It seems a lot of us a les or bi

[Shortie]

I notice that most of us girls are les or bi or at least done something with another girl. I think there's more of us being like that than straight, maybe being straight isn't "normal" anymore? 😉

[Emerald Dream]

Puberty for Girls :arrow: Teen Sexuality and Gender

This is probably better suited here. :)

[thegreatgatz]

Well, this sight probably attracts teens who do not conform to cisgenderity and heterosexuality and traditional sexual expectations because non hetero and non cisgender people face more challenges in real life, so they often use this site to socialize and build a support network.

[Elysium]

Well, this sight probably attracts teens who do not conform to cisgenderity and heterosexuality and traditional sexual expectations because non hetero and non cisgender people face more challenges in real life, so they often use this site to socialize and build a support network.
I agree with this. And this would probably be my answer, too. For shits though, this study exists (http://www.iflscience.com/editors-blog/study-suggests-women-are-all-bisexual-or-gay-almost-never-straight), arguing that very few women are actually completely straight. I maintain my opinion that sexuality can't be accurately quantified, but it's a lovely thought anyway :P

[northy]

This site and particularly this subforum and more likely to have lgbt people posting as they are looking for support with the issues they face. It's the main reason I'm on here.

[Magenta]

Basically what everyone else has said. While it is more socially acceptable these days to be openly LGBTQIA+ in some parts of the real world, it still isn't in a lot of other places. Those people have to turn to the internet and therefore you see a lot more non-cisheteronormative individuals online than IRL.

I'd love to believe that straight is no longer the "normal" but, sadly, it still is in a lot of places. VT is nice and open though so I'm glad it makes people comfortable enough to be out at least here.

[kryptonite]

I wonder if the anonymity of a forum has something to do with it. It's entirely possible to be closeted in real life, but wide open when no one knows who you are.

[Bluebyrd]

Yeah, I agree with what other people above me have said. A lot of LGBT people know that they are the minority in terms of sexuality in their area and more than likely don't know anyone else in person who is LGBT so this site attracts a lot of non-straight people :)

[Vanilla Cupcake]

How exactly do you know if your bi or gay or a lesbian at such a young age? Wouldn't you need to have sex with both genders to really know?
I licked my friend once but it doesn't mean I'm bi, I was just experimenting.
I can't say I'm not bi tho, because I think I would have to try it again to know for sure.

[Abhorrence]

How exactly do you know if your bi or gay or a lesbian at such a young age? Wouldn't you need to have sex with both genders to really know?

I think you just know, like straight people know they're straight. You have it in your mind what you are attracted to and you can't always base your sexual preferences off of sexual experiences because experiences can be good or bad and the quality of them doesn't necessarily depend on your orientation.

[Vanilla Cupcake]

I think you just know, like straight people know they're straight. You have it in your mind what you are attracted to and you can't always base your sexual preferences off of sexual experiences because experiences can be good or bad and the quality of them doesn't necessarily depend on your orientation.

Hmmm, I see, well I can't say for sure what I am at this point.

[northy]

Hmmm, I see, well I can't say for sure what I am at this point.
That's fine. You don't need labels, some people just like them and even then, it's just a word.

[Hermes]

...For shits though, this study exists (http://www.iflscience.com/editors-blog/study-suggests-women-are-all-bisexual-or-gay-almost-never-straight), arguing that very few women are actually completely straight....

I had seen a similar discussion of that same survey recently somewhere else. It is worth noting that this survey applies to arousal particularly, and furthermore a specific way of measuring arousal, and not to which sex of sexual/romantic partner people actually take up with.

...I'd love to believe that straight is no longer the "normal" but, sadly, it still is in a lot of places...

I think it depends on how you interpret straight and what you mean by normal. Following on from the study mentioned above, things people have said here and elsewhere, and my own personal experience I am starting to think that, yes, people are most commonly straight in the sense that they take a sexual and romantic partner of the opposite sex, with a smaller number taking a partner of the same sex and some people having relationships with either, but that doesn't mean most people are exclusively attracted to one sex or have sexual interest only in one sex.

I think now that is more ok than it has ever been to be something other than straight people, even those who identify as straight, are more prepared to be honest about same-sex encounters and desires whereas previously every straight person would want you to believe they didn't have the tiniest interest in their own sex.

So, with that complexity are labels useful? It seems there is a quite a risk of being misunderstood when trying to use them to communicate because one person may be using them to refer to arousal (as in the survey above) and another interest in potential partners and my whole point is that these are more loosely coupled than people have previously thought. Does it ever help to adopt a label for yourself? I think it probably can, particularly if it is gay or lesbian, and if that's what it takes to me you realise you should be looking for your future partner in gay or gay-friendly places rather than try to chat up blokes who'd rather be chatting up girls.

One thing I am certain of is that a label should never be prescriptive. There are commonly posts here along the lines "I am straight so should I be turned on my seeing my mate's cock?" Where being turned on by his mate's cock is a fact, being straight is an assessment which maybe wrong. We do know the two are not necessarily inconsistent but only the person who posed the question knows the rest of the facts.

Finally an interesting anecdote - it seems it has long been fine for girls and women to touch each others breasts and this generally does not draw any adverse comments. It seems much less common for guys to do anything similar though I did go a to pub where a guy, sat with a girl I later discovered was his girlfriends, greeted me with the words "nice package, do you mind if I have a feel?" I was a little surprised but let him.

[Maria16 Here]

I notice that most of us girls are les or bi or at least done something with another girl. I think there's more of us being like that than straight, maybe being straight isn't "normal" anymore? 😉

I agree and it is similar in my group of friends

[Cadanance00]

I think that's right. My gf says all her friends have done something with each other, unless they're totally religious and my sister says she fools around with her friend when they spend the night. I think it's more normal thanotherwise. The study makes sense from what I can see, and I can't really see that it hurts anything.