How to beat the awkwardness

[yeehaw]

Right, so. My mum said that she had a "gay best friend" that regularly came to visit and within a couple days I could see (and hear) that he wasn't that gay after all. It hurt me a bit knowing that she lied to me, but I suppose that's not the problem I've come to ask about.

They have a sex a lot. I'm not joking, maybe 4 times a day. And I have very very very thin walls and our rooms are joined together. No matter what I do, I can still hear it. Frankly I find it disgusting and I've actually gotten sick of it.

Is there anything I can do to stop hearing it as loud as I can?

[Desuetude]

Honestly, tell her. Luckily I've only had to listen to my dad and one of his girlfriends a couple times over the years and even then shoving headphones on blocks most of it out. Write her a note and tell her that you can hear and it makes you feel uncomfortable, ask if she can be a bit more respectful of you being in the house too. I know it will be extremely awkward but the awkwardness should be worth it in the long run.

Other than that purchasing some noise cancelling headphones would be money well spent, as long as they're decent quality. Or just leaving for an hour and making impromptu plans with friends when you start to hear them might be a good idea. Just keep in mind that if your mum has told you that hes gay and doesnt expect you to know theyre having sex, she might not realise that you can hear them and making her aware of that may sort things completely.

[outback4]

Desuetude is right. write her a note. tell her you know what's happening and it's making you uncomfortable. ask her to either do it when you aren't home or somewhere else.

that's would be horrible honestly. if I was around when my mom was doing that. so sorry. good luck!

[ashdaniel]

Tell, her that the wall in your house is not sound prove so pls consider your feeling before having a big bang.

[AutumnWinds]

Right, so. My mum said that she had a "gay best friend" that regularly came to visit and within a couple days I could see (and hear) that he wasn't that gay after all. It hurt me a bit knowing that she lied to me, but I suppose that's not the problem I've come to ask about.

They have a sex a lot. I'm not joking, maybe 4 times a day. And I have very very very thin walls and our rooms are joined together. No matter what I do, I can still hear it. Frankly I find it disgusting and I've actually gotten sick of it.

Is there anything I can do to stop hearing it as loud as I can?

wow. that's awful. i'm really sorry. it's not even so much that your mom is having sex as it is that she is showing a very clear lack of respect by lying so obvious to you, and then being so blatant about what she is doing. you deserve much better than that. :confused: