Feelings For A Friend (Not Gay)

[likeit]

Whatsup guys so before I start I would like to say that im not a good english speaker and that my story its a bit complicated.
to start off. I have alawys been a closed person, I had no friends growing up and I have basically just a couple friends now but before like 5 months ago, I met someone I had same interests. We both liked computer games. We used to stay together like playing on internet (me on my house and he on his house) like all day! This guy had a friend that was so obssesed with him like he wanted to hang out with him everyday and all the time, but my friend didnt like him so much. he used to spend the day with him before meeting me just because he had noone to hang out with. He was like me, he had no friends, he was a closed person etc. Now the problem I have, is that im too obsessed with him. Im not gay but I think of him all the time... we hangout together online like all day long and then go out with this friend of him and me and another friend they have for like 2 hours but he spends most of his time online with me. We have a great friendship, we do sleepovers etc but I dont know whats wrong with me, I dont want to feel like this, I just want him as a friend but im to obssesed with him, everytime I see him hanging out with others and without me I go like crazy, I always think of him and I dont know what to do... He has told me that he wants to hang out just with me because he hates the other people we hangout but when we are together with the other guys he treats them as best friends and forget about whay he has told me, then he tells me again that he wants to get rid of them but again he acts like he likes them when we are together... has this ever happened to you guys? What have you done to control these feelings? Another quick question. I had a sleepover into his house like 3 weeks ago and he had a sleepover on my house like 1 week ago, should I ask him to sleepover my place this week? What answer will I probably get and will it look like im too obssesed with him? Also we are both 16...
thanks guys I hope you understand my text. If you have additional questions please ask me.

[Atlantis]

likeit
Firstly, you make good sense, no need to worry

You may just feel you're with him all the time because you 'haven't had a friend before' (best way to put it - sorry)

[likeit]

Thanks, I just wanted to ask, when will I get rid of these feelings?

[soccerismylife]

Bro ! I'm there with you ! I have this friend that idk why but I love him in a brother way like I'm always with him and always talking in and out of school and every time I see him with his "friends" which he hates but likes to hang out with them cause they in same team but then acts like he hates me cause they don't like me..but when we are alone or over each other's houses it's a whole different story. We talk about everything and we have so much things in common but idk if he just using me or he does care. And I don't have many friends I'm kinda like you.

[likeit]

Bro ! I'm there with you ! I have this friend that idk why but I love him in a brother way like I'm always with him and always talking in and out of school and every time I see him with his "friends" which he hates but likes to hang out with them cause they in same team but then acts like he hates me cause they don't like me..but when we are alone or over each other's houses it's a whole different story. We talk about everything and we have so much things in common but idk if he just using me or he does care. And I don't have many friends I'm kinda like you.

He probably acts like hating you becuase their friends dont like you and then they will tell him stuff about you, but I have a completely different story here... he hates his friends, he only has 2 friends but we hang out together so that makes us 4. He doesnt like the other guys so much, he only likes me but the problem is that when he is with them, he acts like he enjoys the time that has spent with them.... when we are together he tells me that he hates them etc but I dont know what to say... I mean he had friends before but then he changed his town and he was like new here...

[Living For Love]

Puberty For Boys :arrow2: Family and Friends. This is better suited here. :)

What you described is a typical teenage same-sex crush, particularly this little part here: everytime I see him hanging out with others and without me I go like crazy
I think he acts like he actually enjoys the other guys' company because, despiste telling you the opposite, he doesn't want to lose them since he doesn't have any more friends besides them and you. Considering you have crush on him, it will eventually pass, but when you say you are obsessed with him, do you mean you want to have him around because you enjoying talking and hanging out with him or do you feel physically attracted to your friend in some way?

[likeit]

Puberty For Boys :arrow2: Family and Friends. This is better suited here. :)

What you described is a typical teenage same-sex crush, particularly this little part here:
I think he acts like he actually enjoys the other guys' company because, despiste telling you the opposite, he doesn't want to lose them since he doesn't have any more friends besides them and you. Considering you have crush on him, it will eventually pass, but when you say you are obsessed with him, do you mean you want to have him around because you enjoying talking and hanging out with him or do you feel physically attracted to your friend in some way?

No I like him as a person. I like hanging out with him and discuss different things with him. I like to open up to him and to talk everything with him. I don't love him, as I said before im not gay. And yes, I think thats the reason why he still hangs out with them, they are also in the same class and they hang out together in school because I go to another school so he cant hang out with me in school.

[soccerismylife]

He probably acts like hating you becuase their friends dont like you and then they will tell him stuff about you, but I have a completely different story here... he hates his friends, he only has 2 friends but we hang out together so that makes us 4. He doesnt like the other guys so much, he only likes me but the problem is that when he is with them, he acts like he enjoys the time that has spent with them.... when we are together he tells me that he hates them etc but I dont know what to say... I mean he had friends before but then he changed his town and he was like new here...

Yeah, but he claims that he doesn't like them.. He only acts like that cause he doesn't they will say that he's gay-for me and they won't like him or anything.

[likeit]

Yeah, but he claims that he doesn't like them.. He only acts like that cause he doesn't they will say that he's gay-for me and they won't like him or anything.

That sucks man... anyways, I saw your pm but I dont have 100 posts so I cant reply.
anyways, what activities do you do with him?

[soccerismylife]

We play Xbox and play football(American) and paintball and what about you ?

[GoGoDiego]

I have the same experience like you. I have this friend in school that used to talk to me always, we spend weekends chatting together. He would sometimes, out of nowhere, tickle me just to cheer me up. My sister says that I have a crush on him, which I really deny since he has a gf already. We loved each other like bros. Compared to last year, I did not have that much friends, so I guess it is normal

[Dat Derpy Horse]

It's simple... You're in a Bro Relationship

[RJH98]

I have been in a similar situation:

I have been really good friends with these 2 guys for more than 10 years. two years ago we kind off ended contact even though we live next to each other (girlfriends are the reason).

I talk to one of them sometimes since about a month and I see them hanging out together and it makes me a bit jealous because i really missed the friendship we had for so long and want to hang out with them again but im also mad at one of them for what happened two years ago.