would you date someone with special needs?

[josh wendt]

would you ever date someone with special needs (Autism or Intellectual Disability)?
do you dislike/judge people based on their socially awkwardness/disability?
would you see them as a "creep" if they tried to talk to you?
how would you reject them if you didn't like them?
would you be friends with a special ed person or exclude them?

* btw im not being disrespectful to disabled people, I just want to know what people on this forum think about people with special needs.

[Uniquemind]

Depends how specifically they're affected and how far they're into self-improvement to make it work.

[AutumnWinds]

would you ever date someone with special needs (Autism or Intellectual Disability)?
do you dislike/judge people based on their socially awkwardness/disability?
would you see them as a "creep" if they tried to talk to you?
how would you reject them if you didn't like them?
would you be friends with a special ed person or exclude them?

* btw im not being disrespectful to disabled people, I just want to know what people on this forum think about people with special needs.

i honestly don't know if i would date them. it might be too difficult for me, personally, to connect emotionally.

i would 100% not see them as a creep provided they were not being creepy, if that makes any sense.

i guess in short i'd probably act the same way i would if anyone else did the same things you're asking.

what about you?

Depends how specifically they're affected and how far they're into self-improvement to make it work.

i'm not sure someone needs to "improve" who they are, honestly, and in some cases, not sure they can.

[SethfromMI]

well it would depend just how much their needs were. depending on the situation I might, but at the same time, if I felt it would make having a relationship too hard or I did not think I was going to be able to build that deep relationship with them long term then no. It takes the right person and some are amazing at it, I do not know if I would be. It does not matter if they are special needs or not, if you are not the right person, your not. so I am not sure what I would do in such a situation. I guess if I felt it was right then yes, if not then no

[TheAP]

would you ever date someone with special needs (Autism or Intellectual Disability)?
Yes, as long as I could connect well with them.
do you dislike/judge people based on their socially awkwardness/disability?
would you see them as a "creep" if they tried to talk to you?
No, and no. I have Asperger's myself, and my brother is developmentally disabled, so it would be hypocritical of me to say yes. I know lots of people with special needs that I like.
how would you reject them if you didn't like them?
I wouldn't reject them just for being who they were, but if they were being very rude I would tell them to stop.
would you be friends with a special ed person or exclude them?
Definitely be friends. I have 2-3 friends who are in special ed.

[AutumnWinds]

Yes, as long as I could connect well with them.

No, and no. I have Asperger's myself, and my brother is developmentally disabled, so it would be hypocritical of me to say yes. I know lots of people with special needs that I like.

I wouldn't reject them just for being who they were, but if they were being very rude I would tell them to stop.

Definitely be friends. I have 2-3 friends who are in special ed.

i'm so sorry if this is too forward, but would you mind sharing a little what it's like to have asperger's? it's something i have always wondered, and i think first hand experience always trumps text books and articles.

if that's not something you;re comfortable with, that is completely understandable, of course. :)

[JavierDolan]

I want to say yes, but here's my concern: If I were to have a sexual relationship with someone with an intellectual disability I don't think I could do it, because it would feel like I was raping them or taking advantage of them. I say this because I've experience this myself.

I dated a girl who was mute not so long ago and having a normal relationship with was fine, she showed genuine affection, even if she didn't speak to me at all with her voice, but as soon as it came to sex I felt like I was abusing her and I had to stop halfway through because the silence was killing me. She said it was fine through sign language, but I just couldn't bring myself to do it because I felt so bad.

I am currently friends with a boy with down syndrome who has a heart of gold and it kills me to think that someone could hate him just because of that.

[ashdyn]

It would really depend on how serious the condition was. I think I could deal with partial/complete deafness or muteness. My girlfriend has slight OCD and I barely even notice it.

[TheAP]

i'm so sorry if this is too forward, but would you mind sharing a little what it's like to have asperger's? it's something i have always wondered, and i think first hand experience always trumps text books and articles.

if that's not something you;re comfortable with, that is completely understandable, of course. :)
I'd be happy to! Okay, so Asperger's affects me both socially and emotionally. I really struggle in social situations. I have trouble knowing what to say or how to act, and often find myself getting left out of a conversation. In the past I've also struggled with knowing what is socially appropriate to say/do, though this gets better as I get older. Additionally, a lot of the time I don't want to be with people; I prefer to be by myself and spend time in my own thoughts.

Emotionally, I tend to get really upset over small things that wouldn't bother most people. When I'm really upset, I have outbursts that may include screaming, crying, and hitting myself. I also get really obsessed over certain people/things, and have a lot of anxiety because of that.

I have always had interests that I am really into. Some of these interests are ones that might seem strange to most people. I go through periods when I am really into a certain subject, and want to read everything I can on it. I also do repetitive movements like flapping or tapping my hands in certain ways.

I hope this helps. If you have any other questions, feel free to ask me. :)

[everlong]

would you ever date someone with special needs (Autism or Intellectual Disability)? i guess it would depend on what it is. honestly, the closer answer is probably no. not to be mean, but I don't know if I could handle it. again, it would depend.
do you dislike/judge people based on their socially awkwardness/disability? no
how would you reject them if you didn't like them? the same i would with anyone else, i would think
would you be friends with a special ed person or exclude them? yeah i'd be friends with them

[Melodic]

Would you ever date someone with special needs? Well, I have Aspergers and have maintained the same daily/social skills as everyone else around my age since I was 13. People are actually really surprised that I have Aspergers if that tells you anything. If I dated a person with special needs, they would have to be the same place or higher as me emotionally and maturely.


Do you dislike/judge people based on their socially awkwardness/disability? No.

Would you see them as a "creep" if they tried to talk to you? No. I've sat down and had conversations with kids with severe mental health problems. I don't see them as creeps.

How would you reject them if you didn't like them? I might sugarcoat it more. Honestly, I do that with everyone I reject though.

Would you be friends with a special ed person or exclude them? I've been friends with special ed people.

[Sherman]

If I truly liked them and was able to communicate then I don't see a problem with dating someone with special needs. It would definitely be difficult but true love can get past anything.

I also don't judge people based on how "normal" people are. If they are nice to me, then I will be nice and friendly back.

[Gustavo_Owns]

Would you ever date someone with special needs (Autism or Intellectual Disability)?
I really dont know, i'll not be hypocritical, sometimes we feel strange with special people around us because we dont understand what they're passing through, but if i loved that person, if it was a good person with enough mental age and liked me too i wouldn't see the special need as a problem.

Do you dislike/judge people based on their socially awkwardness/disability?
We can't judge if we don't want to be judged, people are what they are, we can't dislike them for being themself.

Would you see them as a "creep" if they tried to talk to you?
Of course not, above all they're people like us.

How would you reject them if you didn't like them?
Depends on their problem, if they could freak out if rejected them i would try a different approach (talking about emotional rejection if it is reject like dont talk to them because they have problems lol i would never do that)

Would you be friends with a special ed person or exclude them?
Depends on the person because even having a mental problem they still have personality and if this personality is good ill be a friend with all the pleasure

That's it idk if i helped but answered :D

[hesaidhesaid]

I am autistic. I am in an LDR with a girl who loves me like crazy and who I love like crazy.
I rest my case.

[redrider12]

I would probably not. One of my good friends has Down Syndrome (or Downs.. I feel terrible never knowing which is proper) and he's a great guy. He's very high on the functioning spectrum as well.
As far as dating, no. Someone mentioned ADD/ADHD and in all honesty that's so overly hyped that it doesn't phase me. It's not that I "dislike" or have any problem with special needs, I just can't see a committed long term relationship forming

[thatgothgirluknow]

would you ever date someone with special needs (Autism or Intellectual Disability)? yes depending on the person and thier disability i don't think i could connect with someone with a disability that made it so they couldnt talk

do you dislike/judge people based on their socially awkwardness/disability? no i have disabilities of my own so i know how it feels for people to find you weird because of it

would you see them as a "creep" if they tried to talk to you? no i talk to many of them myself

how would you reject them if you didn't like them? if i didn't like them it would be because of them not their illness and i would be respectful to them just not spend time with them

would you be friends with a special ed person or exclude them? id be friends with them in fact i have many disabled friends and special ed friends

[SillyShyGuy]

I would not discriminate as long as the person is honest and tells me how she feels about me. Unlike other guys I am very patient. This is a challenge I think I can overcome. If it ever happens I think it would be cute. Holding hands with someone handicapped or pushing their wheelchair in the park. It can still be romantic.