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Meganium
February 8th, 2014, 07:34 PM
I had a friend back in Elementary school. (Let's call her Christie. I don't like anonymous people not having some kind of name, you know?) And this was like, the early years of elementary school, like 2nd or third grade.

When we left off, we were starting to become very close friends. We hung out a lot, talked so much at lunch, and when I told her I had a crush on her, she made it clear that the feeling was mutual.

Unfortunately, just when we were about to start hanging out away from our school, our 8-year-old dreams were crushed when I was transferred due to a error within my address. I visited her once about a year after that point, and she greeted me with a kiss to the cheek and a long catchup. I still miss her a fair bit.

I met someone later down the road, who I've given up on. I love her to death and will be there for her should she ever need me, but I've accepted that there is little to no chance of a relationship with her, and that's perfectly fine now.

To get to the point, I've been incredibly lonely as of late. I think that talking with an old friend, catching up, and maybe even creating a legitimate relationship this time, could be just what I need to lift my spirits. I feel like I should talk to Christie again.

I friended her on Facebook a long time back, and if that's not mistaken, she's single, so I wouldn't be wrecking any homes. If I'm too do this, my only issue is asking for a conversation without sounding like a stalker.

Any thoughts or suggestions? Think I'm being a damn fool? Please do let me know.

Synyster Shadows
February 8th, 2014, 09:19 PM
Do you still talk to this girl? That would make it a lot easier on your part to not sound creepy. I think that if you do talk to her, it would help you feel less lonely and all that. Try talking to her and see what happens. I think that you should definitely try. If you decide to go for it, which I strongly recommend, just start by saying something like, "Hey. How's it going" or something simple like that. If she's ok with that, start talking more and then gradually make more advances on her, paying attention to how she responds. Good luck man.

Croconaw
February 8th, 2014, 09:58 PM
It definitely wouldn't make you seem like a stalker if you message her. You could ask her how she has been or if she remembers you. I agree with Andrew that the best thing to do is to just message her.

Synyster Shadows
February 8th, 2014, 10:09 PM
It definitely wouldn't make you seem like a stalker if you message her. You could ask her how she has been or if she remembers you. I agree with Andrew that the best thing to do is to just message her.

Yeah, I agree. Ask her how she's been and if she remembers you, because chances are she does. Go for it.

Meganium
February 9th, 2014, 12:40 PM
Do you still talk to this girl? That would make it a lot easier on your part to not sound creepy. I think that if you do talk to her, it would help you feel less lonely and all that....Good luck man.

That's why I'm reluctant. I HAVEN'T talked to her in years. But I do think that she's the answer to my problems.

It definitely wouldn't make you seem like a stalker if you message her. You could ask her how she has been or if she remembers you. I agree with Andrew that the best thing to do is to just message her.

Yeah, that sounds like the best way to go about it.

Yeah, I agree. Ask her how she's been and if she remembers you, because chances are she does.

A lot of people from that school have changed a lot since, and don't remember me well at all. I'm hoping she's not one of those cases, but regardless, you two have made it clear that I should give this a shot. Andrew, Feraligatr, thank you.

Any other thoughts?

Synyster Shadows
February 9th, 2014, 04:11 PM
Just relax and don't get too stress out about it. Take it as slow as you need to

Meganium
February 9th, 2014, 05:51 PM
Update: Yeah...grew the balls to talk to her for a little bit, and it didn't really work out well.

Oh well. At least I can say that I tried, right?

AlexOnToast
February 9th, 2014, 06:03 PM
Update: Yeah...grew the balls to talk to her for a little bit, and it didn't really work out well.

Oh well. At least I can say that I tried, right?

Aww sorry to hear that :( Hope all is okay tho chin up :)

Meganium
February 9th, 2014, 06:13 PM
Aww sorry to hear that :( Hope all is okay tho chin up :)

Thanks, but it's all good. It's not like I was still very close to her, so I don't mind nearly as much.

charmynyankawaii
February 11th, 2014, 07:58 PM
You should talk to her! I know that feeling, okay? Like I was in this piano class for kids and then after we graduated then we never met anymore. :( I saw some of them on Facebook, but then I also didn't dare to add them in case they think I'm a stalker or something.

Melodic
February 11th, 2014, 08:30 PM
Update: Saw the comment, sorry to hear that.

DarkHorse4eva
February 18th, 2014, 12:03 PM
sounds like you're good friends so theres nothing wrong in writing with her. if you both still have strong feelings for eachother you can try out long distance relationship.

goundy
February 20th, 2014, 01:40 AM
Mate do what you like. If you made this post to get random peoples permission, then you have all the permission I can possibly give you :D

This doesn't seem that out of the ordinary.