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RookieFox
December 9th, 2015, 03:41 AM
Hello! I have a story to share. Your opinion might not be the same as mine but I will try to justify it as much as I can, so, please, hear me out.
To begin with, I am 19 and I am bisexual. I've never been with the guy before that story and sometimes I doubted myself. But half a year ago, I've met this guy and we started talking, and finally became friends. I liked him from the start of your relationship as friends but I quickly found out that he has girlfriend. I always cared about other people's relationships and never wanted to mess them up (e.g. fight over the girl/boy). But then, recently, couple days ago, we were at my place, it was late so he decided to stay over the night. We were chatting a lot and we came across more personal stuff. (At this point he already knew that I am bi.) I've discovered that he was actually curious about men, but at first, I was still thinking about his girlfriend and didn't want to do anything to mess up their relationship. But then he began saying about willing to try different stuff (I have no idea was he hinting on us having sex or not, but it doesn't matter), so after couple of hours when we almost went to bed, I asked him if he would wanted to receive a blowjob from me, and he agreed. I was also thinking about actual sex, but neither of us had condoms, so we didn't do it.
But now I'm thinking how terrible I am to even think about it and even though I told him now, that I want all this to never repeat again, I feel really bad.
So the lesson of the day, i guess, is: Don't try to break relationship between people, or even if you want to try it, still think of it as a full act.
PS: sorry, I just really wanted to share with somebody

ashdyn
December 9th, 2015, 04:30 AM
Technically you weren't trying to break them up. I mean, half of this falls squarely on the other guy for even brining it up knowing you were bi and then putting himself in a situation where he'd have to turn down a free BJ (this is a definite sign he wanted this to happen anyway). So if anything, he should feel guilty for wanting to go outside his relationship. It's not like you told his girlfriend to break them up so you can have him. I think if you should feel bad about something it's probably just being selfish and taking advantage of an opportunity (that he created himself) and not considering his gf's feelings. In your defense though...it's his job to think about her feelings lol

Everyone probably thinks I'm a horrible person now but whatever lol don't beat yourself up too much.