Worried about my little bro

[Sandybeaches]

I've never been an overcaring older brother to my little bro, James, but something made me think today.

So usually on a Wednesday I have football training so i stay late after school, only this time it was shorter than normal. When I got home I saw this older guy like 30-40 coming out of my house, he said hi and got in his car and drove off.
I asked my bro who it was and he said it was just one of his friend's dads picking something up for him. I sorta believed him but was checking through his friends pics and didn't see this guy in any of them, i know that doesn't mean anything but......idk.
I remembered a few hours ago seeing him drop James off at home as well like a week ago.... maybe I'm just being paranoid or am i right to be suspiscious?
He's always been a good kid and never done anythign bad really.

[Vermilion]

I've never been an overcaring older brother to my little bro, James, but something made me think today.

So usually on a Wednesday I have football training so i stay late after school, only this time it was shorter than normal. When I got home I saw this older guy like 30-40 coming out of my house, he said hi and got in his car and drove off.
I asked my bro who it was and he said it was just one of his friend's dads picking something up for him. I sorta believed him but was checking through his friends pics and didn't see this guy in any of them, i know that doesn't mean anything but......idk.
I remembered a few hours ago seeing him drop James off at home as well like a week ago.... maybe I'm just being paranoid or am i right to be suspiscious?
He's always been a good kid and never done anythign bad really.

It's normal to suspicious and have to spoke to your older brother ? Or parents ?

[Desuetude]

I'd talk to your brother about it if you're worried, just to ease your mind if nothing else because from what you've seen it does look weird, his friends dad being there alone with him without his friend? I don't know, seems a bit weird.

It doesn't sound like he's doing anything bad and you haven't done anything wrong either. Just check up on him and make sure he's telling the truth, you can never be too sure, especially when loved ones are involved.

[lacey02]

I think because you wrote this that maybe you have concerns. I am not sure why, but if you do, you could talk with your bro about them and worst case is that he will know you care about him.

[phuckphace]

take no chances. mention it to the rents and keep an eye on him after that.

personally I would've asked "which friend?" and then hopped on Facebook for confirmation. if that doesn't check out then you've got your answer.

[StoppingTom]

Definitely ask which friend, you'd be able to tell pretty easily if he's lying or not.

[prepkid813]

Definitely ask friends and talk to parents

[Drewboyy]

You are completely over reacting. All these people who have been on the internet too long think that every little thing is a danger
If it concerns you that much though, then ask him again to make you feel better

[phuckphace]

You are completely over reacting. All these people who have been on the internet too long think that every little thing is a danger
If it concerns you that much though, then ask him again to make you feel better

dumb post, he has every justification he needs to be concerned by it. here in 2015 it's quite reasonable to assume that Gramps visiting lil Timmy isn't to play cards and share stories from the 'Nam

[Living For Love]

Tell your parents immediately. Better safe than sorry. Hopefully your brother was telling the truth, but I still think you should report what you've witnessed to an adult.

[thegreatgatz]

Be careful. I'd alert your parents

[Jinglebottom]

I'd ask him just in case...

[Uniquemind]

In this day and age, he could be in a bad circle, and could be influenced by a dark criminal element.

Or he could be a extortion victim himself (money extortion, drug extortion, stolen goods or illegal goods smuggling).

[Cadanance00]

This is a bad, bad sign. If there's any way to talk to your bro in a non-threatening way, do it. There's a lot of older guys who will pay a young kid to let them perform sex with them. I've had them offer and it's a creepy feeling. I hope he hasn't done it but if he has he needs your help to stop.

[phuckphace]

well OP it looks we're decided: it's time to go Sherlock on them and find out what mischief is afoot. in literally every single other case of riding home with a friend's parent ever, the friend comes along too. I can recall exactly one time a friend's dad dropped me off at home by himself, only because my friend goofed hard while I was over and got grounded. there's a chance this guy could be a creepus maximus from the rank underbelly of the Internet, and you don't want to take any risk of hearing in the news that your brother got molested/raped/killed by a pedo.

re: hurr you're overreacting - yeah okay sure there's a chance it's nothing. but there's also a chance that it's a big gross something.

[Zachary G]

Dont take any chances, first id pull lil bro aside and assure him that he can talk to you about anything and you will keep his confidence unless its something you feel might put him in harms way; second, if he doesnt open up to you and is adamant about his story of that being a friends dad, then i would definitely talk to parents about it just to put it out there for his safety and your own piece of mind. Dude, you gotta do what ya gotta do and dont feel guilty about it because you are doing it all out of love.

[LanaPole]

I would say this sounds very strange. it would be weird if youre NOT suspicious. you should ask your parents if they know the man. maybe it's someone your parents trust and you dont know him. it could be a coincidence, but if your parents know nothing, you should let them know whats going on and take it seriously.

[AutumnWinds]

honestly, i'm under the mind that you should always trust your instincts. if you think something is up, you should investigate. it's a lot easier for your bro to forgive you for embarrassing him because you care than for you to forgive yourself for not.

I've never been an overcaring older brother to my little bro, James, but something made me think today.

So usually on a Wednesday I have football training so i stay late after school, only this time it was shorter than normal. When I got home I saw this older guy like 30-40 coming out of my house, he said hi and got in his car and drove off.
I asked my bro who it was and he said it was just one of his friend's dads picking something up for him. I sorta believed him but was checking through his friends pics and didn't see this guy in any of them, i know that doesn't mean anything but......idk.
I remembered a few hours ago seeing him drop James off at home as well like a week ago.... maybe I'm just being paranoid or am i right to be suspiscious?
He's always been a good kid and never done anythign bad really.

[Sandybeaches]

Ok wow so alot of different things have been said here, overall i think I'm gonna talk tohim about, but just in a cool bro kinda way where i try not to make it seem weird.
1. I didn't even think about this guy being a rapist/murderer pedo D: thanks guys, i thought it might be like drugs or something so that's why I'm gonna talk to him
2. I'm not gonna tell my parents until i talk to him cuz if it's nothing to worry about then that's just not cool
3. I'm not gonna try and *trick* into telling me anything, just gonna ask straight questions really.

I hope it goes well and thanks for all the info and advice guys :)

[Hudor]

Ok wow so alot of different things have been said here, overall i think I'm gonna talk tohim about, but just in a cool bro kinda way where i try not to make it seem weird.
1. I didn't even think about this guy being a rapist/murderer pedo D: thanks guys, i thought it might be like drugs or something so that's why I'm gonna talk to him
2. I'm not gonna tell my parents until i talk to him cuz if it's nothing to worry about then that's just not cool
3. I'm not gonna try and *trick* into telling me anything, just gonna ask straight questions really.

I hope it goes well and thanks for all the info and advice guys :)

I agree. That's the right approach, seeing the evidence you have now isn't much to reach any definite conclusions.

[nwtnguy]

Talk to your parents

[Drewboyy]

dumb post, he has every justification he needs to be concerned by it. here in 2015 it's quite reasonable to assume that Gramps visiting lil Timmy isn't to play cards and share stories from the 'Nam

I'm sorry but are you reading the other comments?
They are all acting like it's a code red, call Batman, and press the big red button situation. If the kid is known to be well behaved and was taught to not open the door to strangers it's probably nothing. And the op said he saw the man drop someone off before, so he was known by the little brother and friend.

[Sandybeaches]

I'm sorry but are you reading the other comments?
They are all acting like it's a code red, call Batman, and press the big red button situation. If the kid is known to be well behaved and was taught to not open the door to strangers it's probably nothing. And the op said he saw the man drop someone off before, so he was known by the little brother and friend.

Okay so i spoke to my bro about it, not like a serious chat just asking who he was and what he was doing, but making sure to look out if he hesitated or lied in anyway.
But he was fine, just said it was his friends dad, his kid was ill and he was picking up some stuff for school.... I believe him too so i guess it was all for nothing.

Thanks everyone for being helpful tho, because it could have been something. It could have been something tiny or it could have been something major so i'm really glad of all the hlep even tho it was innocent :D

[Cadanance00]

I'm not saying get paranoid, but trust your gut. If the situation looks suspicious don't give up trying to find out what's going on. I've had older men come on to me and offer me money to let them give me a bj, and they were really nice about it and they were persistent, so don't write that off as a possibility.

[AutumnWinds]

Okay so i spoke to my bro about it, not like a serious chat just asking who he was and what he was doing, but making sure to look out if he hesitated or lied in anyway.
But he was fine, just said it was his friends dad, his kid was ill and he was picking up some stuff for school.... I believe him too so i guess it was all for nothing.

Thanks everyone for being helpful tho, because it could have been something. It could have been something tiny or it could have been something major so i'm really glad of all the hlep even tho it was innocent :D


i'm really glad you looked into it. it;=;s always better to be safe than sorry. :)

[Second Chance]

There could be a chance the older guy could be who your brother says he is, but if you never have seen him around before, then I totally agree with the others that you should pursue this. If you ever see the guy around again, then get his license plate number and make and model of his car as well as a physical description of the guy. It probably would not hurt to discreetly take a photograph of the guy so that if something is wrong you have something to show the police so that they can run that information through their databases. I read something about this one kid who met some older person through Xbox or Playstation, and the older person was grooming the younger person and ultimately lured him to his house of horrors and killed him. A lot of times young kids (assuming your brother is younger than you) do not fully understand the danger out there and get really impressed when an older person takes an interest in them without understanding that such interest can sometimes be a bad one.

I find it unusual that the guy actually went into your house as opposed to waiting at the front door which itself can be a warning sign. Your family should definitely check into your brother's social media accounts, gaming accounts, and his computer/tablet/electronic devices to make sure he does not have a second account hidden somewhere getting into contact with people who could take advantage of him for all sorts of reasons.

I would still talk to your parents about this situation because if this older person comes by when no one is home, then there is something dodgy about the situation. Hopefully, everything is all right with the older guy, but even your brother might have innocent thoughts about this fellow when in fact the guy is not so good.

[Uniquemind]

There could be a chance the older guy could be who your brother says he is, but if you never have seen him around before, then I totally agree with the others that you should pursue this. If you ever see the guy around again, then get his license plate number and make and model of his car as well as a physical description of the guy. It probably would not hurt to discreetly take a photograph of the guy so that if something is wrong you have something to show the police so that they can run that information through their databases. I read something about this one kid who met some older person through Xbox or Playstation, and the older person was grooming the younger person and ultimately lured him to his house of horrors and killed him. A lot of times young kids (assuming your brother is younger than you) do not fully understand the danger out there and get really impressed when an older person takes an interest in them without understanding that such interest can sometimes be a bad one.

I find it unusual that the guy actually went into your house as opposed to waiting at the front door which itself can be a warning sign. Your family should definitely check into your brother's social media accounts, gaming accounts, and his computer/tablet/electronic devices to make sure he does not have a second account hidden somewhere getting into contact with people who could take advantage of him for all sorts of reasons.

I would still talk to your parents about this situation because if this older person comes by when no one is home, then there is something dodgy about the situation. Hopefully, everything is all right with the older guy, but even your brother might have innocent thoughts about this fellow when in fact the guy is not so good.

I'm gonna have to second this piece of advice, I know I said proceed with caution, but this person has clarified in more specific terms of what I meant by my previous post in this thread.


I'm sorry but are you reading the other comments?
They are all acting like it's a code red, call Batman, and press the big red button situation. If the kid is known to be well behaved and was taught to not open the door to strangers it's probably nothing. And the op said he saw the man drop someone off before, so he was known by the little brother and friend.

But batman's awesome and he always covers his behind, and at the end of the day he survives. Which is the objective of the whole OP, not political correctness or anything else, survival and survival alone.