Mom won't let me hang out with friends at movies

[Gozaru]

My mom is really overprotective. I was going with 3 friends to watch the movie "Krampus" which my mom and I had already seen. These friends are in 8th grade and I am in 7th. I first asked if we could go on the bus to the movies she said no. Even when I offered for her to drive me she still said no. She said that since she doesn't know my friends or their parents she won't let me go. I think that she thinks that they'll do something bad or something. I even showed her pictures of them and she still said no even though they look completely like normal kids who don't do anything bad. I've known one of them since elementary and my mom still said no cause she doesn't know her or her parents. Please someone help me convince her.

[Uniquemind]

Your best chance is to get her in touch with the parents of the other kids.

Even then this isn't a situation you can win. Find something else to do that day that provides you with just as much fun.

[Gozaru]

Your best chance is to get her in touch with the parents of the other kids.

Even then this isn't a situation you can win. Find something else to do that day that provides you with just as much fun.

I even asked her if my best friend which she knows could say that my other friends were good to go she still said no. I swear my mom overreacts to everything. I'll be just like trying to explain to her and she'll be super angry and say that her heart hurts and that she has high blood pressure while I'm being all calm. I talk to her in a calm voice but then she just comes back at me with
"You're literally killing me. My heart hurts and my blood pressure is through the roof" she's like this all the time. But whenever I talk to her it's in a calm not loud voice at all. It's just my regular tone.

[Abyssal Echo]

Sounds like my mom when I was little. There's no way to convince your mom to do anything she doesn't want to do. If she's like my mom was trying to talk her into it just made her mad which made things worse for me. you have 2 choices.... live with it or introduce your mom to your friends and their parents.

[Uniquemind]

I even asked her if my best friend which she knows could say that my other friends were good to go she still said no. I swear my mom overreacts to everything. I'll be just like trying to explain to her and she'll be super angry and say that her heart hurts and that she has high blood pressure while I'm being all calm. I talk to her in a calm voice but then she just comes back at me with
"You're literally killing me. My heart hurts and my blood pressure is through the roof" she's like this all the time. But whenever I talk to her it's in a calm not loud voice at all. It's just my regular tone.

Well your mom does one of the cardinal sins of parenting imho, it's something I definitely won't do when I'm a parent one day.

That sinful tactic: the guilt trip, pity card.

Now in your situation you gotta obey her wish, but hopefully when you're older you'll gain more freedom.

The issues closed, ask her for something else you might want, like a new video game/toy, or favorite meal.

Also how old are you by the way? If you're 13, or younger I'd have to agree that depending on the distance from the theatre to your house, that might be understandable for your mom to say no.

Especially in this day and age, around this time of year, I was walking home a few days ago and some asshole almost hits me in the crosswalk.

[Gozaru]

Well your mom does one of the cardinal sins of parenting imho, it's something I definitely won't do when I'm a parent one day.

That sinful tactic: the guilt trip, pity card.

Now in your situation you gotta obey her wish, but hopefully when you're older you'll gain more freedom.

The issues closed, ask her for something else you might want, like a new video game/toy, or favorite meal.

Also how old are you by the way? If you're 13, or younger I'd have to agree that depending on the distance from the theatre to your house, that might be understandable for your mom to say no.

Especially in this day and age, around this time of year, I was walking home a few days ago and some asshole almost hits me in the crosswalk.


13. The theatre is inside a mall that I've been going to since I was a baby. When me and my mom go there she just lets me go wherever. She also says that since they're a grade older than me then they'll be like let's do something else and I'll go right along with it but my friends are not like that. If this were my dad he would probably say okay. My parents are divorced so I don't wanna go behind my moms back and ask my dad to convince my mom since she'll probably just get madder at me. The neighborhood where the mall is in is a good neighborhood.

[Uniquemind]

13. The theatre is inside a mall that I've been going to since I was a baby. When me and my mom go there she just lets me go wherever. She also says that since they're a grade older than me then they'll be like let's do something else and I'll go right along with it but my friends are not like that. If this were my dad he would probably say okay. My parents are divorced so I don't wanna go behind my moms back and ask my dad to convince my mom since she'll probably just get madder at me. The neighborhood where the mall is in is a good neighborhood.

Yeah but you've seen the news, unlike in past generations we live in unprecedented dangerous times. There are no historical examples that can be used in an apples to apples comparison to justify what is considered safe or unsafe anymore.

Sorry but in this particular circumstance I'm going to have to sympathize with your mom on this one.

If you were 16 or older, I might have a different opinion, but even then I'm kinda ruling on the side of caution here. Also say you did end up going, what is the ultimate satisfaction of going that actually lasts you in the long term? It's a fleeting satisfaction, there's nothing lasting about it.

If they're truly you're friends hopefully the bond will be there when you're older and you guys can hang out. Take a raincheck.