Mbating in a relationship?

[redrider12]

Howdy guys -
So I've been in and out of "feelings" type relationships with a few girls recently, and I've learned something. Even if I have no plan of having any sexual relations with the girl, I feel guilty as hell jacking off during the term of the feelings. Like recently, I've had some very open sexual discussions with a girl (concerning habits) but that night of that conversation, after talking to her, my drive to mbate was totally gone. On nights where we don't talk, I still do at least twice per night. It's just a guilt that a real life girl brings.
Anyone else ever had that? Tell me I'm not alone

[NZPerson]

If it was a sexual relationship i wouldn't because it would keep my drive down and decrease "performance" but in a non sexual relationship personally i wouldn't feel guilty but maybe you could just turn your thoughts to her/him when wanking and you may feel less guilt but its all up to you and your preferences but regardless dont feel guilty haha.

[Harrier]

I wouldn't feel guilty. All my gf and I do is stuff with our mouths and handstand we've been going out a few months but she's fine with me whacking off and there's no way I could stop and I feel zero guilt. I am used to getting off 2-3 times a day so a bj or hj a few times a week isn't enough. All she asks is that I don't look at porn which I try not to but when I do feel sorta guilty.

[Bluebyrd]

I don't think you should feel guilty about masturbating after it, it's a compliment to her...

[ska8er]

i don't know y u would feel guilty its only natural
to masturbate in a sexual or not relationship or
u have thoughts of being unfaithful to your girl.

My girl and I many times get each other off so
its pleasing for both of us and its not like we r
cheating on each other.

[TheLotus]

I wouldn't feel guilty about masturbating while in a relationship. It's perfectly normal, it doesn't really hurt the other person in any way for doing something for myself

[redrider12]

It's more an unfaithful thing. Throw in porn, does that make a difference? I simply can't get off without out. It's not guilty in the sense that "hey, I saw another girl naked" but guilty in the sense that I shouldnt be doing this alone when I'm with her

[hairy balls]

i don't know y u would feel guilty its only natural
to masturbate in a sexual or not relationship or
u have thoughts of being unfaithful to your girl.

[Pitsirikos]

Of course you don't have to feel guilty. Masturbating is totally normal even during a relationship.

[Jaime2015]

I always masturbate in my relationships

[redrider12]

I still can't do it. It feels so weird, especially in a sexual relationship

[Hermes]

I wouldn't feel guilty. If you were getting married you might say a vow along the lines of "...and forsaking all others, be faithful only to her, for as long as you both shall live?" That is so clearly about another person and not about forsaking yourself. Certainly I don't feel that a promise of being faithful in a relationship, even if just implied, is not about her owning my penis, more about me not having someone other than her.

Of course, if the relationship is sexual and you find that sex is fulfilling and sufficient without also masturbating then that's fine. Circumstances vary, though. Some people may have many opportunities for sex, others may not have as many and some may find many opportunities that stop just short of sex make them so horny they feel the need to masturbate even more.

Others have mentioned that if you know you are likely to get a change of sex you may want to abstain for a while before hand to improve performance. Interestingly some advise people who tend to cum very quickly to do the opposite, i.e. masturbate shortly before hand so it takes longer when you get to the sex. Another alternative to that, with an understanding partner,is to just accept that the first orgasm will happen quickly, take a short break and go for round two.

[redrider12]

I find that it has nothing to do with actual performance most of the time. It just feels weird.. I don't quite know how to describe it. As far as performance I don't find it changes a TON.. I just don't get as hard as fast if I've watched a ton of porn (I can't mbate at all without porn)

[RJH98]

I was dating a girl that I was sometimes maybe fantasizing about...

I felt the same feeling of guilt afterwards so I couldn't do it after I saw her that day or the day before and I completely stopped doing it when we stopped hanging out