Help Needed!! Me and a girl became really close friends but now she is ditching me

[hunter112]

So please help me out here- 2 months ago, me and a girl started becoming friends and we spoke for pretty much three quarters of a day everyday and like we know a lot about each other and it was all going great, then she started like play mocking me and i did the same back, and then around two weeks ago, she started like speaking to other boys in my friend circle and i started noticing that she would like change a bit and seem more arrogant as if she was trying to impress them and in the process she ditches me and like doesn't speak to me how she would when we are alone and she also ditches her close female friends, one of her friends alerted this girl to that issue with me there for moral support yet even though this girl said she will stop speaking to the boys that made her do this, she has started doing it again a few days ago and i dont know what to do as i feel like she doesnt want to be my friend anymore and ive put in a lot of effort in this friendship.

[Exotic Babe]

Oh, that must feel bad... I'd suggest you try and talk to her about how you feel about it and see how she reacts. If she promises you to not talk to these guys anymore but still keeps doing it... Well, not keeping her promises is definitely not what a good friend should do, but then again, you can't control her or prohibit her from talking to someone... So if she isn't willing to give up talking to these guys and keeps acting arrogant and ditching you, I'm afraid there's not much you can do, because friendship is a two-sided thing.

[Uniquemind]

She's an unstable personality type, exploring all sides to her budding personality, she's a chameleon who likes to adapt and learn from various social situations which is why she mingles with one group and then another one.

These are not good quality people to attempt to put in your inner most circle of friends, they are only good at a 2nd or 3rd degree of association and are apt to use you if you get too close.

In contrast these types of people will learn that the people they attract are the types of people who will use them in-kind, (thrill-seeking drugs, pranks, sex) at the price of stable trust and safe environments.

There's hope for her but the deeper she goes down the rabbit-hole the more baggage and drama it will take to be involved with her.

The question for you: is she worth it to endure all of that and if so what safeguards are you gonna put in place for yourself so you don't lose yourself to the rabbit-hole's depths?


Most people know not to attempt to "rescue" these types, people have the right to follow self-destructive paths, that is a choice those around them have to accept although not encourage.

[outback4]

If you want to keep talking to her, go ahead, but refrain from sharing anything too private that hasn't already been shared. People that don't stay loyal and like to try out a lot of other groups of people may use your secrets to get attention in the next group. Any other questions and you can ask me :)