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Equinox1
December 24th, 2015, 06:37 AM
So I think this guy has a crush on me and I have a crush on him but there's a problem because I'm a closeted FTM, too young to physically transition as far as I know. He knows me as a girl and to put it bluntly, it really sucks. I really don't want anymore unrequited love, I liked two guys before him and I had a hard time moving on. People have told me that sometimes people might identify as straight but then maybe their partner or crush comes out as trans and they decide that they love the person, regardless of their gender. I don't know how likely that is really because I've never heard of it happening but it sounds nice, how would you be physically attracted to them though? I don't want to "convert" him to gay (which wouldn't be possible anyway) or anything but I'm just wondering if this actually happens. I don't even know his sexuality, I guess I just assumed he was straight. His family is very religious so I wouldn't come out if I were in his position anyway. I'm not sure how religious he is, I think he's somewhere in the middle but he's best friends with a few of my friends who are atheists so that's how I know him. This is so frustrating though, I wish I were cis so he could like me but I don't feel female and get very dysphoric at times so I'm not cis...So could this actually work or should I try to move on?

Desuetude
December 24th, 2015, 07:08 AM
Its not so much as 'converting to gay' but getting to know the person to a point where their personality matters over their gender identity. I think that if you like him and vice versa then start talking to him, become good friends and when you learn more about him and his views on transgender people as a whole decide what the best call is from there. If you feel like he'll be accepting then maybe confide in him but if not then you know that hes not for you and that should simultaneously give you some kind of closure.

In the end its up to you and whether or not you believe pursuing him to be a waste of time but honestly, there will always be people that don't understand or don't want to understand and you might find that he surprises you.