Feel so down and depressed today....

[Blake24]

I don't know if this is the right forum for this and I know compared to some of your problems, this is nothing. But I just don't know what to do. My girlfriend and I have been together for nearly a year, and today she up and finished things with me. I have felt so depressed today and have been crying a lot. She just said that I dedicate too much time to swimming and football. I always spent time with her. We were together for over a year. I just don't know what to do. My dad told me I just need to move on because there are other fish in the sea. But I can't just move on, I love her and now she wants nothing to do with me. She won't answer my texts or call me or anything. I just feel so lost.

[SethfromMI]

It is a tough thing to have to go through man. It is very understandable you feel depressed and there is no shame in crying. I would try talking to her again and see what might have cause this all of the sudden and see if you cannot work it out. don't give up on her just yet man. but if it doesn't work out and she still refuses to talk don't rush dating or whatever again. give yourself as much time as you need. but eventually, you will be able to get back out there and find someone else. I hope things end up finding a way to work out with the girl you had been dating

[Blake24]

Thanks man. I hope so too. I feel so lost right now.

[SethfromMI]

Thanks man. I hope so too. I feel so lost right now.

no problem man and it is completely understandable. I been dating my gf going on 14 months now and I would be crushed if I ended up breaking up with her, no matter how I showed it or whatever. you loved her you still do, that is never easy to deal with. like I said, try to talk with her, in person even better. for this sudden change, this was either building up and she was holding back till now or something else might be going on and she used your practices as an excuse

[Blake24]

I'll try talking to her. I'm hoping we can work things out.

[SethfromMI]

I'll try talking to her. I'm hoping we can work things out.

I hope you do too. just try to be patient with her, even give her some time. let her say what she needs to and don't try to get mad when you talk to her. at the same time, you can be completely honest how you feel and your side of the relationship.

in the mean time just try to keep your head up and stay positive. I know that will be hard to do. hang out with your friends, do something you enjoy doing, whatever to help try to take your mind off the sadness

[Cloud_Strife]

I don't know if this is the right forum for this and I know compared to some of your problems, this is nothing. But I just don't know what to do. My girlfriend and I have been together for nearly a year, and today she up and finished things with me. I have felt so depressed today and have been crying a lot. She just said that I dedicate too much time to swimming and football. I always spent time with her. We were together for over a year. I just don't know what to do. My dad told me I just need to move on because there are other fish in the sea. But I can't just move on, I love her and now she wants nothing to do with me. She won't answer my texts or call me or anything. I just feel so lost.

Hi Blake,

Sorry to hear about that. While it may sound like a very bad scenario, the fact that she cared so much, that she misses you when you're not there - is a sign of you having built up strong bonds with her prior.

It is a positive thing, that she has spoken to you directly, to let you know what was wrong. This puts you in a much better position to solve this problem. It would be a far greater issue, were she to not have told you anything and told you that she would just break up with you.

As with many other things in life, relationships need dedicated time to flourish. Where there is limited time, one would need to compromise, and ensure that enough time is distributed among the things of priority. Clearly, you're quite taken aback by what has happened, so I can only assume that you view your girlfriend of substantial importance.

Although your father would be someone of influence to you, it is often difficult for outsiders to know what the intricacies of what is involved within the relationship of another party. So while you should take into account what your father said, I think it is far more important for you to deeply reflect within yourself and the relationship, to decide upon the next step.

You will need to weigh it all up within yourself carefully, as to what to prioritise and how much you are willing to dedicate your time and efforts to extracurricular activities outside of the relationship.

The best thing, would be to speak to her directly, instead of sending texts or calls. It would be more ideal to speak to her in person, and be frank with her. If you want it to continue, then find out more specifically what else she would want from you for the relationship to go on, then progress from there. All relationships are built upon compromise, and it is a matter of both parties extending out to meet somewhere in between. You will have to work it out among yourselves, to see how much each of you is willing to accept from the other, to decide if it all works out.

I really hope the above helps you mate.
Take care.

[Blake24]

Hi Blake,

Sorry to hear about that. While it may sound like a very bad scenario, the fact that she cared so much, that she misses you when you're not there - is a sign of you having built up strong bonds with her prior.

It is a positive thing, that she has spoken to you directly, to let you know what was wrong. This puts you in a much better position to solve this problem. It would be a far greater issue, were she to not have told you anything and told you that she would just break up with you.

As with many other things in life, relationships need dedicated time to flourish. Where there is limited time, one would need to compromise, and ensure that enough time is distributed among the things of priority. Clearly, you're quite taken aback by what has happened, so I can only assume that you view your girlfriend of substantial importance.

Although your father would be someone of influence to you, it is often difficult for outsiders to know what the intricacies of what is involved within the relationship of another party. So while you should take into account what your father said, I think it is far more important for you to deeply reflect within yourself and the relationship, to decide upon the next step.

You will need to weigh it all up within yourself carefully, as to what to prioritise and how much you are willing to dedicate your time and efforts to extracurricular activities outside of the relationship.

The best thing, would be to speak to her directly, instead of sending texts or calls. It would be more ideal to speak to her in person, and be frank with her. If you want it to continue, then find out more specifically what else she would want from you for the relationship to go on, then progress from there. All relationships are built upon compromise, and it is a matter of both parties extending out to meet somewhere in between. You will have to work it out among yourselves, to see how much each of you is willing to accept from the other, to decide if it all works out.

I really hope the above helps you mate.
Take care.

Thank you so much. This means a lot and really helped put things into perspective.

[SethfromMI]

The advice about speaking to her in person is good. these types of things are not good to deal with over phone, texts, etc. even if she was talking to you on them. I do hope things work out for you

[Emerald Dream]

The OP is banned. :locked: