Help! I'm losing my mind over her!!!

[Kyle XO]

Ok I apologise for the rant but I really need to get this off my chest (probably gonna be a couple typos too). I just moved to a new city in a new country. Making friends was easy but I don't plan on losing any soon so I don't really wanna take any risks that would see me losing a very specific friend, which Im getting to. So in one of my classes I met this group of people who are amazing, including the titular 'her'. I am hopelessley, irretrievably into her. THE THING IS I HAVE NO IDEA IF SHE IS AND ITS KILLING ME. Ive had a girlfriends and flings before hut NEVER have I felt this strongly for a girl and NEVER have I got so many mixed signals from one. She'll get 'touchy' in class sometimes putting her head on my shoulder, touching my arm, getting pretty close and personal when showing me some work. She came out about having some pretty serious personal issues recently (along the lines of suicide without being too specific) She has some self esteem problems so I shower her in compliments, which she doesnt seem to mind. She calls me to chill with her in our spare sometimes but the last time she did that she barely said a word and watched a TV series the whole period. Our lockers are pretty close so she SOMETIMES passes by to say goodbye usually touching my arm or somethn. Other days she'll literally just walk by without sayig anything. She sent me a picture of her trying to get her look spot on for mext years prom asked for my opinion in a flirtyish way but When we text she'll sometimes not reply for ageeeees but she'll post on some type of social media or the other. Other times she'll reply in like 15seconds. Both of us have gotten alot of q.s about whether or not we have a 'thing' of late and shes never not said she doesnt have feelings for me and ive never been friendzoned or bro zoned or any of that crap. A few people have warned me she has a thing with a dude whos graduated already but shes never mentioned him and said she has no idea who those people are talking about. She teases me about asking this girl out whos been following me around but Im pretty sure shes just kidding. I don't know if shes into me and im reeeeaaaaally confused rn & Im losing it. And Im not gonna ask her out untill Im sure shes into me like I said im new and dont wanna lose any friends which Will happen if she turns me down F*CK (IDK if I can swead or not lol new here) Someone pleeeeaaase help me. Im losing it :/

[SkyClad33605]

Don't be afraid of failure.

Ask her out. If she says yes, then great. If she says no, then oh well, move on.

You will survive. Guys who get creepy obsessive are a major turn off.

While you're busy obsessing over this one woman you are missing the others who are actually interested.

Also, if you have problems just being her friend then a relationship with her would have never worked out.

Just get it over with and ask her out. Waiting for the perfect moment or to make sure there is no doubt will never never never happen.

[Kyle XO]

Don't be afraid of failure.

Ask her out. If she says yes, then great. If she says no, then oh well, move on.

You will survive. Guys who get creepy obsessive are a major turn off.

While you're busy obsessing over this one woman you are missing the others who are actually interested.

Also, if you have problems just being her friend then a relationship with her would have never worked out.

Just get it over with and ask her out. Waiting for the perfect moment or to make sure there is no doubt will never never never happen.
Im just really confused cuz of the mixed signals shes giving. Like I said new school, new country don't wanna screw up my new life by doing something rash quite yet

[Splat]

Then wait. But don't wait too long and get irrational. You never know, she might be finding this more of a game than actually being interested.
Why do you like her so much?
Also, because you're concentrating so much on her, you are not seeing any other girls who are interested who, you might even like more.

[Melodic]

I don't think if you told her you'd screw up your life. It might be a little awkward at first for the two of you if she said no. But, I don't think anyone would stop talking to you for having feelings for someone. If they do, they're not really good friends to have anyways.


However, I would hold back from telling her until you are pretty certain she likes you back.

[Kyle XO]

Then wait. But don't wait too long and get irrational. You never know, she might be finding this more of a game than actually being interested.
Why do you like her so much?
Also, because you're concentrating so much on her, you are not seeing any other girls who are interested who, you might even like more.
Thats kinda what Im worried about, that shes just playing with me. I can't get a clear read on whether shes into me or not :/ what dyu think?

[Kyle XO]

I don't think if you told her you'd screw up your life. It might be a little awkward at first for the two of you if she said no. But, I don't think anyone would stop talking to you for having feelings for someone. If they do, they're not really good friends to have anyways.


However, I would hold back from telling her until you are pretty certain she likes you back.
Just don't know if she is. I mean shes giving me some clear cut signs she is one minute and the next its totally different :/

[Splat]

Ask her what her feelings towards you are. Just like SkyClad said, if she see says yes, she likes you then that's great. But if she doesn't have feelings towards you and she's just playing games, then leave her and get over it. There are other girls out there who I'm sure will be grateful for you

[Kyle XO]

Ask her what her feelings towards you are. Just like SkyClad said, if she see says yes, she likes you then that's great. But if she doesn't have feelings towards you and she's just playing games, then leave her and get over it. There are other girls out there who I'm sure will be grateful for you

I also don't wanna come of super arrogant or anything by asking her, don't want her to think I just assume shes into me

[Elysium]

OP banned. :locked: