Urgent- Need help with my LDR EX.

[Croconaw]

My long distance girlfriend broke up with me a few days ago because she feels like we are better off friends, but she told me she still has feelings for me and maybe we can try again in the future. I was hoping to get advice on getting her back because I'm in love with her.

I'm going to first explain my side. She gets mad easily due to her being taken advantage of in the past. Unfortunately, she texted a message that stated she doesn't have to message me as soon as she comes home from work because I'm only a friend. She also said she would message me in the morning if she has time, and that she will try to message me in the afternoon.

I'm so in love with this girl and I would love to get her back. I have tried doing the no contact, but that ended in her getting angry and saying that "she can be a b****, too, and she will win this game." I just want to make things better with her as I truly cannot get over her.

She left me because she felt like I wasn't mature enough to handle a relationship with someone older. I just feel like this was due to a misunderstanding because she does get mad easily. I tried to talk to her before she broke up with me, but she kept ignoring me.

We still talk as friends, but she has been weird after I tried doing the no contact for thirty days. I truly wish to get her back.

Can anyone help me please? I can't stop thinking of her. :(

[StoppingTom]

It's tough, and I get how attached you can get to someone and how you can overlook things they do because you care about them so much.

However, and speaking from experience, having you feel like crap and saying how she'll win this "game" is super immature, and borderline emotionally abusive.

[Melodic]

Honestly, it seems like she's playing some games with you. I'm not sure why. It might just be an insecurity thing from her past relationship. It's definitely something that has to stop in order for you guys to have a healthy relationship or friendship. For future advice, don't try to give in to her comments and don't try to fight them either. Just walk away from the conversation until you both are calm enough to talk things through.

As for getting her back, she seems to be very indecisive right now on what she wants. I'd just let her figure things out. Even if she never says what she wants, you'll know eventually.

If she wants to eventually get back together, think to yourself. Is this relationship making me truly happy or do I feel more upset than happy?

[Croconaw]

It's tough, and I get how attached you can get to someone and how you can overlook things they do because you care about them so much.

However, and speaking from experience, having you feel like crap and saying how she'll win this "game" is super immature, and borderline emotionally abusive.
I agree that it was very immature on her part. Everyone is immature in their own way, so she doesn't have a right to tell others they are not mature.

Honestly, it seems like she's playing some games with you. I'm not sure why. It might just be an insecurity thing from her past relationship. It's definitely something that has to stop in order for you guys to have a healthy relationship or friendship. For future advice, don't try to give in to her comments and don't try to fight them either. Just walk away from the conversation until you both are calm enough to talk things through.

As for getting her back, she seems to be very indecisive right now on what she wants. I'd just let her figure things out. Even if she never says what she wants, you'll know eventually.

If she wants to eventually get back together, think to yourself. Is this relationship making me truly happy or do I feel more upset than happy?
Thank you so much for the advice. It was like a wake up call. I seemed worried about upsetting her, so I tried to do everything that would please her even if it didn't make me happy. Something tells me that she is the one, but inside, I am starting to believe there may be someone better. I'll see how it works out with her, though. :)

[Uniquemind]

I had similar advice so I'll withhold my opinion.

Choose actions that create less drama but remain true to what you want.

[Croconaw]

I will. Now, she has calmed down and started talking to me, but she didn't send me a good morning message today. She usually does. She gets pissed off so easily. I'm trying to be nice and she said I gave her attitude. :\

About this, I think I just love how sweet she is, but there may be someone better. She told me all the sweet things she does for people who were her girlfriend in the past, and she would do them for me, too.

[Croconaw]

I'm just updating on how I feel. I'm slowly losing interest in this girl, and I'm just not happy with her in my life. She can be nice but it sucks when she treats you like s***. Now, I'm just looking for someone else. Thank you for everything and for helping me come to my senses. Yeah, this girl is a b****.

[Leprous]

My long distance girlfriend broke up with me a few days ago because she feels like we are better off friends, but she told me she still has feelings for me and maybe we can try again in the future. I was hoping to get advice on getting her back because I'm in love with her.

I'm going to first explain my side. She gets mad easily due to her being taken advantage of in the past. Unfortunately, she texted a message that stated she doesn't have to message me as soon as she comes home from work because I'm only a friend. She also said she would message me in the morning if she has time, and that she will try to message me in the afternoon.

I'm so in love with this girl and I would love to get her back. I have tried doing the no contact, but that ended in her getting angry and saying that "she can be a b****, too, and she will win this game." I just want to make things better with her as I truly cannot get over her.

She left me because she felt like I wasn't mature enough to handle a relationship with someone older. I just feel like this was due to a misunderstanding because she does get mad easily. I tried to talk to her before she broke up with me, but she kept ignoring me.

We still talk as friends, but she has been weird after I tried doing the no contact for thirty days. I truly wish to get her back.

Can anyone help me please? I can't stop thinking of her. :(

Well, this is actually a situation I have been trough aswell. I got back together with her 3 times, and I can tell you that that might not be a good idea. If you feel like she keeps playing around, it might be better to leave. Of course this is up to you, I'm not here to decide, but yeah, moving on may not be easy but it may also be the right thing to do.

[hesaidhesaid]

There is someone better out there obviously. This girl was a pain to you and it hasn't worked out...now you know. I would honestly stop thinking about her and leave her...she isnt obviously worth your time...

[Croconaw]

Thank you. It's hard, but I'm trying to take my mind off of her. :)

[Jordan99]

Let her go and quit trying to get her back. It'll put you in a better position. She wants to have her cake and eat it too. So long as you pursue her, she is comfortable. Stop all conversation, texting, etc... When she does text you, give it a few days and if YOU feel like it, respond with an, "Oh Hey, hope you are well."

[SkyClad33605]

Long distance is bad distance.

I've never known a single LD couple who made it work.

Be friends with her but leave it at that.