Girls - When would you take the Pill

[redrider12]

Hey Y'all -
To the girls out there..
At what point in a sexual relationship would you consider going on the pill for your boyfriend? My girlfriend and I have been going for a while now and we're looking to go bare in the safest way possible. (Before someone says something, we've only used condoms or done non-vaginal so far). I don't want to like pressure her into the pill, but her and I are both ready for the next step without risking pregnancy. Thoughts?

[KSI kid]

Here's my thoughts. After you two are married!

Do you not know that the unrighteous will NOT inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, NOR ADULTERERS, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.

[Uniquemind]

Here's my thoughts. After you two are married!

Do you not know that the unrighteous will NOT inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, NOR ADULTERERS, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.

Off topic I know. But I have to respond.

The problem of that bible verse is that it makes one feel doomed.

If the same result of one is going to hell, for any one of those things, a dark mind will feel the bottom is let loose from under them and will have no incentive to resist doing more and more evil, since they failed the standard to get into Heaven anyway.


Ex: oh hey I told a small lie when I was 8, I guess since I'm going to hell and later the lake of fire, I can create a bigger rap sheet.


*thumbs up religion you did a great job* (sarcasm)

[redrider12]

Neither of the last two responses were relevant. I don't consider myself "of any religion". Nor does she. She's looked at the possible side effects, and is willing to face them.

[Taryn98]

I didn't go on the pill for my boyfriend, I did it for myself, because I'm taking responsibility for my actions. If she's not ready for the pill, don't pressure her. It's a decision she has to make for herself. But at the same time, it's not really a big deal. Basically every girl I know is on the pill. It has the benefit of regulating your period and making that time of the month more manageable.

[Sweeper]

I basically realized I needed it when I learned my BF couldn't be trusted to pull out... Like, ever.

It was provided for me without asking, though. My mother was pregnant at my age and decided I should probably have some protection.

[redrider12]

I didn't go on the pill for my boyfriend, I did it for myself, because I'm taking responsibility for my actions. If she's not ready for the pill, don't pressure her. It's a decision she has to make for herself. But at the same time, it's not really a big deal. Basically every girl I know is on the pill. It has the benefit of regulating your period and making that time of the month more manageable.

That's what I've told her. She knows that a lot of her friends take it already (that or IUD which a few have). She's just worried about telling her parents (which I really don't think she {or anyone} has to). From what I've been told, since we're both legally of age in our state, she can go to her Dr. in private and he legally can't say anything about it to parents

[nicole97]

Usually you can get your own prescription and many clinics will offer them without any non-medically necessary questions asked, especially now that you're of legal age so if you honestly fear her parents (not just embarrassment). Personally I started at 14, mostly for pregnancy prevention reasons (my BF and I had been having sex for about 6 months) and despite the potential embarrassment just decided to ask my mom. Despite being a bit surprised and probably a bit uneasy, she felt she'd rather have me be safe than a teenage parent and I've been on ever since.

[redrider12]

Thanks for the help guys/gals.
She talked to her MD and was able to get a free prescription. She told her mom after the fact and her mom was very uneasy.. But she already knew we were active and probably would've done something eventually.

[AutumnWinds]

Hey Y'all -
To the girls out there..
At what point in a sexual relationship would you consider going on the pill for your boyfriend? My girlfriend and I have been going for a while now and we're looking to go bare in the safest way possible. (Before someone says something, we've only used condoms or done non-vaginal so far). I don't want to like pressure her into the pill, but her and I are both ready for the next step without risking pregnancy. Thoughts?

i'm not trying to dissuade you from getting advice here in and way, but i think this is something you should discuss with your girlfriend. let her know you respect whatever she decides, and see what her thoughts on the matter are.

[Claire Asteroid]

Some of my friends are on the pill and they were telling me I should get on the pill when I had a boyfriend. I said that we weren't having sex but my friend said I should go on it anyway just in case it happens. But I knew we wouldn't have sex and we've split up now anyway so I didn't go on the pill.

[Hermes]

I basically realized I needed it when I learned my BF couldn't be trusted to pull out... Like, ever.

It was provided for me without asking, though. My mother was pregnant at my age and decided I should probably have some protection.

The withdrawal method gets a bad rap and some people blame on sperm in pre-cum but I think you've hit the nail on the head as to what the real problem is and the reason it is a real problem is that when a guy gets to the point of no return his instinct is to push in as far as possible to get his sperm as far into you as possible. He's actually unlikely to be able to pul out at that momemt. He would be able to pull out a little bit before that but then one of you would have to finish him another way.

I think you have to remember what the game is all about which that we have a really strong instict for breeding and yet if we did so as young and as often as we are physically capable of it would create real problems. So we've found it is easier, not to mention more fun, to go with our instricts but sabbotage the result rather than try to resist them. So a good method of contraception is one that doesn't require either party to resist doing something instinctive.

[birdbrain01]

I know a girl that's been on the pill since she was about 11 or 12 she complained about her menstrual cramps so her doctor put her on birth control

[Xiao.Z]

I take for control of cycle not for have sex.

[sweettayla]

l'm on it to keep me regular and to try and calm my mood swings down a bit, not having to worry about condoms is actually a bit of a bonus the way l see it.