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[Lewis1701]

So basically I hate the way I look and I'm fully convinced I am ugly because I've only had 2 relationships which where when I was a lot younger and where not serious but no one seems to like me and i just have this thing in the back of my mind that lowers all self esteem and I see all my friends having girlfriends and I don't but I'm not sure if it's because of how I look. Btw I am 15.

[Exotic Babe]

Seems to me you kind of have this really immovable thought about you being ugly, and it could be quite hard to get rid of... Idk, if I had lower self-esteem, I sometimes looked into the mirror and tried to find things about myself that I actually liked. It wasn't that hard really, but as you said, you are "fully convinced" and it can be a lot harder. But if you at least tried, that'd be nice. It would be better if you knew specifically what you don't like about yourself, so maybe you could try and change it. If for example you didn't like your hair, you could always get a new haircut. If you didn't like your eyes, you could maybe buy some zero-glass glasses that maybe made them look a little better. Etc. If you want, you can also point out the flaws in other people's appearances, just in your own head so it isn't actually rude or anything lol. Basically you have to work hard yourself to become more positive and get rid of these bad thoughts glued into your mind.

[redrider12]

I think we all have those times. It's a part of growing up - realizing that people aren't always going to jumping for you. Your classmates who are - get to know a few of them on a personal level. In my experience, the really "popular" guys who always have a new girlfriend aren't really happy with themselves. They just put on a face that girls are attracted to. There's a point where you have to say to yourself that you want to be happy. You're never going to get any more confident in yourself by reminding yourself about what you do or don't have that others do. That's irrelevant. You're 15. In my opinion, the only person you should be getting to know intimately at your age is yourself. Give it time. I promise you that it will get better with time. But girls aren't the only reason you live (and if they are, you need to seriously reevaluate that before you even think about dating)

[Splat]

Hey, don't worry about it. I've never been in one at all and guess what! All of the people around me have bf/gf too and that's what I used to think. There will be someone you'll meet in your life and they'll probably 10x better than anyone you could get in school :)

[Vanilla Cupcake]

Well you have already had 2 relationships and your only 15 I think that's pretty impressive!
There will always be someone more attractive and less attractive and quite honestly I avoid those super attractive types with the big egos, it's not my thing.
what one girl finds attractive the next girl won't because we all have different tastes.
I think all my friends BF's are unattractive to me but they like them!
I think it has a lot more to do with a great personality and common interests and ya there has so be a visual attraction of some kind as well.

Even when my friends and I discuss celebrities that are attractive, we all like someone different. Like Justin Beiber is a cutie but I would never want him, he's not my type.
I'd rather date The Rock, because I love big muscular men, I know he's older but it was just off the top of my head.

[Abhorrence]

Dude, attractiveness is completely relative to people's opinions. "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder". You may appear ugly to some and to others you may be the crown jewels. It is very easy to hate our appearances and worry about them but in the end, I guarantee, most of your peers are thinking the same thing.

[SillyShyGuy]

You will find a significant other in time. Dating has nothing to do with how attractive someone is, it is about making an effort to spend time with someone and care for them. Dating as many people as possible can be a bad thing. While you are jealous of your friends for having many girlfriends, they are only having a lot of experience with things like arrogance and break ups. People who have a lot of partners are more likely to have divorces because they have so much practice with break ups. When you finally get a significant other you will cherish them and work at it to make sure you will not lose her. Just be patient, it is better to wait for the right person than to seem desperate or date someone who will make you miserable.