Jealous trouble !

[MohamedSaieed]

hello guy's , it is my first post in this forums i wish that you can help me in my issue , sorry if i had any Spelling Mistakes or grammatical as my main language is not English :)

plainly , my trouble with my babe is she is talking with another boy ,
she is not love him she love me but the boy who she is In a relationship of friendship with him love her , i'm not sad because she is talking to him , but i'm afraid if she loved him and leave me lonely !
i ask her to not talking with him any more , but every time she stop talking to him after few days she return to talk to him , and her argument is she find an
awkwardness to say to him not to talk again anymore with her.
now i'm fully Confounded , some times i say i must leave her , but i can't , she is my love of my life , some times i say "It's simple, do not inflate the problem",
but no , because About a month ago or two , she asked me to stop talking with my girl-friends , i have to friends (girls) and we are friends from a long time , and sharing each of other secrets ,
but i think she feel Jealous , so i decide to finish my friendship with my girl friends to satisfaction her , and now she is making me very Jealous :( !!!
what should i do ?

[MohamedSaieed]

No replies :/

[Uniquemind]

Both of you need to get rid of the jealousy and trust each other more.

You live in the real world which will require social networks of all genders; not isolating each other in the face of fear that you cannot control your partner.

[KeeganW]

Agree with Uniquemind.

Did either of you ever cheat on the other one? If not, you have no reasons to really be worried. Maybe you should spend some time TOGETHER with each others friends and get to know them, that might help.

[Zachary G]

If there is no sexual value to the friendships you both have with your friends then there should be no problems at all. Just because she is a girl does not mean she cannot have friends that are boys, and the same for you being a boy with friends that are girls. A relationship is built on trust and if you do not have that then your relationship is going to fail because neither of you can trust the other. If you cant fix this problem maybe it would be best for you to end your relationship with her and find another.

[MohamedSaieed]

Both of you need to get rid of the jealousy and trust each other more.

You live in the real world which will require social networks of all genders; not isolating each other in the face of fear that you cannot control your partner.

I am grateful to you for your reply
you are right but i'm fear that she can be in troubles as almost boys just think in the sexual relations , no pure friendship.
although she is my babe but i don't want to Had a sexual relationship with her
before she be my wife.

Agree with Uniquemind.

Did either of you ever cheat on the other one? If not, you have no reasons to really be worried. Maybe you should spend some time TOGETHER with each others friends and get to know them, that might help.
no we didn't cheat some of us , but i'm against the idea of hading a friendships with boys (for her) not all boys are good.
If there is no sexual value to the friendships you both have with your friends then there should be no problems at all. Just because she is a girl does not mean she cannot have friends that are boys, and the same for you being a boy with friends that are girls. A relationship is built on trust and if you do not have that then your relationship is going to fail because neither of you can trust the other. If you cant fix this problem maybe it would be best for you to end your relationship with her and find another.
i have had a SEMI-sexual relation with her friend (before i loved her)
but that was a mistake and i promise that i will never talk to a girl but her , now we are 3 years in this relation but i'm fear that she would try what i do before with her friend , she is headstrong , but she love me very much

[Uniquemind]

I am grateful to you for your reply
you are right but i'm fear that she can be in troubles as almost boys just think in the sexual relations , no pure friendship.
although she is my babe but i don't want to Had a sexual relationship with her
before she be my wife.


no we didn't cheat some of us , but i'm against the idea of hading a friendships with boys (for her) not all boys are good.

i have had a SEMI-sexual relation with her friend (before i loved her)
but that was a mistake and i promise that i will never talk to a girl but her , now we are 3 years in this relation but i'm fear that she would try what i do before with her friend , she is headstrong , but she love me very much


With that mindset it almost sounds like you would put emotional blame for her if she was raped by her male acquaintances.

That idea that women are at fault for being used sexually against their will, and the resentment their male partners feel is an unjustified feeling with misplaced rage. In America even, this is a concept culturally we're working on, but we are making more progress than your country currently.

Also not all males are rapists either.

Also science says the vagina is self-cleansing, and even if a woman is not a virgin, obviously people marry people who've had spouses before.

Your condition of women being a virgin for marriage does not hold up to logic and is rather only expected due to psychological cultural expectations.

If you're worried about sTd's than have her tested.

[MohamedSaieed]

With that mindset it almost sounds like you would put emotional blame for her if she was raped by her male acquaintances.

That idea that women are at fault for being used sexually against their will, and the resentment their male partners feel is an unjustified feeling with misplaced rage. In America even, this is a concept culturally we're working on, but we are making more progress than your country currently.

Also not all males are rapists either.

Also science says the vagina is self-cleansing, and even if a woman is not a virgin, obviously people marry people who've had spouses before.

Your condition of women being a virgin for marriage does not hold up to logic and is rather only expected due to psychological cultural expectations.

If you're worried about sTd's than have her tested.

i think my fear is stems from The sexual Customs and traditions of my country.
whatever , thank you for that helpful reply :)

[Uniquemind]

i think my fear is stems from The sexual Customs and traditions of my country.
whatever , thank you for that helpful reply :)

And you would be correct, and now the task is for you to question the merits of why those customs and traditions exist in the first place.

Do they produce good outcomes or bad outcomes for your society? Does the rigidity of some of those concepts and morals, outweigh the concept of what could happen if one could just forgive whatever sin, and move on with the same person who isn't perfect, but is still at the core of it all, someone you still might have feelings for?