Relationship problems

[TheBasil]

Posted in wrong catagory so... repost x)

I have struggled with anxiety and being without friends for some time now. But i have somehow gotten used to this, and enjoyed to play video games and being with myself and just enjoying being by my own company.

But around 6 months ago, i started meeting this guy who actually took time to meet me, talk to me and bring me out of my shell. He is the only person i can actually talk to. But i just cannot trust him. he has all this female friends who sleeps around with pretty much everyone and i know i should break up with him, since there is no trust there.. but i just cannot do that because then i will end up alone again. I feel so stuck. I have started getting constant headheaches, tired all the time, struggling getting something to eat, physically heart pain etc.. I have tried to talk to him but he just avoids talking about it all the time every time i bring it up.

I do not know what to do. I am not strong enough. Has anybody been in same situaton? I just feel so sad and i cannot do anything i used to enjoy anymore.. This is mostly venting and it would be nice to just hear anything.

[redrider12]

I'm in the same situation now, but with a girl. She's all I want, all I ever think about or talk about. She's opened up to me and I to her in ways I sense that neither of us have before to anyone. But she has a lot of guy friends that she hangs out with all the time. She's not "loose" or anything, far from it. But I am in the exact same situation.
I want to just shock her on it and ask what the deal is. Ask if she actually wants to make anything out of our talking. But every time I get close to asking, she stops talking to me for a while. Like a week or more. And it hurts like a needle in the heart because she's all I want. Just to be with her and have her in my arms. I've lost focus on everything in my life for her. She is my focus. But she either doesn't have a focus, or I'm not the focus

[SillyShyGuy]

Two years ago when I started college three girls liked me at one point. I felt so good. I also had more friends back then. But I am more like you now because I would rather be alone than surround myself with bad company. It is not a good idea to have a relationship with someone like this guy. If you do not trust him, then it is not a healthy relationship. Even though he may be the only one you can talk to, you should not spend time with him if you think he is doing those sort of things.

[Splat]

Ok, I'll try to help you as best I can. Although I haven't really experienced this whole `dating` thing, I have plenty of friends who've got themselves into tricky situations. You may find that this doesn't help you at all and it's completely different to what you're thinking - don't worry, I won't be offended :)

The first thing - what where you expecting from him? Did you want to date him? And potentially get more serious with him? Or was he just there as a friend; to give you backup and support when you needed it?

If you wanted to get more serious into dating him you need to talk to him. It doesn't matter whether it's just you or both of you who want to be serious - you need to talk to him about it.

You said he avoids the conversation but you need to be strong. Perhaps invite him round or go somewhere where you can talk. You need to make sure he doesn't purposely verge off of the topic.

However, if this really doesn't work out, there's nothing wrong with staying friends and therefore it doesn't matter who he's sleeping round with. If he's supportive like you said, it's best to keep him in contact because clearly he cares about your sensitivity. He is probably the best thing for you just as a friend. Perhaps he might start becoming more interested in you for a relationship but for the time being, stop worrying, be friends and try to stay mentally and physically healthy.

[Uniquemind]

Your mind is too fragile for sex. Don't go there, you can only handle friendships at this point in time.

You feel the elastic effect snapping back deceiving you to devour socialization experiences in response to your self-imposed isolation, but be careful it can make you over compensate and then you'll cycle back into isolationism if you find yourself emotionally hurt.