I fucked up, help?

[SwedishBoyy]

[WARNING long text :p]

So I couple of months ago I told my crush I love her and she kinda got surprised cause we've been friends for a long time but she took it quite well you know. So I met up with her a couple of days later and she told me that she thinks I'm attractive (yeah what about that). But nothing happened, nothing. But the next day she texted me "You should've kissed me". So I got really happy and started to fucking spam her facebook, so she kinda got upset and ignored me (rather normal) so I got really pissed and told her that I want her out of my life and I haven't spoken to her since (couple of months ago). Like, what I fucking idiot I am. She's the only reason I'm walking this earth. Guys, please, what the hell do I do?

[Uniquemind]

You gotta fix your own mind first. Right now it's swinging and feeling emotions too hard and it's bouncing all over the place and jumping to conclusions, and it's freaking yourself and her out.

At this point it's best to apologize to her, foster the relationship discretely, not publicly on social networks.

You're going to have to really be patient, honest, and truthful with some rational explanation for your emotional outbursts and extremes, that are just downright scary.

If you get past that, when you feel and emotion and desire for her, express that in kisses, hugs, and other actions socially acceptable and expected by society.

[ashdyn]

1. Yeahhhhh you fucked this one up pretty bad.
2. She's not the reason you're walking this earth. You were fine before you even met her.

Your problem seems to be a tendency to over react. She said she liked you and thought you were attractive, but you missed the shot at kissing her that she obviously put out ther for you to take. So she tells you that you missed an opportunity SO THAT YOU WON'T MISS THE NEXT ONE. Instead of waiting for your next chance at kissing her you spam the shit out of her fb? What did you think that would accomplish??? She got pissed...that's a pretty human reaction to annoying shit. So you respond to her normal reaction (which you caused btw) by telling her you don't want her in your life. Wtf. You obviously didn't like/love/want her in your life if that's really all it took for you to banish her forever. You can try apologizing but I doubt that'll work. Sometimes it's just too far gone. The best case scenario is that you learn from your mistakes and don't make them again.

Like I said...she's not the purpose of your existence. You were fine before you met her and you'll be fine without her.

[Uniquemind]

1. Yeahhhhh you fucked this one up pretty bad.
2. She's not the reason you're walking this earth. You were fine before you even met her.

Your problem seems to be a tendency to over react. She said she liked you and thought you were attractive, but you missed the shot at kissing her that she obviously put out ther for you to take. So she tells you that you missed an opportunity SO THAT YOU WON'T MISS THE NEXT ONE. Instead of waiting for your next chance at kissing her you spam the shit out of her fb? What did you think that would accomplish??? She got pissed...that's a pretty human reaction to annoying shit. So you respond to her normal reaction (which you caused btw) by telling her you don't want her in your life. Wtf. You obviously didn't like/love/want her in your life if that's really all it took for you to banish her forever. You can try apologizing but I doubt that'll work. Sometimes it's just too far gone. The best case scenario is that you learn from your mistakes and don't make them again.

Like I said...she's not the purpose of your existence. You were fine before you met her and you'll be fine without her.

I fear this is the most likely scenario he's gotten himself into. What's worse is that because facebook is public, everyone in the immediate social-network saw this drama unfold.

Time is gonna have to be utilized to help the OP out don't you agree?


If there's any piece of advice that rings in my mind now, it's the concept of keeping your head down, and your ears open.

That's in the top best pieces of advice I've ever gotten, and it's sure applicable here.


On a tangent, I think I'm gonna write a small blog here with nitbits of advice that could help anybody in this forum, that can be quoted from and referenced to by anybody in the future. I'm starting to see patterns of topics emerge now being here for less than a year where a good quarter of the threads I respond to could probably be answered by a smart algorithm.

[ashdyn]

I fear this is the most likely scenario he's gotten himself into. What's worse is that because facebook is public, everyone in the immediate social-network saw this drama unfold.

Time is gonna have to be utilized to help the OP out don't you agree?


If there's any piece of advice that rings in my mind now, it's the concept of keeping your head down, and your ears open.

That's in the top best pieces of advice I've ever gotten, and it's sure applicable here.


On a tangent, I think I'm gonna write a small blog here with nitbits of advice that could help anybody in this forum, that can be quoted from and referenced to by anybody in the future. I'm starting to see patterns of topics emerge now being here for less than a year where a good quarter of the threads I respond to could probably be answered by a smart algorithm.

When you have a colossal melt down...especially in public, sometimes no amount of time can fix it. He really shit all over this situation.

[Babs]

Dude, you gotta learn to keep your cool even when tensions are running high. If I were you, I would apologize and try to repair the friendship. Don't expect it to be back to normal immediately though.

[Cadanance00]

What you do is buy an "I'm sorry" card. Write a short note about how you didn't control your temper, etc. Buy her some flowers. If you can't afford to have them delivered, have a friend of yours or hers take them to her.

Works every time.

[Uniquemind]

When you have a colossal melt down...especially in public, sometimes no amount of time can fix it. He really shit all over this situation.

Oye vey don't I know it. I was just trying to be optimistic there since apparently there was a friendship at least there.

Still meltdowns are a colossal crush killer...