys look more cuddly and more manly. I know most teen boys start of skinny but when they start to develop I prefer bigger.
I also like taller guys :) but it's not a deal breaker.

[SillyShyGuy]

Ehh there are several reasons why. It is the trends and culture to blame. I mean someone as fitting as you should have at least some girls trying to be with you. I am tall, slim, and into things like student government or yearbook- though I can be athletic when I must. Girls seem to like abs no matter which guy has them. But girls like guys who are more feminine because they can relate to them. If a guy only talks about getting laid, sports, and video games a girl loses interest in a heartbeat. That is why my last years of high school I switched from a group of over masculine guys to a group of just girls and a gay guy. I learned things about girls guys can only dream of. It is all about making girls feel connected, make sure you are addressing her interests and find things that you can relate to with her.

[Exotic Babe]

Everybody is different - some women feel more attracted to big muscular guys, some like guys who work out and have abs and everything, but aren't considered the 'body-builder type', some like the slim ones and some find the chubbier guys cute. You seem to think highly of your appearance and sport skills, but don't forget that personality is also important. Definitely don't act arrogant or egoistic or like you're irresistible and every girl should ask you out (because to me, your question sounded a little like 'hey, I'm so hot, why don't girls fall for me?").

[Gunter]

Everybody is different - some women feel more attracted to big muscular guys, some like guys who work out and have abs and everything, but aren't considered the 'body-builder type', some like the slim ones and some find the chubbier guys cute. You seem to think highly of your appearance and sport skills, but don't forget that personality is also important. Definitely don't act arrogant or egoistic or like you're irresistible and every girl should ask you out (because to me, your question sounded a little like 'hey, I'm so hot, why don't girls fall for me?").

Nothing like that at all, i know im not a hot guy, i was just wondering why things have changed

[Exotic Babe]

Nothing like that at all, i know im not a hot guy, i was just wondering why things have changed

Hehe, I didn't say you weren't a hot guy btw, but yes, it's the 21st century and many beauty standards have changed.

[Melodic]

Well. I'm not really attracted to the athletic type honestly. I typically don't have anything in common with them. However, I know plenty of people who find them attractive. It's just a preference thing.

[Maria16 Here]

Everyone has different tastes. Often I am amazed at two people who pair up and they look so very different. Big strong guy with petite girl, gorgeous cheerleader type with a skinny nerdy guy, etc. But it is not only looks that apply, it is how they act and work together.

[Uniquemind]

Looking back my former comment isn't wrong but it's vague.

Media drives preferences, as do the times, and the 80's were driven by such cultural stereotypes and math and science were less influential on people's day to day lives. Now math and science affected technology which brought the cool factor in, and the need or geek label rose in social status.


Provided good hygiene and social skills are practiced, nerdy people with poor hygiene and social skills are not highly looked upon still.


I imagine many girls still found some nerds attractive in the 80's, but even if some did if they thought they'd be mocked by peers for expressing their core romantic crushes, they probably didn't act on it, and guys being guys probably didn't notice the subtle signs of interest or didn't care for the girl.

Guys miss hints all the damn time too.

[Bluebyrd]

In the famous words of Bob Dylan "the times they are a-changing!" Some people just have different preferences and over time, people have started to prefer 'girly guys'. I personally prefer guys that are smaller than me.

[Microcosm]

If I were a woman, I would find "softer" guys more pleasant to be around. Tough guys are always trying to "pick up chicks" and not actually care about them. Plus, a guy can be smart and not be buff.

Point in case: Light has been brought on certain personality traits in guys in the past few years that women enjoy for a more long-term relationship.