How old were you when you first had sex?

[Vanilla Cupcake]

I see lots of you talking about sex and I was wondering what age you first tried it?
Were you scared?
Did it hurt?
Was it your idea?
Do you regret it?
How did you figure out how to do it? Like move n stuff?

[Princess Ariel]

I was 18, late I know. But I wasn't ready until that point, and I wasn't with the person I wanted to be with. I wasn't scared, because I knew I was ready; I wasn't questioning it. It wasn't really my idea as per it was a mutual agreement - one thing lead to another and we had sex.
I don't regret it at all, not even slightly. It felt right being with that person, both before we had sex, and do this day it still feels right. When it comes to "figuring it out" - I don't really know what to tell you. When you're having sex, your mind stops working, and your body takes control. You'll know what to do before even thinking about it.

[LITTLEANGEL19]

I am a virgin :)

[Ashwells9991]

I was 12
Were you scared? a little
Did it hurt? yes it hurt a lot
Was it your idea? sort of
Do you regret it? no
How did you figure out how to do it? Like move n stuff? i didnt move that much the 1st time lol

[Vanilla Cupcake]

Thanks for the replies. I'm dating this guy,he's a bit older then me and he has had sex before. He is getting really close with me and touching me all over, but when he tries to put his hand in my pants I tell him no I'm not ready for that yet. I think he will want to have sex with me soon though, so I'm mentally preparing myself.

[ClaraWho]

Thanks for the replies. I'm dating this guy,he's a bit older then me and he has had sex before. He is getting really close with me and touching me all over, but when he tries to put his hand in my pants I tell him no I'm not ready for that yet. I think he will want to have sex with me soon though, so I'm mentally preparing myself.

You don't sound comfortable or old enough to have sex with him. I'd mentally prepare yourself to keep saying No. If he can't respect that, he doesn't deserve you.

~ Clara

[Emerald Dream]

Just a reminder - explicit sexual storytelling is not allowed. Posts have been deleted.

[Vanilla Cupcake]

You don't sound comfortable or old enough to have sex with him. I'd mentally prepare yourself to keep saying No. If he can't respect that, he doesn't deserve you.

~ Clara

Well how old should I be to have sex? I feel like I might want to try sex soon.

[Uniquemind]

Well how old should I be to have sex? I feel like I might want to try sex soon.

There's no set age because it's a personal thing tied to development of the self.

But there are some clues that I think help signal to yourself you're ready:

1. Talking about sex doesn't unnerve you.

2. You aren't being pressured into it via guilt or through gender roles.

3. You understand physical sexual pleasure does not equal love or trust.

[Vanilla Cupcake]

There's no set age because it's a personal thing tied to development of the self.

But there are some clues that I think help signal to yourself you're ready:

1. Talking about sex doesn't unnerve you.

2. You aren't being pressured into it via guilt or through gender roles.

3. You understand physical sexual pleasure does not equal love or trust.

Well if I go through that list then I'd say I'm ready! :)

[Anna Kadlecova]

I am 15 and still virgin, but I love masturbate (insert fingers, ...)

[Uniquemind]

Well if I go through that list then I'd say I'm ready! :)

I only gave you a partial list not a full one.

Do you have enough money to buy a good house? Not rent, but own.

Do you know how to feed, change diapers, of a baby?

If you get a sexually transmitted disease do you know what to do?

[KatyEvans]

I only gave you a partial list not a full one.

Do you have enough money to buy a good house? Not rent, but own.

Do you know how to feed, change diapers, of a baby?

If you get a sexually transmitted disease do you know what to do?

That is a massively unfair list! By that list only rich people should have sex, no teenager would be able to afford a house! Not to mention the other two are very bias to assume everyone who has sex have stds and babies

[Uniquemind]

That is a massively unfair list! By that list only rich people should have sex, no teenager would be able to afford a house! Not to mention the other two are very bias to assume everyone who has sex have stds and babies

It is unfair, but apparently that is the reality of what life slaps us with.

Lots of people ignore this anyway and they make it work myself included but if they fall into a situation of pregnancy or anti-biotic resistant std's, life becomes more challenging emotionally, and financially and socially.

Again PM me if you want to discuss further i already feel I'm off topic.

-

To the OP: I wasn't ready, it hurt, then it was fine a few minutes later, it was a learning experience. We broke up a few months later and i learned to be a bit more picky with partners.

[Vanilla Cupcake]

I only gave you a partial list not a full one.

Do you have enough money to buy a good house? Not rent, but own.

Do you know how to feed, change diapers, of a baby?

If you get a sexually transmitted disease do you know what to do?

I don't have money to buy a house but I'm a kid soooo....
I do know how to feed a baby and change diapers.
If I got a disease I would go to the doctor.

Besides all that, isn't that why we are to use condoms?

It doesn't matter now anyways because I broke up with this boy because I don't like him anymore. Grrrrrr.

[Uniquemind]

I don't have money to buy a house but I'm a kid soooo....
I do know how to feed a baby and change diapers.
If I got a disease I would go to the doctor.

Besides all that, isn't that why we are to use condoms?

It doesn't matter now anyways because I broke up with this boy because I don't like him anymore. Grrrrrr.

Condoms can break, and it is of my personal belief that a lot of people try bareback a few times within a sexual relationship.

Either way it doesn't matter you said you broke up. I won't post here anymore because the issue is closed.

[ClaraWho]

Whilst this matter may not be closed, it can still be a learning experience.

1. Anyone refferring to themself as a 'kid' shouldn't be having sex with other kids. Kids making kids is never a good idea!
2. Condoms only work 99.9% of the time - once you apply that to say, the population of the UK, that's a lot of failures! My 18 year old cousin ended up having to drop out of her nursing degree when she got pregnant this way, and it triggered major health problems for her (epilepsy) but obviously whislt that is extreme, there can be complications; especially with teen births.
3. One day you were considering having sex with this boy, the next dumping him because you 'don't like him anymore'. If you had sex with him, it would release a bonding chemical that would confuse the whole situation. If you'd ended up with an STI or pregnant, you would only find out in another month or longer in the future, when he is nowhere to be found.
4. There are plenty of other things you can do besides intercourse. Nobody should be having intercourse without the willingness to commit the next 18 years at least to a child, and having that person stuck in your life. Most of us have higher ambitions than that for our younger years! You would also need to be both financially prepared and emotionally prepared.

Hopefully you can take a lot of positive ideas from this thread for the future :3

~ Clara

[Abbeys]

Whilst this matter may not be closed, it can still be a learning experience.

1. Anyone refferring to themself as a 'kid' shouldn't be having sex with other kids. Kids making kids is never a good idea!
2. Condoms only work 99.9% of the time - once you apply that to say, the population of the UK, that's a lot of failures! My 18 year old cousin ended up having to drop out of her nursing degree when she got pregnant this way, and it triggered major health problems for her (epilepsy) but obviously whislt that is extreme, there can be complications; especially with teen births.
3. One day you were considering having sex with this boy, the next dumping him because you 'don't like him anymore'. If you had sex with him, it would release a bonding chemical that would confuse the whole situation. If you'd ended up with an STI or pregnant, you would only find out in another month or longer in the future, when he is nowhere to be found.
4. There are plenty of other things you can do besides intercourse. Nobody should be having intercourse without the willingness to commit the next 18 years at least to a child, and having that person stuck in your life. Most of us have higher ambitions than that for our younger years! You would also need to be both financially prepared and emotionally prepared.

Hopefully you can take a lot of positive ideas from this thread for the future :3

~ Clara

Whats this bonding chemical?

[KSchymets]

I see lots of you talking about sex and I was wondering what age you first tried it? I was 11
Were you scared? a little only because his dick was big
Did it hurt? a little
Was it your idea? no
Do you regret it? no
How did you figure out how to do it? Like move n stuff? idk i watched a lot of porn

[ClaraWho]

Whats this bonding chemical?


Oxytocin!

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/love-and-gratitude/201310/oxytocin-the-love-and-trust-hormone-can-be-deceptive

http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/news/20131125/how-the-love-hormone-works-its-magic

Fascinating article regarding male attraction to their partners too ^.

~ Clara

[Vanilla Cupcake]

I see lots of you talking about sex and I was wondering what age you first tried it? I was 11
Were you scared? a little only because his dick was big
Did it hurt? a little
Was it your idea? no
Do you regret it? no
How did you figure out how to do it? Like move n stuff? idk i watched a lot of porn

Wow 11 years old, my gosh that's young. Did you like it? I bet it hurt bad!
At least you don't regret it.

Whilst this matter may not be closed, it can still be a learning experience.

1. Anyone refferring to themself as a 'kid' shouldn't be having sex with other kids. Kids making kids is never a good idea!
2. Condoms only work 99.9% of the time - once you apply that to say, the population of the UK, that's a lot of failures! My 18 year old cousin ended up having to drop out of her nursing degree when she got pregnant this way, and it triggered major health problems for her (epilepsy) but obviously whislt that is extreme, there can be complications; especially with teen births.
3. One day you were considering having sex with this boy, the next dumping him because you 'don't like him anymore'. If you had sex with him, it would release a bonding chemical that would confuse the whole situation. If you'd ended up with an STI or pregnant, you would only find out in another month or longer in the future, when he is nowhere to be found.
4. There are plenty of other things you can do besides intercourse. Nobody should be having intercourse without the willingness to commit the next 18 years at least to a child, and having that person stuck in your life. Most of us have higher ambitions than that for our younger years! You would also need to be both financially prepared and emotionally prepared.

Hopefully you can take a lot of positive ideas from this thread for the future :3

~ Clara

I get what your saying, and when you say kids having sex with kids is wrong, what about having sex with someone who isn't a kid? That might be better because then the guy has the money in case one got pregnant.
I know you have to be older to have sex with an adult, but I'm sure kids do it.
Just sayin...

I want to ask one more thing that just crossed my mind. What if you don't have sex and you just do Oral? That's ok because you can't get pregnant?

-merged double post. -Emerald Dream

[Uniquemind]

Oxytocin!

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/love-and-gratitude/201310/oxytocin-the-love-and-trust-hormone-can-be-deceptive

http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/news/20131125/how-the-love-hormone-works-its-magic

Fascinating article regarding male attraction to their partners too ^.

~ Clara

OMG that explains so much! But now I have to ask does this article semi-support what a lot of "pickup artists" culture talk about when they preach their crap to guys on how to get girls? Is there some truth to seduction culture from a scientific-biological/psychological perspective?

How are we supposed to respond to emotions then? Do we trust our emotions less given that we know it's just bio-chemical illusions?

[ClaraWho]

I get what your saying, and when you say kids having sex with kids is wrong, what about having sex with someone who isn't a kid? That might be better because then the guy has the money in case one got pregnant.
I know you have to be older to have sex with an adult, but I'm sure kids do it.
Just sayin...

On purely a financial point of view, no, a kid having sex with an adult isn't better. It's difficult to support a baby when you're in jail for statutory rape, whilst being attacked for being a child molester.

Adults do have sex with children (notice the order of that statement), that's what peadophilia is, and never a desirable option.

Whilst many young teen girls want sex with older men, when you are older and looking back, you'll see how sickeningly messed up that is. When you are the younger one looking up the age gap, it doesn't seem so bad, only because you don't see how little you actually are!


OMG that explains so much! But now I have to ask does this article semi-support what a lot of "pickup artists" culture talk about when they preach their crap to guys on how to get girls? Is there some truth to seduction culture from a scientific-biological/psychological perspective?

How are we supposed to respond to emotions then? Do we trust our emotions less given that we know it's just bio-chemical illusions?

I'm not sure I follow what you mean, as I have heard of loads of different 'pick-up artist' techniques... None of which, may I add, sound pleasant...

The fundamental atribution error is well researched. This involves misinterpretation of physical sensations and stimuli, with mental emotions.
Racing heartbeat, sweaty palms, pupil dilation and inability to think coherently are physically present in both love and fear. In domestic violence cases this fear arousal is misinterpreted with love and passion, hence some long-term unhealthy relationships (think 50 shades).
Knowing about the fundamental attribution error has also been found not to protect you from making it yourself!

We also know that pulling an angry/sad/happy face causes people to rate themselves as being more of that emotion, even though they have simply been told to do so by the experimenter.

In many ways it seems we construct our emotions based on what we think we should be feeling, and external stimuli. Certainly a baby is emotionally attuned to the mood of it's care giver. We also know how impulsively we can make decisions based on our current short-term emotional state, rather than think objectively about how we really are in the wider context.

Given that we are the by-product of neurochemical interactions, of millions of neurons expressing themselves at different points in time, it's to a large degree beyond our control.

What we can do however is try to create a 'time-out' to distance ourselves and gain perspective before making larger decisions, to think as logically as we can when it matters (buying a house, car, choosing healthcare). For the rest of the time, emotions enrich our lives, and we should sometimes be in the moment (But keep an eye on potential consequences).

~ Clara

I want to ask one more thing that just crossed my mind. What if you don't have sex and you just do Oral? That's ok because you can't get pregnant?

P.S. I did mention that in my previous posts as an alternative to intercouse ^

[tulolita2015]

I was 12, hurt me a lot the first penetrations then it feel better eventually. After that first time it was really good.

[Vanilla Cupcake]

On purely a financial point of view, no, a kid having sex with an adult isn't better. It's difficult to support a baby when you're in jail for statutory rape, whilst being attacked for being a child molester.

Adults do have sex with children (notice the order of that statement), that's what peadophilia is, and never a desirable option.

Whilst many young teen girls want sex with older men, when you are older and looking back, you'll see how sickeningly messed up that is. When you are the younger one looking up the age gap, it doesn't seem so bad, only because you don't see how little you actually are!




I'm not sure I follow what you mean, as I have heard of loads of different 'pick-up artist' techniques... None of which, may I add, sound pleasant...

The fundamental atribution error is well researched. This involves misinterpretation of physical sensations and stimuli, with mental emotions.
Racing heartbeat, sweaty palms, pupil dilation and inability to think coherently are physically present in both love and fear. In domestic violence cases this fear arousal is misinterpreted with love and passion, hence some long-term unhealthy relationships (think 50 shades).
Knowing about the fundamental attribution error has also been found not to protect you from making it yourself!

We also know that pulling an angry/sad/happy face causes people to rate themselves as being more of that emotion, even though they have simply been told to do so by the experimenter.

In many ways it seems we construct our emotions based on what we think we should be feeling, and external stimuli. Certainly a baby is emotionally attuned to the mood of it's care giver. We also know how impulsively we can make decisions based on our current short-term emotional state, rather than think objectively about how we really are in the wider context.

Given that we are the by-product of neurochemical interactions, of millions of neurons expressing themselves at different points in time, it's to a large degree beyond our control.

What we can do however is try to create a 'time-out' to distance ourselves and gain perspective before making larger decisions, to think as logically as we can when it matters (buying a house, car, choosing healthcare). For the rest of the time, emotions enrich our lives, and we should sometimes be in the moment (But keep an eye on potential consequences).

~ Clara



P.S. I did mention that in my previous posts as an alternative to intercouse ^
On purely a financial point of view, no, a kid having sex with an adult isn't better. It's difficult to support a baby when you're in jail for statutory rape, whilst being attacked for being a child molester.

Adults do have sex with children (notice the order of that statement), that's what peadophilia is, and never a desirable option.

Whilst many young teen girls want sex with older men, when you are older and looking back, you'll see how sickeningly messed up that is. When you are the younger one looking up the age gap, it doesn't seem so bad, only because you don't see how little you actually are!

Why do you think some teens want an older man? And why do you think some men want a teen girl? I can see what I like about older men, but I can't see what they would like about a teen girl. We are so immature and non sexy and other things.

[AutumnWinds]

Thanks for the replies. I'm dating this guy,he's a bit older then me and he has had sex before. He is getting really close with me and touching me all over, but when he tries to put his hand in my pants I tell him no I'm not ready for that yet. I think he will want to have sex with me soon though, so I'm mentally preparing myself.

you don't owe him anything. it's important you have sex, or do anything sexual when you are BOTH ready for it. anyone who cares about you will wait until you are, and do you really want to be with someone who doesn't care enough about you to wait?

do you mind if i ask how old you both are? i'm involved with someone fairly older than i, myself, so it;s very unlikely i will judge. :)

[KellyNC]

I see lots of you talking about sex and I was wondering what age you first tried it? 14
Were you scared? No, it happened pretty naturally. Definitely more excited
Did it hurt? No. But it was with a girl so...
Was it your idea? It was both of ours
Do you regret it? No
How did you figure out how to do it? Like move n stuff? Just experimenting, realizing what felt good, and instinct really.

[Vanilla Cupcake]

Hmmm looks like most people have sex at 14 or earlier. I know lots of kids at school have sex. I feel kinda lame, like I should be doing it too. I just haven't found the right guy yet I guess.

[Abbeys]

Hmmm looks like most people have sex at 14 or earlier. I know lots of kids at school have sex. I feel kinda lame, like I should be doing it too. I just haven't found the right guy yet I guess.

Not lame at all.

Respect to you.

[Maria16 Here]

I see lots of you talking about sex and I was wondering what age you first tried it? 12, almost 13
Were you scared? Yes, but curious
Did it hurt? Yes some that first time
Was it your idea? His, but I agreed
Do you regret it? No
How did you figure out how to do it? Like move n stuff? He knew a lot and i had learned some from talking to friends.

[ClaraWho]

Thankyou! But I still feel like I'm the only one who hasn't done it.
Maybe I should take my own virginity with a carot so I can say I'm not a virgin anymore. Or does that not count?

You realise there isn't actually such a thing as 'virginity' right?

There is a thin vaginal lining that can be worn away by intercourse, but the vast majority of girls will wear this away simply by riding a bike, falling, fingering, etc. A month after you have intercourse, nobody could physically examine you and know whether you'd ever had sex or not.

'Virginity' is an old fashioned, heteronormative, sexist term used to describe a girl becoming 'impure'. This then extended to guys and girls having sex with each other.
1. In this sense, two lesbians can never not be virgins. Can two guys? Does oral sex count?
2. And who defines what counts as losing virginity, just search the word on here to send endless, unanswerable debates.

It's meaningless.

I'd also question the credibility of anyone claiming to have had sex, unless they are posting selfies, there's no way of disproving it. And if they are, more fool them.

~ Clara

[Vanilla Cupcake]

You realise there isn't actually such a thing as 'virginity' right?

There is a thin vaginal lining that can be worn away by intercourse, but the vast majority of girls will wear this away simply by riding a bike, falling, fingering, etc. A month after you have intercourse, nobody could physically examine you and know whether you'd ever had sex or not.

'Virginity' is an old fashioned, heteronormative, sexist term used to describe a girl becoming 'impure'. This then extended to guys and girls having sex with each other.
1. In this sense, two lesbians can never not be virgins. Can two guys? Does oral sex count?
2. And who defines what counts as losing virginity, just search the word on here to send endless, unanswerable debates.

It's meaningless.

I'd also question the credibility of anyone claiming to have had sex, unless they are posting selfies, there's no way of disproving it. And if they are, more fool them.

~ Clara
Wow really! Well that's interesting. I've never stuck anything in there yet, not even a finger. Well there you have it, none of us are Virgins then.

[Abbeys]

Wow really! Well that's interesting. I've never stuck anything in there yet, not even a finger. Well there you have it, none of us are Virgins then.

All the stress,anxiety and hand wringing that people have suffered through the ages has been for what?

Nothing!

I wish I had known this when it mattered.

My only saving grace is that I know you and the rest of the world till the end of time will no longer have to suffer the guilt and self doubt as to how,when and why they lose their virginity becuase it has already gone.

I feel euphoric and liberated and I hope you feel the same.

[lenka11]

i am virgin :)

[Uniquemind]

You realise there isn't actually such a thing as 'virginity' right?

There is a thin vaginal lining that can be worn away by intercourse, but the vast majority of girls will wear this away simply by riding a bike, falling, fingering, etc. A month after you have intercourse, nobody could physically examine you and know whether you'd ever had sex or not.

'Virginity' is an old fashioned, heteronormative, sexist term used to describe a girl becoming 'impure'. This then extended to guys and girls having sex with each other.
1. In this sense, two lesbians can never not be virgins. Can two guys? Does oral sex count?
2. And who defines what counts as losing virginity, just search the word on here to send endless, unanswerable debates.

It's meaningless.

I'd also question the credibility of anyone claiming to have had sex, unless they are posting selfies, there's no way of disproving it. And if they are, more fool them.

~ Clara

Wow really! Well that's interesting. I've never stuck anything in there yet, not even a finger. Well there you have it, none of us are Virgins then.

So there you have it Ella,we are all fucked, to use the correct colloquialism.

All the stress,anxiety and hand wringing that people have suffered through the ages has been for what?

Nothing!

I wish I had known this when it mattered.

My only saving grace is that I know you and the rest of the world till the end of time will no longer have to suffer the guilt and self doubt as to how,when and why they lose their virginity becuase it has already gone.

I feel euphoric and liberated and I hope you feel the same.


ClaraWho is right virginity as a social construct is fake and empty and manipulative.

However virginity does matter in respects to "first psychological experience" with sex, and the emotions that can come with it. It can also cause ripple effects in how you relate or think about sex positively or negatively, it's a first impression thing. Think of it like a person, you're meeting "sex" for the first time.

Having sex also means technically you no longer have 100% chance of being STD/STI free.

There are also studies that say, and I'm sure there are testimonials here to be found, that having sex can disrupt the normal pH, and bacterial balance in the vagina, and also after sex (or I guess intense masturbation with a penetrating object), you can cause a UTI (aka: Urinary tract infection).


So be aware of that.

P.S. Don't use vegetables down there or near vaginal or any other oriface. You don't want bacteria on the vegetable that probably came from a farm, to get up inside you and make you sick.

That's what sex toys are for and also why proper cleaning and ownership of sex toys is important. Research is required and I wish we could discuss such products and purchases here on the forums without it's taboo rule break. (Mods and admin this paragraph is aimed as a question for you, provided the topic is discussed in a mature tone like how the trains, planes, and automobiles thread works).

[iamsilkspectre]

I see lots of you talking about sex and I was wondering what age you first tried it? 13
Were you scared? No.
Did it hurt? A little.
Was it your idea? Mine and my BF's
Do you regret it? Not at all.
How did you figure out how to do it? Like move n stuff? I dunno. We just knew. Instinct, I guess.

[xcherriesncreamx]

I see lots of you talking about sex and I was wondering what age you first tried it? 12
Were you scared? No.
Did it hurt? Kind of lot I have a very tight vagina.
Was it your idea? Mine and my BFF's
Do you regret it? Not at all.
How did you figure out how to do it? Like move n stuff? We watched porn alot

[SammyG17]

what age you first tried it? 11
Were you scared? no.
Did it hurt? no, I was well prepared.
Was it your idea? and the other people involved, but mainly mine.
Do you regret it? no
How did you figure out how to do it? Like move n stuff? practice with watching porn, voraciously reading and instinct

[Emerald Dream]

Let's try to keep this appropriate. Off-topic and inappropriate posts have been deleted.

[Ankoku]

Why do you think some teens want an older man?Basically this I masterbate thinking about older men and their penises. I don't know why, but I imagine them bigger then a boys penis, or teen boy penis. It also gives me a safe feeling.Maybe more so the safe feeling. Which comes from the fact that they have more experience, are stronger, more stable, more money.
Why do you think some men want a teen girl? I can see what I like about older men, but I can't see what they would like about a teen girl. We are so immature and non sexy and other things.
Probably innocence. You want to feel safe (be protected) and they want to protect, provide for you etc. Also a lot of teen girls are decently developed so we can be sexy. As for less developed girls (or some girls are just tiny, there are tiny adults as well). "sexy" "hot" is not the only attractive aspect, "cute" can be attractive too.

[Vanilla Cupcake]

Basically this Maybe more so the safe feeling. Which comes from the fact that they have more experience, are stronger, more stable, more money.

Probably innocence. You want to feel safe (be protected) and they want to protect, provide for you etc. Also a lot of teen girls are decently developed so we can be sexy. As for less developed girls (or some girls are just tiny, there are tiny adults as well). "sexy" "hot" is not the only attractive aspect, "cute" can be attractive too.

Yes I think your right, it's a safe feeling and knowing they are older and more knowledgable. Money and stability never crossed my mind, but feeling safe and wanting to be taken care of did.

I guess your right about teens being sexy and cute, but it's the immaturity part that I was thinking wasn't appealing to adults.

[jennyem]

Were you scared? YES!
Did it hurt? A bit
Was it your idea? It was a mutual idea between me and my boyfriend at the time
Do you regret it? No
How did you figure out how to do it? Like move n stuff? We just learned as we went and followed our instincts ;p

[Beach_Blonde]

I can say I am a proud virgin. I could only useoral sex as an example.

I was 13, no I wasn't scared. It was my idea felt like I was ready. And I learned from watching porn ad talking to friends and it is kind of instinctual.

I feel like I would know when I am ready (and despite some other peoples belife) that it is enough for me. I have been in your shoes before were an older guy tried to pressure me into sex. I was 12 he was 14. I kept saying no. I knew I wasn't ready and I thought maybe I should just do it but that's not fair to me. And no amount of mental prep would get me ready. Honestly if you feel like you have to mentaly prepare yourself then your not ready it should come naturly. So it an probably best it dntwork out between you two.

[prtygurl]

You rock, girl!

[nicole97]

I see lots of you talking about sex and I was wondering what age you first tried it? 13
Were you scared? Not really, I knew it'd hurt a but but I was excited.
Did it hurt? Somewhat at first, yes
Was it your idea? It was a mutual decision, although he was the first to bring it up
Do you regret it? Not at all
How did you figure out how to do it? Like move n stuff? Just experimenting with one another I guess.

[Doro15]

Hmmm looks like most people have sex at 14 or earlier. I know lots of kids at school have sex. I feel kinda lame, like I should be doing it too. I just haven't found the right guy yet I guess.

You have nothing missed and will find the right for your first sex - I am sure.
take your time.

[Doro15]

I see lots of you talking about sex and I was wondering what age you first tried it? 14
Were you scared? No, I was curious.
Did it hurt? A little bit at the first
Was it your idea? we both wanted it
Do you regret it? No
How did you figure out how to do it? erotic movies

[Heidi_luv14]

still a virgin! and i am in no hurry either:)

[Doro15]

still a virgin! and i am in no hurry either:)

this is a right attitude

[lenka11]

still virgin :)

[Anna Kadlecova]

I had only anal sex and only once...

Did it hurt? not so much
Was it your idea? half
Do you regret it? no
How did you figure out how to do it? Like move n stuff? porn, friends, internet, ...

[DaniR802]

Wow! I thought I was the only one who thought about this! My parents are deeply religious and all they told me was it is a sin. Is it really okay to think about this kind of thing?

[Atlantis]

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