Strange Feelings

[EllyQ]

I decided to re-write this clearer, if I could.
It's specifically around one girl that I spend a lot of time with.

I've been getting a weird feeling, lately.
Sometimes, I m with a friend of mine, and she ll touch my forearm or leg or something, and I just...I feel like my chest has been hit with a sledgehammer. It takes my breath away, and it hurts, but at the same time, it feels really nice. I feel tingly, all over, and weightless, and like I m full of pressure, and like I m just going to melt.
What is happening? What is this feeling? Is it normal?

She s my best friend, and we re really close, and I don t know how to react to these sensations. I feel this, and I just want to, like, hug her, incredibly tight. Like, cling to and squish her.

[LITTLEANGEL19]

It has never happened to me.

[Abbeys]

I had a friend who felt about me the way you feel about your friend.

She used to make outrageous hints and suggestions but I pretended not to notice.

Nothing ever happened,she's still my friend and has now found someone she can share her feelings with.

[ClaraWho]

I decided to re-write this clearer, if I could.
It's specifically around one girl that I spend a lot of time with.

I've been getting a weird feeling, lately.
Sometimes, I m with a friend of mine, and she ll touch my forearm or leg or something, and I just...I feel like my chest has been hit with a sledgehammer. It takes my breath away, and it hurts, but at the same time, it feels really nice. I feel tingly, all over, and weightless, and like I m full of pressure, and like I m just going to melt.
What is happening? What is this feeling? Is it normal?

She s my best friend, and we re really close, and I don t know how to react to these sensations. I feel this, and I just want to, like, hug her, incredibly tight. Like, cling to and squish her.

This is so cute! Sounds like you have fallen head over heels in love with her. Do you know what sexuality is though? Might be a good way to bring up the subject, 'have you ever thought about what it would be like to date a girl?' Hypothetical questions like that give you a bit of protection. I'd also only ask when you two are alone and in a quiet, happy mood (rather than asking in the middle of lunch were the question can easily be evaded.

How you feel about the possibility of you being attracted to girls is, dare I say, irrelevant. Your sexuality is what it is, regardless of what you might wish it to be.

Please please let me know how it goes if you do talk to her!

Good luck!

~ Clara

N.B. So cute!

[EllyQ]

So...this is what attraction feels like?

[angelina]

I feel like my chest has been hit with a sledgehammer. It takes my breath away, and it hurts, but at the same time, it feels really nice. I feel tingly, all over, and weightless, and like I m full of pressure, and like I m just going to melt.

I never had that one..even when my friend (girl) touched my cheeks ,boobs,downthere..
I think your is because of over exitement

[ClaraWho]

I never had that one..even when my friend (girl) touched my cheeks ,boobs,downthere..
I think your is because of over exitement

Why has everything got to be sexual? o.O

The fact is she says when her friend touches her she feels all of the things that one feels when in love, and she feels compelled to take her in her arms and never let her go. That's not lust, that's deep attraction. It's what being attracted to a gender ACTUALLY means. She didn't say 'I just want to have sex with her right there' BIG DIFFERENCE!

This is why I call 'experimenting' a nonsense. Sexuality isn't purely a 'I like that type of body', it's 'this person is wonderful, I love them, and I want to do anything I can to make them happy'. You can't experiment with love, it doesn't have a physical presence.

~ Clara

[Uniquemind]

Why has everything got to be sexual? o.O

The fact is she says when her friend touches her she feels all of the things that one feels when in love, and she feels compelled to take her in her arms and never let her go. That's not lust, that's deep attraction. It's what being attracted to a gender ACTUALLY means. She didn't say 'I just want to have sex with her right there' BIG DIFFERENCE!

This is why I call 'experimenting' a nonsense. Sexuality isn't purely a 'I like that type of body', it's 'this person is wonderful, I love them, and I want to do anything I can to make them happy'. You can't experiment with love, it doesn't have a physical presence.

~ Clara

Thanks for pointing that difference out too.

Puberty definitely magnifies the intensity of close bonds of friendship too.

It's very close in line to attraction, but there is a difference. Whether it's one or the other is dependent on the OP to figure out.

[Claire Asteroid]

it feels like what I've felt with a boy, I've felt like my chest would burst when a boy has held my hand and stroked my arm before, so I guess it's the same thing.

[SkyClad33605]

I've felt this before. It sounds like sexual attraction. It doesn't really sound like love. Love and lust are easy to confuse for people who get their ideas of romance from movies.

If you have a problem with being sexually attracted to her then you should find ways to address that in yourself. Do some soul searching.

If you are ok being sexually attracted to her then find a way to address it to her. Keeping these things bottled up will only hurt you. I'm not suggesting you pounce her the next time you see her. I mean, find a way to talk about it openly and find out how she feels. If she is really your friend and she rejects you then you two will still be friends. If she runs away then she was never really your friend.

Go for it. Be proud! :)

[Emylove]

To me it sounds like you've fallen in love. I have someone who makes me feel almost the same way. And I'm 100% sure I'm in love with her.

[Living For Love]

Please don't bump old threads. :locked: