Has this happened to anyone else? Any advice on what to do?

[onewingedangel666]

So has anyone else ever met someone who changed their life alot? Like they got you into certain interests and changed some of your world views? Did anyone else have romantic feelings that were not given back for that person? Thats what I'm going through.

It's so wierd, alot of the things I have interest in/like (Anime, Tea, Etc) all came about because a girl i liked got me into them. Now, this girl has lost all good feelings towards me for stupid reasons (On both of our parts) and now, whenevr I do something that she has gotten me into, I think about her. I don't want to think about her, but Idk if I can stop.

Is it okay to keep thinking about a girl you know you have no chance with? I sometimes feel like it is wrong, that I don't have the right? What do you think?

[Brieftime]

Sounds like she's just helped you grow as a person. Opened you up to new idea and things. I'd say it's ok to think about her.

[ashdyn]

In every relationship there's a give and take...I know I've grown and changed so much since I've been dating my gf. From everything from shows I watch to new types of food lol so she got you into a new hobby...it's not like she owns or invented that hobby. If you just broke up of course things are gunna remind you of her but that will fade. You don't want to go around and see someone drinking water and start thinking "water....she used to drink water"

[lliam]

It's okay if you can handle it. But for some reason you can't right now, i guess.

So, you once changed your interests. That you can do a second time ... or more times. Change those interessts if you don't want to think about her.

[Professional Russian]

That's exactly what my last girl did for me and a few other things and thats the exact reason why even 9 months later I'm still.fighting to have my best friend back. When someone steps into your life, completely changes it, then leaves its not easy and I'm not going to let mine leave....although it doesn't really look like she wants to either #offtopic

[Melodic]

I was in the same boat a year ago. What helped me was to pull myself away from those interests until I was over the breakup.

[AutumnWinds]

i think you have the right to think about whoever or whatever you wish to. but please also consider what is healthiest for you. remember the good times with her, but if it;s not something that can be repaired, make sure you don't trick yourself into thinking they will come back. instead focus on making new memories, and perhaps finding people to share the experiences with along the way.

So has anyone else ever met someone who changed their life alot? Like they got you into certain interests and changed some of your world views? Did anyone else have romantic feelings that were not given back for that person? Thats what I'm going through.

It's so wierd, alot of the things I have interest in/like (Anime, Tea, Etc) all came about because a girl i liked got me into them. Now, this girl has lost all good feelings towards me for stupid reasons (On both of our parts) and now, whenevr I do something that she has gotten me into, I think about her. I don't want to think about her, but Idk if I can stop.

Is it okay to keep thinking about a girl you know you have no chance with? I sometimes feel like it is wrong, that I don't have the right? What do you think?

[Zachary G]

Its okay to feel what you are feeling because we never really get over or forget our first real love. Just think of the good times you had when you do things and smile and know that if it werent for her you cold be doing something far worse.